Help Please! I'm confused about this guy! What do I do?

Question

I've known this guy since we were little(we went to the same old church) and we both recently moved to the same diff. church and became friends.I had thought he was cute before this but 2 weeks ago we went on a field trip with the youth group.

It was a mass and then a talk. At mass we sat by each other and when we said the "Our Father" he interlocked fingers with me but I didn't think anything of it then.

At the talk there was crazy cold ac breeze blowing on us, after about 10 minutes he casually put his arm around me. He would take his arm away to clap but always put it back. I ended laying my head on his shoulder and we held hands(and he also would rub my hand w/ his thumb too).

Then on the bus he gave me his jacket and held me while I laid at his side.

Ever since then he hasn't said anything but he acts like he might like me and he told my friend that he did and wanted to but he was nervous since we had known each other for a while. What should I do? Its been 2 weeks!

Answer 1

Ah to be young & scared. As a guy I can tell you that I would bet everything I have he does like you but doesnt want or know how to tell you. See in my case & it sounds like this guy is similar its hard enough to tell someone maybe even the fear of "the one" but there's also the fear that it will change things or hurt the friendship not to mention the rejection if you dont feel the same. Even at 30 I suffer with all those things especially since the woman that I saw forever with apparently didnt feel the same or that we couldnt be friends because I cared & while I wanted to be friends again since life had taken us in different paths but they crossed again all I wanted was the friendship back & so did she. Sure it would have been nice if she felt the same or it lead to more but I always knew it likely wouldnt but still I wanted & could be friends but she ran aways scared I guess & maybe your friend is afraid you will to. Its nothing personal but you would be suprised how many guys especailly those who truly care about someone are faced with the person being so scared they might end up running or ruining the friendship instead. Relationships even friendships aren't easy but especially for a guy & especially if he isn't good at opening up or thinks you might be the one it's that much harder. I would guess he's afraid could be several reasons but most likely I would bet he doesnt know how you feel or that you might not want to be friends just because he cares about you & maybe wants to be your boyfriend. He could think that if he mentions it you might rush to think the worst about him or that its something sexual which in most cases he would have already tried long ago if that's what he wanted but didnt because he really likes you. Dont run talk to him & its ok to still be friends even if you dont feel the same or want him as a bf or want a bf right now. Most guys cant be just friends but the good ones can because they actually do care & just want her to be happy. :) Goodluck

Answer 2

Well...you could keep waiting. Trust me, he probably IS very nervous. He's probably worrying about what you'll say, how you'll react, etc...like if you say no, has he just lost a good friend? In the grand scheme of things, 2 weeks is not that long. It may be longer than you want to wait...but it will be so worth it when he does come around to asking you (which I gather he will, from what you've described).

If you decide you can't wait that long...bring up the subject. Ask him how he feels about you...if he thinks you two might be more than friends. I know it's hard...but the worst thing he could say is "no." And while it might seem like that could be the "end all" for you...it won't be. You've got plenty of time (and plenty of boys :) ) ahead of you.

Answer 3

Don;t know how old you are but I can remember those days....

You need to know that most guys are pretty insecure....and need a little encouragement and it sounds like you are both a little shy.
Try to picture how hard it was for him to do the small things he did to show you he is interested. Maybe he is waiting for some sign from you.

Guys respond to compliments, and something you say that makes him feel you like who he is....so watch for the opportunity...he's already shown you he likes you.

Being in a youth group you can also follow it up by getting him to do something with you in the group....ask him to help you in some way....that gives you a chance to do things together and for him to feel more comfortable. Be a little more friendly with him, smile at him...etc...so he gets the message you like him too.

Sometimes it is the girl who has to encourage him ...just talk to him more....invite him to something that would be comfortable for you both....maybe with some other friends...like going to a game, ...have an extra ticket?....etc.

Answer 4

Take it slow he is probably wondering the same thing about you. I am sure he has been feeling different things about you too. Friendship is a great way to start a relationship. Go to Mass, help out during fund raisers. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Well, right now, he's just feeling a little awkward. You're going to have to be the one to just pretend like nothing happened - - cause it seems like that's just kinda what he needs right now. Just be like "Hey so & so! What's up?" He'll come around. He just doesn't know how to act right now. wArNiNg= if you guys get way TOO serious and he feels to awkward... you guys might become farther apart from eachother then close.
Loves. Lots of Luck.

Answer 6

All you need to do is tell him you like him. That gesture usually
breaks the ice and he should respond to you. Don't put too much into his actions until you know how he feels about you.

Answer 7

the same thing happened to me the church thing to. are your families close together? if so he likes you alot i can tell by your details. but what he is probably thinking is what will happen if yall break up hes thinking about the future. if you 2 break up you might not have a sttrong friend ship anymore. to me it sounds like he is confused he will turn around soon if god beleives its ment to be.
i wish you the best

Answer 8

Are you insane?? This guy wants you so bad! He's holding your hand and giving you his jacket! Make a move girl, ask him out. I don't know why you've waited so long, hurry or he might think you're not interested.

Answer 9

ask him & quick! wen he does that that only means 1 thing togetherness i bet he is cute 2 just do i have been through this 4 a long time believe me!
kk by & luv ya

Answer 10

well..ask him out..it's the least you can do. you should take control since he's not. that will make him compelled to take action and become a man and you can say you asked a guy out and he said yes. it's a good feeling. cause people are like...really???