well my mom went back to college and ever since she has been acting weird and she stoped going to church. well my dad went to rehab about 3 days ago and cleaned himself up from painkillers. and here my mom is now decided to run off everyday and blow him off even though he does everyting for her. my dad is a great dad and she told him he is the worst dad. just now my dad went over my moms sisters house my aunt to stay there for a while cause he is so confused and is hurting inside. and cried with me for about 1 hr think about wat to do. so my mom is now trying to win my approval but i love my dad dealy. wat should i do i love both of my parents the same and it kills me to see them like this plz help how should i act with them and what might happen next so i now ahead of time thank u all who answer i will pray for everyone of u
2007-03-01 12:58:17 · 10 answers · asked by Jacob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is always difficult when parents are headed for divorcing and the children are there to witness it.
But you must realize that what they are going through, although it affects you, it is not because of you. There are things between your parents that they must work out for themselves and sometimes that means being apart.
You should have a serious talk with the both of you parents and let them know how you feel when they talk about each other. This will not stop the divorce, but it will help you to talk about it and maybe they will be more civil to each other.
Above all else, remember that your parents do not have to live together in order to still be your mom and dad. Your love for them should not change even if their address does. Continue to love them without picking sides and over time you will adjust to having a long distance relationship.
Hang in there and best wishes!
2007-03-01 13:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom and DAD t that you do wishes to be put in the middle of this.... They are adults and need to work it out themselves....Suggest that seek Marriage counseling before they do anything rash.... Tell them they are hurting you by their immature behavior and this is a time when you need them on solid ground because you have troubles to that you need their help with....Tell them you love them both equally and your not going to take sides and to please seek Martial counseling.
I'm sure everything will workout in time but whatever the outcome, you must realize that their loved for you hasn't demised and when all the dust settles you will be left standing stronger and wiser because you will have learned from their mistakes, Good luck to and your Mom and Dad....
2007-03-01 23:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing.So sorry to hear such problems in family relationships and I think you should talk to your parents about how you feel and tell them that you love them very much and hope that they can stay as a family although it is not your choice.
I guess, in this world, all families should communicate with each other but unfortunately, most families don't. They tend to take things for granted which we should not. I hope others who read this may have a change of heart and continue to grow in their love for eash other and try to resolve any problems that may arise in their marriage. Just remember this, if you have children, they will suffer too.
2007-03-01 21:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wise for you to take a position on your parents divorce or any other issues they have between them. You need to be left out of it. It's probably OK to help console them from time to time and let them know you are concerned. Your life will be upset for awhile but it will come back together eventually. Treat both parents as equal as you possibly can and let them work out the bugs in their relationship. You need what each of your parents have to offer you in growing up and copping with problems you will encounter in your young life. Good Luck
2007-03-01 21:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yow, if you LOVE your Dad and also LOVE your MOM, then kindly take your MOM out for a walk..
" Mom, I'm very uncomfortable with your decision. Divorcing my Dad will certainly affect me enormously because I've been thinking about it frequently; I even went on Yahoo Answer to express my feelings to strangers. Seeing you with another guy will only change my love for you because I am too used to seeing my Dad around you. It's up to you though, but I am just letting you know, as a Son, that if my love for you changes, it wouldn't be my fault. "
2007-03-01 21:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Disabled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jacob, I know your going through a very difficult time right now but your parents relationship is theirs. I know it's affecting you alot and hurting but they are adults and their personal problems are theirs. I do suggest you talk to your mom let her now how you feel and how you see your dad's hurting. Let her know that you respect them bothe and love them alot, but you will not tolorate the disrespect. Neither of them should be talking negative about each other, especially not infront of you. Tell them bothe that whatever they decided to do you will continue to love them and respect them but to do it maturely and respectfully, for you and for the years they gave each other. Seems like your mom is taking it more lay back so talk to her more and tell her you don't appreciate her talking to your dad that way. As for your pop's be there for him, support hims and more importantly give him a lot of love to give him strength through this tough time. Talk to him alot and tell him that everything will work out.
If it's better for your parents to divorce then support them on their decision cuz living together fighting and hurting each others feelings is alot worse not just for them but also for you. Sometimes parents need a mediator, I think your family needs one and that mediator is gonna have to be you.
Be strong Jacob!! And I'll pray for you and your family, God Bless!
2007-03-01 23:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by It's Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is hard on everybody , even the kids. i dont think there is much you can say to help the situation. i'm sure things are way out of control by now and your opinion probably wouldnt matter much to your mother. but let her know that you have 2 parents and you love them both and you dont want to see anybody getting hurt. I wish you well
2007-03-01 23:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, what's happening has nothing to do with you... most kids think it's somehow their fault.. IT ISN'T!!! You need to stay neutral and do not take sides... when your with each parent, if they get on the good guy, bad guy track... interupt or change the subject... just tell them I love you both very much... and do not want to get in the middle... not all people can get along, enjoy both parents, they leave forever before you know it...
2007-03-01 21:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by prop4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask your parents to get some kind of marriage counseling? They might be able to work things out.
2007-03-01 21:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would take the dildo out of your *** and talk to your parents
2007-03-01 23:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋