2007-03-01 13:49:55 · 20 answers · asked by sally d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't "have to" if you don't want to; however, it is customary.
2007-03-01 13:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Terri J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One is never required to buy a gift, as it's your money to spend how you see fit.
But it is expected that everyone that attends the wedding, part of the bridal party or not will bring a gift of some sort for the newlyweds.
If you've had to spend a lot of money already on the bridal party stuff, get something cheap but nice like a frame or photo album. I personally like to give the large frames that have the mats so you can fit 6 to 9 pictures in it.
2007-03-01 13:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to ... but you certainly should! I know you are spending a lot of money by being in the wedding, so maybe you could make an inexpensive meaningful homemade gift that would be much more special than an expensive gift you can't afford with no meaning behind it.
2007-03-01 16:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Advice Please 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not HAVE to, but why wouldn't you want to for your friend. I mean, if you agreed to be in the wedding, you must be close.
If finances are an issue, see if you can go in with the other bridesmaids. I'm sure they are strapped too.
You can also talk to the bride. She is your friend, she will understand. Explain that you cannot afford a gift for every shower(especially if you are helping to host them) and that you are assisting with the bachelorette party, but you would like to give ONE great gift in honor of their wedding.
Please speak up now before you resent the bride and groom, and there are hurt feelings between you and the couple.
I know,i was in the same situation with a friend of mine. But me and another bridesmaid went in for ONE shower gift together and then me and my boyfriend at the time(now husband), went in on the wedding gift. The couple totally understood.
2007-03-01 14:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you usually give your gift during the bacheloreate party if there is one. If no party, then yes you should give a small gift as a friend as they (the couple) should give a thank you gift. Yes wedding are expensive; but if this is an issue you may be excused from buying a gift -- tell them that I said so:)
2007-03-01 13:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Quest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of the guests "has" to buy a gift, but being a member of the bridal party isn't a substitute for one.
2007-03-01 13:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
being a part of the bridal party means you must be special. getting a gift from you would be special to the couple! we didnt get a gift from a couple of our attendants which didnt make us mad but it would have been special to us if we did. it doesnt need to be anything huge, just something with meaning or useful!
2007-03-01 14:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by har 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything its what you want to do. If I was you I would buy them something just because its nice and they do have you in their wedding so it would make a lot of sense if you bought them a gift even if its small. A gift is a gift. A present from your heart or just cause you can afford it. lololol
2007-03-01 13:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Myke Jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Plan on spending around $300-$600, between the dress, showers, bachlorette party and wedding gift. Don't worry, she'll have to do it for you too.
2007-03-04 20:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there really a situation where you can't afford one or are you just being cheap? As a bride to be I think most people have a pretty good idea what people can afford vs what they choose to buy, if you can't afford to buy anything big then don't but do buy something.
2007-03-01 15:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ESPECIALLY being part of a bridal party. Yeah, you MUST buy a gift.
2007-03-01 13:57:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋