Well I have been dating a guy I met online, well sort of met online. He is a friend of a friend an he introduced us then we started talking online an eventually dating. He lives local to me not even 2 miles away I have been to his house tons of times in the last 3 months, all times of day, usually spending the night. It's a typical bachelor pad. Well today with a little snooping on public record search site I find out he’s married. It's him on the site thats a fact everything matches up. My friend that introduced us knows nothing of him being married. He said he has never seen him go on more then a couple dates in a # of years. Well he got married to a girl 19 years his junior, which is 1 year younger then me just over a year ago. I haven’t seen hide nor hair of a wife in all this time. I know most his friends and nothing suggests there is a wife. I know for a fact they were married and there is no public documents to show a divorce. What am I to think of this? I’m confused....
2007-03-01 14:29:32 · 5 answers · asked by Mesa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, there is no wife as far as I'm concerned. I haven’t seen one, no sign of one. Nothing to suggest it other then the papers I found. Should I ask him what the deal is? Did they get a annulment or is she locked up in jail somewhere?
2007-03-01 14:39:30 · update #1
The site is a court records site, it has his address, DOB and other info IT'S HIM.
2007-03-01 14:40:57 · update #2
I was only searching because I just foudn the site today and thought it was cool, I looked up damn near everyone I knew... I wasn't looking just to find something on him.. I do know he was married once before but that was 20 years ago. This marraige was just last year.
2007-03-01 14:42:30 · update #3
Why were you snooping? Obviously you feel something fishy is going on...Honestly, you may not even want to know what's going on. Whatever it is, it's not healthy. If he's hiding things from you, move on. There are plenty more men out there who won't play games with your head.
If you feel there is real potential, you could confront him about it...but be prepared to answer questions about why you were snooping, why you don't trust him, etc. If you KNOW he's married, it's probably safer to just end it now.
Good luck, whatever you decide.
2007-03-01 14:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Katy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is choice time for you. You can cut him off and move on, thus getting on with a better quality of life, or you can try and get him away from the wife (which usually never works). Your choice.
2007-03-01 14:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Zenawoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him. if he doesnt like the fact that your snooping on a public records site, then he is obviously married and a loser. therefore, you should dump him and then go tell his wife.
2007-03-01 14:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe that site you found him is from a long time age or a guy that really looks like a twin to him......ask him about it or send a message as another person on the site you found him on and say you wanna get to know him
2007-03-01 14:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by chaosshade16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a smack upside the head! Whack! What do you think you should do! If he's married call up his wife and tell her your pregnant. That way she'll go to prison for murder and not you!
Truthfully, find out for sure. Then dump him if he is. If you can't find out then dump him anyway.
2007-03-01 14:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋