Calling all daughters?

Question

I have three little girls, they are wonerful! But I am a little anxious... I think that girls that have good relationships with their mothers turn out good, but girls with good relationships with their fathers as well turn out great, tell me what your dad did to help you become a great woman

Answer 1

um my dad or i guess my step dad helped me by:
~Giving me self confidence
~teaching me to never give up
~he was always there for me to talk to and listened to my stories
~he actually taught me a lot of things from tying my shoes and reading to teaching me to change a tire
~taught me to be tough but was also someone i could cry to
~also he killed that scarey bugs!!!

there are some of the things hope thats what you needed =D

Answer 2

I can't really provide a lot of information regarding anything positive my father did for me, but I can give some insight on how vital the father/daughter relationship is. Little girls needs that loving, male role model and will find it in someone. The problems arise when it's not their father and it not done in an appropriate way. Lack of that type of relationship can lead to a variety of difficulties as a female is sure to find that attention from someone and it won't always be in a positive manner. I do feel that a positive father/daughter relationship is vital to proper development of the female child. It's not to say that ones without that fatherly influence can't do well, but it's a much more rounded approach when both parties are involved. I wish you the best and congratulations on being in your daughter's lives! Good luck!

Answer 3

Just do your best. Be a fun, loving dad. Show them what is right and wrong. Show your love. Teach them things. Take them to movies and ice cream every now and then. Go shopping with them, help them pick out clothes that will make guys think they're beautiful (key thing being beautiful is better than sexy).

Just don't do anything to them. I grew up to be a great woman, but not because of my father. I was mollested by him when I was young. I wish that he hadn't done that, because I never got to have a good relationship with him. Don't make a mistake like that.

Good luck!

Answer 4

my father listened to everything even the stupid little things that teenage girls talk about and he did this for me and my friends so many of my friends went to my dad before their parents because he never made you feel stupid and he all ways let us speck our mind as long as we were respectful and did not have a total trash mouth we could speck our peace he never told you what to do he all ways made you think things around until you came up with the idea on your own he just planted the seeds! He also never made me not want to try my dad would all ways tell me take the chance ask the question all that can happen is you fail but oh well when you get back up you will do it better the next time! and if you need me i will be there! and he all ways has been! He loved me. he all ways complemented my mind and appearances made me feel strong, smart, funny, and pretty and that no matter what choices i made as long as i was happy he was behind me 100% so i don't have a daddy complex i never worry about taking a chance and i believe in my self! my dad was who raised me my mom was around but not there i lived with him!

Answer 5

My father was a military officer & I guess he saw too much at work (he was a provost marshall for several years-kinda lika a sheriff.)
He had 2 girls. He started telling us early "Do not let any man mistreat you-they are the lowest of the low" Later (in college) he told me"If your husband ever beats you, wait till he goes to sleep.Kill him. Call me & I will take the blame"!!! That never happened, but I knew my daddy would kill to protect me & no man has ever dared touch me in a bad manner! I think that gave me more confidence than anything. He wasn't a chatter person. He was quiet and the ONE THING he always insisted on , was that my sister & I have good clothes! Loved him dearly.

Answer 6

The following is short on words, but big on impact:

BE CONSISTENT. Kids need to know that you will not be wishy-washy like so much of the world is. They need a solid base.

BE STRONG. Stand firm on the values and beliefs you pass on to your children. The world/society tempts us to "bend the rules". For example; if you are teaching them to be honest, don't "fudge" on their age to get a cheaper movie ticket or tell them to tell a caller that you aren't home to take the call if you really are. Believe me - kids won't miss it if you lapse.

BE LOVING. All children, but especially daughters from their dads, need to know that they are loved - NO MATTER WHAT! Let them know they can disappoint you, they can make you upset or angry, but they can NEVER make you stop loving them or turn your back on them. Also, let them know they are beautiful - and don't base it on their looks - let them know they are beautiful INSIDE! A beautiful heart is much more valuable than a beautiful outside. So much of childhood (jr high, high school) is based on "looks" and they need an early start on building esteem on WHO they are instead of what they look like. They will "take their licks" in the teen years, but what you have planted deep inside their hearts will carry them through. Remind them; looks are determined by genes - character is determined by the hard choices they make to do the right thing. Looks are "luck", character is earned.

SHARE YOUR TOUCH: Many fathers (my own husband included) become nervous, uncomfortable with sharing a hug, touch etc with their daughters as they come into puberty. PLEASE don't cut off all physical contact with your daughters. They will not understand (no matter how you try to explain it) and will take it as a personal rejection. Obviously, this is a time to reaccess the type of physical contact you have with your daughter and make sure it is appropriate for her age. But your daughter still needs a kiss on the cheek and, on a tough day, a hug from her Daddy.

SHARE YOUR FAITH:
I don't know what your faith is, I happen to be a Christian, but whatever faith you have - in God, in Buddha, whatever. Share that with them. Faith will carry them through very difficult times.

Parenthood is a wonderful opportunity but at times may feel like the most overlooked, thankless job in the world. Work hard to be a good parent and your immediate reward will be putting your head on the pillow every night knowing you have done your best. The other reward comes later - my children are all in their 20s now, and actually thank me for the boundaries I set as they were growing up. The very same boundaries they complained about as teens! With a little hindsight and life experience they see the wisdom in those boundaries that they used to think were so UNREASONABLE!
The fact that you are asking about how to be a good dad shows you are a GREAT dad! Keep it up!

Answer 7

my father taught me how to stand up for myself, to be strong and he always told me that I didn't need a man, that I can do anything myself. He showed me how to work on cars, play sports, cook, build things and much more. But the most import thing that I learned from him is how to be patient, and I am very patient. I am also a good listener, another thing that I learned from him.
I just say talk to your daughters every day, do things with them every day. Let them tell you anything that they want to and try not to over react on anything (freaking out in the other room works for that lol). My father also raised me to tell the truth right away and i would get in less trouble if I did something wrong if I fessed up to it right away. This is something I used in raising my kids, I am very honest and so are my children. I don't always want to hear what they have to say, but I listen and I don't freak out on them. Good luck - and girls are so precious!

Answer 8

My dad took us when my mom didn't want us anymore. They divorced and my mom couldn't take being a single parent. That was 18 years ago, single dads were almost unheard of. I respect my father for stepping up to the plate and working 3 jobs to take care of us kids. He was never there for us emotionally but I do not fault him for that. He was to busy working to try to feed us and keep a roof over our heads. Those were difficult times but daddy made them great.

Answer 9

Well, I'm not an adult-but I'm almost 15.
My Dad continues to teach me how to have faith and believe in myself in all I do. He helps me understand my math homework and explains things that I'm unsure of-whether it's news that's going on in the world we live in or a homework problem. My Dad always encourages me-he encourages me to follow my dreams and tries to do the best he can to make sure that my dreams come true. Plus, my Dad teaches me how to find people who respect me-whether they are males or females.
My Dad has taught me so many morals and continues to keep being a great Dad for me. He is always there for me and is always cheering me on in whatever I do. I truly believe that ANY Dad who can encourage, love, and teach their kid(s) about life, is a wonderful father.
I'm sure you're a great Dad already too! :)

All the best!

Answer 10

hmm.. well out of the two of my parents, my dad's always been the more understanding one. he never flips out on me or gets mad like my mother... just helps me work through the problem and do what he can. i guess... the advice i'd offer you is to be suportive. and not use punishment unless its like... absolutely nessescary. because all that really does is make the relationship a negitive one. like with my dad, i got a really really bad grade in my math class and instead of being all "your grounded." he just explained his dissapointment. and helped me bring my grade back up.

and also, dont be crazy strict either. dont be one of those lentinent parents... because those kids usually DONT end up turning out very well. just make sure that you are strict enough that your daughters know what they can and cannot do but not so strict that they feel they have to hide everything from you to avoid getting in trouble.

good luck!