I need help!!! Did I do the right thing???

Question

There is a guy that I really like and almost 100% positive he likes me too. So today, I gave him a note asking him if maybe he'd want to help me with my bass this weekend and then maybe hang out at the mall afterwards. The only problem is that he has a girlfriend, so I was wondering if it was a bad idea to give him the note or not. The last week we've been MAJORLY flirting, and I got him looking at his girlfriend, then me, then gf, then me like back and fourth at least six times-so I know the thought of breaking up with her has most likely crossed his mind.

Okay, I should have said some things b4, I only intend to be friends and he's the one who starting flirting first and he started before he started going out with his gf.

Answer 1

Don't start anything yet. You can give him an idea that you like him, but don't let him have both of you. Once you let him know, he will choose. Either dump his girlfriend to be with you. If he stays with his girlfriend then he must like her more then you, and just let them be.

Answer 2

I am going to be very honest with you. What is done is done and you can not undo it so accept it. It does not matter if it was right or wrong right now b/c you can not alter it. What you may want to think about is the way you want to be all the time. What if you were his gf and some other girl did that with him. How would you feel. Do you want to be that person in her life? So what if he dumps her and comes to you. You already know that he'll do the same to you with someone else then when he has the chance. So with that in mind what type of person do you want to be? Is it worth it to really demoralize yourself to have a guy like you? You want to like you right. Your special trust me b/c you proved it by asking. So that tells me that you know inside it was not a nice thing to do. You know that you are not happy with doing it and you feel uncomfortable with you for doing it. So now you know how it feels to do that, you pick if you want to feel that way again. Also figure out how you would feel if he does dump her and comes to you and you have to see her all the time. You know it will hurt her and if you were her you would be hurt by you. You would not be happy. So it is okay that you did it and that you feel a bit bad b/c you can learn something from it. You like him great, but like you first. The rest will come. You deserve the best.

Answer 3

ok this is an unfortunate problem. but i know what you need to do...ok heres whats up. this guys you say is flirting all the time and you are to but he has a gf. but all you asked him 2 do was to hang out. if you really think about it its not bad. you guys are friends and friends hang out so is not like you are crossing the line. no i know you may like him a lot but if he is having second thoughts about his gf then thats his business. let him take some time to think about his life and get his head straite. he cant be going back and fourth between you two. its not fair to you or her. so keep being a friend and flirting but i think that you need to sit down with him and figure it out. see where things are going. otherwise he might end up just using you and going with his gf. becareful but still have fun. don't letone boy ruin your life.

good luck!!
hope i helped
:)

Answer 4

Dating rule #1: A boy who has a girlfriend is off limits. No exceptions. If he breaks up with her, give him some time to get his bearings (nothing worse than a rebound, believe me) and then game on.

If he answers the note and wants to hang out, make a conscious decision to do so just as friends. He has a girlfriend, he has a girlfriend, he has a girlfriend!

Answer 5

Its great that you've got the goods to be able to flirt like that. But be ready for the backlash that his girlfriend is probably going to dish out on you. And by the way, why would you want to date some one who your witnessing first hand dog his girl for you, your setting yourself up for your own downfall later on if you two start dating. He might do it to you.

Answer 6

You reap what you so. Just remember someone may break up with you someday for someone elese. Thats not right. You need to grow up and find your own man. The only reason he is probably thinking about breaking up with his girlfriend is because of you.I hope you sleep well tonight Heartbreaker

Answer 7

In my opinion, it is wrong to be with someone when they are with someone else. Just make sure that your "friendship" doesn't become more than friendship before he does break up with his girlfriend, if he does. Maybe talk to him and tell him how you feel.

I dont think you should have gave him a note. Its kind of junior-high. Next time just talk to him :)

Answer 8

red flag... being Friends is cool if that's all you want, taking another girls man is messed up.... seriously now stop! if he isn't happy with his girl Friend then mayby he'll break up with her but your acting as a seductress here.... stop flirting with him, be freindly but dont do this to yourself or him.. it will cause a lot of drama... if this boy is truely a gentelmen you are putting him in a terrable possition...... back off the boy ... the notes not bad but only be freinds with him, dont flirt and dotn try to make him your man.......

Answer 9

As long as he is not married, just go for it. If he is not comfortable with his present gf, then maybe he should be looking around. After all, the choice is his.Good Luck.

Answer 10

same s**t happend to me..it ended up in a strange way..hehe..we r going out for 1 month now..but it might now be the same for him n you remember not all guys r the same..and it awsnt wrong passing him that note you guys r just hanging out..hopefully..lol..so dont worry.

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