I have been going out with this guy for about a year and in this time he has lied to me about things and every couple of weeks without fail he lies again even after promising me that he won't hurt me again with his lies.
I now can't trust him and he knows this and all he says to me is that he hasn't done it for how long and that he promises to me he won't do it again. Can I believe him and should i give him the benefit of the doubt.
He also tells me he loves me and doesn't want to lose me.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2007-03-01 13:21:43 · 5 answers · asked by golden tigress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way to answer your question is to pretend your best friend was in your situation, what would you tell her.
2007-03-01 13:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by bettysmailbox3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. This feels horrible to you. The bare fact that you felt the need to ask is your answer. You know it inside, your just looking for validation. You have it. He will lie over and over to you until you walk. I know you may not feel it right now, but he is really disrespecting you and you are also by being with him. This is nto the guy you want to marry. This is not the guy you want to have children with or have the children learn it is alright to lie cus your allways forgiven and all his actions are alright. Cus that is what your telling him and others by staying. I know it is one of the hardest things you have to do. YOu just need to trust yourself. You know inside your heart the truth even though you want to doubt it. You want to believe his love for you will make him change. Nothing makes anyone change except themself. That happens when there is reprocusions from choices made. HE has NONE right now. You need to be good to you. Do you really feel you deserve such a hurtful relationship. I dont think you do and I dont even know you.It will hurt so much and it will take time. Just keep reminding yourself of reality not the fantasy of what he says or the times he is being sorry. The truth of the fact the fact of all the lies. Your not being good to you and no he wont stop. Love you walk. Then heal your own heart from the feelings that will come from staying with someone like him. The smile when you look up and someone awesome is there to love you as much as you love them. To respect you as you do you and as you do them. To cherish you and to marry you in a way that is healthy and that you deserve. Be good to you.
2007-03-01 13:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar and won't change. Dump him ASAP and don't take him back. Trust is a cornerstone of a relationship and you don't have that with this jerk. Move on and find somebody better.
2007-03-01 13:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right, and I would quickly kick him to the curb. Your in for nothing but lies and heartbreak. Once the trust is gone, that's it. Sorry......................
2007-03-01 13:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, YES, YES he will lie again and again.
2007-03-01 13:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Glenda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋