me and my gf have been dating for 6 months. she says she 'wants more' out of a relationship. we see each other about 4-5 days a week. she always wants to have sleepovers, but i can't get any sleep when we do. plus we both have full time jobs beginning at 7:30 am. is this too much 6 months into a relationship?
2007-03-01 12:40:33 · 14 answers · asked by stan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't really make a difference how long you've been together, you need to find a compromise that might make you both happy. Everyone is different, some couples could probably spend that much time together easily and others like their space. I think if you explain it to her so she knows it's not her, you just need some time to yourself, it should be ok. I can relate to your situation - I'm the type of person that needs time to myself.
2007-03-01 12:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it odd that you're more concerned with sleep when your girlfriend spends the night after only 6 months. Most guys are all about the 'sleeplessness' a couple finds in the beginning of a relationship. Sex isn't everything, but it can be a barometer for the rest of the relationship. Spending time together is very important. Perhaps the real question to ask is if you really want to be in a relationship with this woman.
2007-03-01 20:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Julie N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you have some reservations about your girlfriend. If you are uncomfortable with the speed that everything is taking place. Remember that good communication is the key to a good relationship. Women and men both have their own timing in mind. She may not think that things are going fast enough and you may feel they are moving at the speed of light. Let her know that you really care about her, but you need to ask her where she thinks this relationship is going and how fast she is expecting it to take place. If you are wanting to continue things with her you must learn to be open and honest with her. As far as how often you see each other and whether she sleeps over or not - there isn't any set rule or normal level that is the same from one couple to another. It is whatever you two are comfortable with. (When I dated my wife we survived on about four hours sleep a night and survived just fine - love makes you do crazy things!)
2007-03-01 20:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not comfortable with it just tell her that! She sounds like she is ready to settle down, do you feel that way. If not tell her don't know about the future but for now you want things kept light. For some people after 6 months this is completely normal for others it would scare the crap out of them!
2007-03-01 20:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age factor........If you are in your 20's yes 6 months is a very short time to know someone......If you are in your 60's 6 months is not that short of time.....Sounds like she is smothering ya....Tell her to step back and take a chill pill. She is looking for more than you are willing to give. Time to re-evaluate this relationship
2007-03-01 20:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Pearlinpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set limits when you sleep over, tell her you want to be asleep at a certain time and if she can not respect that then maybe you need to reevalute your relationship, if you set ground rules and she will not respect them then you should wonder about how much she respects you, I have been married for 6 years and we have our ups and downs but we still stick to the ground rules for respect that we set when we were dating.
2007-03-01 20:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..6 months is a good time to really get to know each other to see if u wana take ur relationship any further. good luck!!
2007-03-01 20:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by im confused! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your sleep overs do u stay up all night watching movies and eating popcorn and gossiping?
2007-03-01 20:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by MichelleD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk about it but i think she's a bit bossy towards u and u should voice up. Tell her what u instead of being a total follower.
2007-03-01 20:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by mizz_car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she shouldnt be staying over...if your going to behave as a married couple you should be married
2007-03-01 20:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Robert K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋