for the past couple months i've been kinda curious about wether or not im straight or bi. well now im pretty sure that i am bi. how should i tell my bf.......im kinda afraid about how he will act because he is a christian and i know that most of the people in his family are against tha kind of stuff but im not sure how he feels about it......so what would be a good way 2 tell him??
and please dont say that i dont have 2 tell him because i know that i probably dont but i want 2.
2007-03-01 13:14:48 · 12 answers · asked by the idiot down the road 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You definitely should tell him because he has the right to know. I'm not knocking your decision at all - be happy with who you are - but because he has some strong views on this, he should be allowed to make his decision as well.
Plus honesty in a relationship is always the best policy because it shows trust. Not only that he can trust you, but that you trust in him to be able to be open and share your thoughts, feelings, and 'curiosities' with him.
Talk to him, be open and honest, and let him make up his own mind because he deserves it.
2007-03-01 13:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now, are you sure you are bi or do you think you are. Being open and curious about other women isnt a big deal and it doesnt make you bi, im pretty sure all of us have, so until you think you could get as emotionally attached and attracted to a woman and are in a relationship with one, i would keep it from your bf, plus, if you did tell him and he didnt accept you for it than he really isnt the one for you
2007-03-01 13:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by the_sky_is_my_sanctuary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if you are bi that you have a choice in this. Telling your boyfriend is going to be the easy part. Being gay/lesbian is a very hard road to walk down and most who are would rather be straight. Like one of my friends said, "Who'd choose this life for themselves?" I've been a floral designer in a flower shop most of my life so I know lots of gays from there and I have a sister who is a lesbian totally. She would so like to be like our other sister and I and have a nice family but that was not an option for her. She has led such an unhappy life it just kills me to think about her. She's been in therapy for 25 years. Know that most people who you deal with in life will disrespect you because of this. I know people in both the L & G community who've had the most awful things happen to them. Men think if they rape you, you will suddenly decide you love sex with them and they can save you. I'm not talking about one person this has happened to but several of my sister's friends. It's fairly normal to have nasty stuff painted on your house or car during the night. I know from all the movies and sit coms, you are thinking this is pretty normal and accepted but believe me it is not. You might as well decide right now to learn to live with rejection and having your feelings hurt constantly or worse. I don't think I know very many who haven't been beaten up outside bars or their own homes. I'm so sorry you are being pulled into this. You are young and just can't imagine. Do you know that gays and lesbians have the highest sucide rate in the world? We've often talked about how weird that the word gay is applied to the most unhappy segment of society. Think very hard before you make this choice. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-03-01 13:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you love your bf you should tel him . If he loves you he will accept you for who u r ,but on the other hand you have to think about his religion you know. That's a sin . but maybe this is how u feel for right now , u might want to get married and have kids someday. so u should talk to him don't hide it because it might hurt him.
2007-03-01 13:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Trying2BeCute85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, but tell him that this won't affet your relationship, unless he wants it too. Make sure he knows this isn't you telling him you want to break up. Theres only one way to tell him, and theres no telling in what he'll say. Just hope for the best!
2007-03-01 13:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the best of both world, tell your bf you like girls, just like he does. If he is like me, he dreams of a three-way, in a guys case, two women and himself. Of course you and your gf have to be willing.
2007-03-01 13:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by free_mumia_or_else 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think U should tell him but i mean just tell him but ask if he does not like u any more 4 that but if so ask if u can still b friends because it is always nice to no that there is someone who cares 'bout u!
2007-03-01 13:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by A M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are not sure how he feels about that a good place to start would be to ask him what his opinion on it is.....discuss it with him.....then you can work your feelings into the conversation
2007-03-01 13:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by mystic_whispers_of_my_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him and it might work out to be a 3 some ... that might be fun....
2007-03-01 13:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by fred Flintstone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him strat up. if he loves u hell accept it. and if he dumps u. then honey he not worth ur time or energy.
2007-03-01 13:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋