I just broke up with my boyfriend on tuesday!??!HELP?!?!??!?

Question

I think i still love him. Everyone says good for u, but something inside says you did something wrong. WHAT DO I DO TO GET OVER HIM?!?!?!?

Answer 1

We all go through it; it isn't always an easy road depending on how long you were together. When I ended my 2 yr and half relationship I was shot. I believe it was one of the hardest times in my life the pain I experienced. Looking back now I'm so happy I'm not with him anymore, because he was not marriage material. Don't go back on your decision. Remember we tend to remember only the good after a break up. Write down if you need to all the reasons why you needed to break up with him; I know that helped for me.

Eight-Stage Timeline: The After Breakup Experience

Stage 1 - Time heals everything: It's normal to have low self-esteem when someone you love leaves you. But remember, you're still the same person that she/he once fell in love with. The only difference is that you are no longer together. Believe me, you'll find someone else in time. As for your broken heart, the old saying time heals everything cannot be more true.

Stage 2 - You are vulnerable: Anyone can take advantage of you when you are feeling vulnerable. You must therefore be extra careful not to look to quick fixes, such as dating old flings.

Stage 3 - Feelings of denial: At this stage, you will probably call your ex many times to question whether the relationship is truly over, or whether there is still a chance that your relationship can be salvaged.

Stage 4 - Feelings of bitterness: Remember, the relationship is over, so don't express feelings of sadness and bitterness to your ex. If you do, you'll be letting her/him know that you are unable to handle her decision, which makes you look immature. Instead, channel those feelings into positive energy by improving the skills at the activities you love and doing things to bring back a sense of balance and joy in your life.

Stage 5 - Take time off: A lot of people try to rebuild their new broken fragile ego by dating again too soon after a breakup. Stop! You'll only end up damaging yourself even more, as well as the person you are dating. If you date someone just to fill a gap, that's the way you'll end up treating that person. Stay away from people who'll prey on your fragile emotional state, and take advantage of your vulnerability. This will only give you a false sense of trust. Take time off and get involved in things you never had the time to do before.

Stage 6 - Socialize: Meet a lot of new people. Use this time to improve relations with old friends, network, and make new friends. A well-balanced life will lessen the impact of a breakup, because you will still have the other aspects of your life intact, and improved.

Stage 7 - Fall in love: Eventually, as time passes, you will fall in love again. Make sure to let yourself fall in love, and take the time to really let your partner in your life. There is nothing better than a new flame to make you forget an old one (once you have had the time to heal, of course).

Stage 8 - Don't set yourself up: Don't get carried away with this new found flame, remember nothing lasts forever and even this new relationship may not weather the test of time. Don't make this person the sole focus of your life, because if it doesn't workout, you'll find yourself right back at Stage 1.

Answer 2

First...........You should only ever do something because YOU want to , not because other ppl tell you. IF you feel it is wrong..ask yourself WHY? Why did you break up with him in the first place? What caused you to end the relationship?? Why is it bothering you so much?
If it really bothers you..that would probably be because YOU KNOW it wasn't a good enough reason to end the relationship and you're feeling guilty over it. I hope someday, you're not in a relationship and the guy just breaks up with you*(for the same reason you broke up with him for) and then you will feel what he's feeling right now*
You won't be able to "get over him" until you come clean with yourself as to why you broke up with him to begin with? and what it is that's making you feel you didn't make the right choice*..after you get those answers, perhaps you can move on*!
GOODLUCK*

Answer 3

When I first broke up with my boyfriend I thought I was still in love with him. It is hard to get over someone. Just give it some time and if you still feel like you love him then maybe it was a mistake to break up with him. You could also try to go out with someone else and see how that goes. Good Luck!! =)

Answer 4

dont think about him, go out with your girlfriend have a good time meet someone new. You may think you Love him, but inless he cheated on you or hurt you physically, then brakin up with him was a mistake. Or you didnt love him like you thought, Just had strong feelings. Just get rid of everything that reminds you of him, get out of the house and have some fun. go shopping or something..

Answer 5

i am going thru the exact same thing girl.we just broke up last week and i cant get him off my mind.the only thing i can say is pick your head up and move on with life.if you broke up it was for a reason right?he is what he is and he will not change for any reason.if he was going to change he would have changed before you broke up.i know its hard but this just means there is someone better for you up the road.good luck!!!!!

Answer 6

i think of you may desire to consult with him approximately it in private and make certain you have his perspective and each and all of the info rapidly till now you assume the worst. make advantageous to no longer consult with him accusingly in simple terms ask and notice what he says and if he lies approximately it. If he lies or whether he would not if I have been on your shoes i could injury up with him. If he fairly rather cared approximately you he would not dare ask something like that in the time of message or individual. And he looks like an entire jerk! i be responsive to its complicated yet its significant which you reside good, keep your head and not backpedal. He has to examine which you have standards and that's in simple terms disrespectful to you (no count if this is, you may desire to no longer lie while speaking to him) for him to talk like that once being in this sort of long and god dating. this is obvious which you adore him so say so and supply him a huge gamble to talk to you approximately it. do no longer commence yelling and positively ward off getting indignant that would not end nicely. He could ask for a 2nd hazard yet you easily could desire to think of approximately it. believe is the inspiration of all stable relationships and the question is: after having him injury you so undesirable this way, are you able to believe him along with your heart returned?

Answer 7

You got to remember the reason you broke up with him in the first place. Then if the reason was beyond fixing...... go to the movies with your friends and watch a scary one to take your mind off him.

Answer 8

Give yourself sometime to think carefully about your love(at least 1~2 month),then you will figure out what's your true thinking in your mind by time.

Answer 9

If you still love him it's going to take time, dont think about him! do things to keep your mind off him!

Answer 10

join a health club and work out. You'll meet someone there.