ok, last time i told all of you about my gf. if you don't know what im talking about, i wil explain again. ok this is how it goes, my gf whos 23 years old, i been dating for a while now. anyway before she dated me, she had a ex bf, and they made the choice to have a baby, but broke up a few weeks later. anyway she told me she was going to have a baby thats not even mine!. we never had sex, and she said shes going to keep the baby. anyway i came here and asked for advice, and i told her how i felt. i said im glad shes keeping the baby, and im still going to be with her, i love her, and i will help her take care of the baby. im 18, and my 23 year old gf is having a baby thats not mine, but i made the choice to stay. i got a job, and i can help her if she needs it. were not getitng married, and she said shes never going to see her ex again. i love her, and if that means baby sitting the baby if she has to go somewhere, i won't mind. what are your thoughts on this? and be 100% honest.
2007-03-01 14:40:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is.....a great choice u made!!!! u are very gentle! anyway...feel proud of urself! if u're not with her...who might see and take care of her! she is absolutely the luckiest woman in this world! hey, i'm proud of u! let me give some advice! if u choose this life, then be prepared for everything that's gonna be around u! some obstacle are laughing at u now! but, never give up!!!! rule ur life!!!!!!
2007-03-01 14:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first and foremost, let me say that you sound like a great and supportive boyfriend to have, especially at such a young age, and she is probably going through a lot of emotion difficulties right now. Secondly, I think that while it will be a huge challenge to raise a kid (this may be sacrificing money, time with your friends, etc.), you will definitely be prepared later in life to have kids when the time is right.
Also, be prepared to ask questions about being the "daddy", etc.
Good luck and I hope everything works out well for you, your GF, and the baby! ;-)
2007-03-01 22:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy you are a standup guy. And you would probably make a great father. But you ain't getting married then your getting rode. If you're happy with the situation thats fine. If your just the designated baby sitter. Then wise up and move on because you just landed in the complete freaking idiot zone. But I really hope things work out for you. Regardless keep being the great person you are! The world needs more guys like you. A lot of guys out there are just making us look bad.
2007-03-01 22:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well shes obviously dated you for less than 9 months, which is not a while. I would say you should let her go. Stay friends with her and offer her emotional support, but do not stay with her as a boyfriend/husband. youre 18 and have a lot to learn, (well all do btw) think about it, because if you were together even 5 years, and you roke it off, she could request child support from you. Its a huge commitment. I think you should stick around her life, but not completely be a part of it.
2007-03-01 22:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by jolly roger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. If you've made the choice to stand by her and if you love her as much as you seem to and if you're ready to look after a new human being then good for you. It's a lot to take on at such a young age, i'm 18 and i probably couldn't do it but if you feel you're ready for that sort of committment then well done. Being mature enough to make such a decision and stand by it takes a lot of character.
2007-03-01 22:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a little brother your age who got with a girl that had kids. and it's great that you want to be there and all but your young and you don't have obligations to this baby or to the girl to support her.you should go out have your fun and taste life.dispite what she says thats her baby's father and for the rest of that baby's life they will have to some kind of contact. but you say you love her so ??? do what you feel is right in your heart
2007-03-01 23:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by meenie_is_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it sounds like she is using you. make sure you know that she feels the same way about you before you make any serious commitments to her.
best of luck.
2007-03-01 22:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋