I am a 32 year-old guy who's been single for a while - mostly because I'm picky...very few women attract me from a physical standpoint. All of my ex-girlfriends have been about the same age as me and I've never dated anyone who was much younger than me.
Recently I met a girl who is only 19 and I had an instant attraction to her. The ironic thing about it is that it was on Valentine's Day! I did feel some good chemistry coming from her too and we had a nice chat while she was at work. But I was a little shy about asking for her number or asking her out on a date because I felt that she might think I was too old for her (even though I didn't ask). I'm 32 and she is 19.
I haven't seen her since Valentine's Day (which is two weeks ago now) but haven't been able to get her out of my mind since then. Should I go back to the store she works at and ask her for her number? Or is she too young for me?
FYI...I'm not a perv - I'm looking for a serious relationship.
2007-03-01 14:06:36 · 17 answers · asked by jimmyd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In all likelihood...yes, you are too old for her...if you're wanting something serious anyways. (This is all an assumption, but I'm betting I'm right) You've been out in the world for a while....you've had serious relationships, you've probably got a job you're planning on being at for a while....you've most likely got a pretty good idea of who you are.
She doesn't. Even if she thinks she does...she doesn't. If you do ask her out...she may say yes simply because it's a little "exotic" to date an older man...a little rebellious, and we all get a kick out of that little adrenaline rush that being rebellious gives us. And at first it could be great....you'd probably be the first guy she's f***'ed that lasted longer than 3 minutes...you can maybe converse on subjects other than the best way to bong a beer...and by now, you've learned how to do your own laundry. But...give it some time. It'll be weird introducing you to her friends, her parents...unless they're unusually open-minded. If you decide to move, she'll likely be mooching off of you for a good while, which will eventually piss you off.
In short...it will be bad. As an 18 yo, I dated a 32 yo for a year. It ruined my relationship with my parents and put me into therapy. I'm not saying dating girls younger than you is bad...(I prefer older men myself)...but an age gap like that is going to be trouble, even if you can deal with it. I would suggest laying her if you like, but don't try to make it serious...and don't let her think it's serious.....it ends up being too much heartache in the end.
2007-03-01 14:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Katy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young Girl Old Guy
2016-10-31 00:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe she is too young for you. Many people have an age conflict in relationships. The bad part about a question like this, is that YOU must choose what to do in a situation. If you feel like it is the type feeling that will not go away until you contact her, then do so. She may even feel that you are too old for her. Worse case senerio, doesn't hurt to try.
2007-03-01 14:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by qtfootsies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a 21 year old woman who is well versed in the social stigma of relationships with older men, no this girl is not too young for you. If you see something in her that makes you forget she's 13 years younger than you and you can both deal with "public interest" your relationship will create then go for it. Pursue her.
2007-03-01 14:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kristina B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so,theres a 13 yrs difference.so what.hell iam 58 and my girlfriend is 37.try figuring that up.as long as you both are legal age and know what you want and get along good,then theres not 1 thing wrong with it.how does she feel towards you?does she think your too old for you?what you both need to do is get togeather and talk things out and mor or less put your cards on the table.
2007-03-01 14:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... thats weird... shes only 19. shes still a teenager and youre an adult. you need to date someone who is alot closer to her age. if you get married... then youre gonna be like, 60 and shes gonna be 47. and besides, since shes 19 i doubt that shes looking for a serious relationship. shes probably still in school too! i dont think that this is a good match. you need to find someone closer to your age. you shouldnt be picky because of what the girls look like. thats crappy. you should base it on how their personality is. theres tons of girls out there that would like, amaze you (and be closer to your age) who are not absolutely jaw-dropping gorgeous. try looking at personality instead of looks. what if a girl that youre physically atracted to is a total beeeotch? hmmm?
2007-03-01 14:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by bulletprooflonliness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, she's a bit young. Your 32 and been around the block, she's just to young. She probably isn't that mature, being only 19, look elsewhere. Sorry, not what you wanted to hear. Good Luck!
2007-03-01 14:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a 19 year old is considered an adult. So I dont see any problem. But, question is .....would SHE think you too old for her? Go and ask her out it doesnt hurt to ask her if she would like to go out to dinner or something. Good Luck
2007-03-01 14:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no age for love. If you like her and she likes you why not engage in a relationship. Besides she is over 18 and knows what she is doing.
2007-03-01 14:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by latinlady 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well..u know what they say "age ain't nothing but a number"...sadly ppl will always judge no matter what..so if both u and her are happy and are willing to defend ur relationship to just about everyone you meet..then i say go for it!
2007-03-01 14:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by M V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋