I'm 24 now. I haven't spoke to my mother in six years. She chose her boyfriend over me. She don't even know her grandkids. My parents are not together anymore and my father keeps telling me its her lost. Just before I left she keep showing hate towards me because she thought I'd take her boyfriend. He's in prison now. I could go on and on about the problem. My brothers and sisters think I should give her another chance. After all these years and all that she done to me I just can't. I don't know what to do.
2007-03-01 15:02:46 · 11 answers · asked by Tara Elaine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She still don't try to talk to me. In fact now that she knows my lift goes well. She off on the side lines trys to ruin it. ( Like telling S.R.S. that I have a mental problem and can't take care of my kids) Of course S.R.S thinks shes crazy. My bother and Sister tell me all kinds of things she says about me.
2007-03-02 01:58:10 · update #1
She also had her rights as a parent taken away after 17 acounts of abuse. I haven't seen my half bothers in five years. They have been put up for adoption. (5 @ 9 years old). She don't care because they gave her a chance to get them back by getting rid of there father her boyfriend for sexually abuseing them but she wouldn't. Whats that tell how the hell I'm I selfish.
2007-03-02 02:03:15 · update #2
Im sorry that youre mom did that too you. She doesnt sound quite right. We always love our parents though dont we? Question. Do you want her to have a chance at hurting your children? She sounds awful and it sounds like you have got a good life going on without her. I would wait. From what youve said it isnt her thats trying to start a relationship. She sounds like poison.
2007-03-01 15:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am sure you have heard this all before...but i will just say it again because it is what i know from my life....
life is way too short.... i had a very messed up life...and only until i met my husband did it change..anyway... i lost 2 brothers... my mother has done what your mom did our whole lives....choosing guys over her kids and what not..but.. if somethingg should happen to her..and i want you to really sit down and think about this... like seriously...if something happened to her...and you never got that last chance to say those things that you would think about your whole life after...how would you feel? look...s#@t happens. no one is perfect...not even you... you will make mistakes..and you will make your kids mad...would you want to never hear from your kids again? all i know is...once someone is gone..that is it..you can never go back and fix things... i don't know the whole thing...only you do..and that is your side of it... she might have seen it in a different light... 6 yrs ago you were 18... maybe she thought she was finally able to have a bf now that you were grown up.... i don't' know..like i said i don't know the whole story..but...mothers love never dies...and you are a mom...you will understand that statement... just forgive her..and realize...that is her and you can't change her..and she might do it again...but just love her...and your kids...i wish you luck..
2007-03-01 16:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by bimmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut Up you enjoy the pain you wallow in it because it's comfortable and you and the rest of the family have something to gossip about. She chose her boyfriend over you? Really and you were gonna meet her needs as a woman how? Do you have a penis? No? Well a single adult woman ,even though she had an 18 yo daughter, has needs and you sound as if you didn't want her to have them needs fulfilled although since you got kids yours were being taken care of...can you say selfish brat? I knew you could. Grow up! Talk to her or don't but give up the dramatic pity party already.
2007-03-01 17:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by older_fat_male 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't really know the situation (s) that have brought you and your mom to the place that you are at and therefore cannot make a judgement because of the little information that was given. BUt one thing I would like you to consider at a 24 y-o and that is your mom's happiness. Remember that you are a grown woman who is moving on with her life and it's just selfish when adult kids think that their parents are putting a significant other over them. Remember that your mom can't marry YOU neither you can't love her in the intimate way that she would want to be loved. Just remember that.............
2007-03-01 16:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough decision for you. i would follow my heart. I have a situation where I can't forgive also. I won't post the question regarding my situation because I know deep in my heart that I am not ready to JUST FORGIVE AND FORGET as we are taught to do. Time will tell for both of us. Just follow your own instincts and your decision will come in time. Good Luck.
2007-03-01 15:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you should just do whats best for you and the family you have (your kids). Listen to your own instincts and take care of yourself and kids. Dont let anyone force you into something youre not ready to handle.
2007-03-01 16:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the way i feel about my father...he left when i was 4yrs.
old.. tried to come back when i was 14yrs. old....i told him then
i didn't know him and couldn't try.. I had already had a
step father-- THAT WAS MY FATHER--- he apologized...
and asked me for another chance..... I said no.....
found out later---- he was hurting cause he didn't
have no one to take care of him in his bad health...
no one that cared.... enough to give...
he blew his chance for a family..... if your going to be a
parent act like one....
2007-03-01 15:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not say if your Mother was trying to start a new relationship with you... If not,I would forgive her anyway and go on with your life. Your Dad is right,it is her lost!
2007-03-01 15:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've got to learn to forgive, you should do it soon your depriving your children of a grandmother,in the long run you are hurting yourself, your wasting time on stupid fight .what if she died tom morrow, would you be OK with it , knowing your kids never met her and that you didn't say , mom
'i forgive you and i love you
'life's to short to stay mad all the time,your kids are learning from you, what if you did something your kids didn't like, and they refused to talk to you for years?would you be able to handle that?all i know is my mom is very important to me-and we only get one, love her for as long as you can
2007-03-01 15:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just try to give ger a second chance its ur kids who might be missin out though hope u chose the path ur heart wants
2007-03-01 16:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by staceydv4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋