Yeah yeah, I get the whole "so depressed you can't handle it anymore." kind of thing. But seriously, some of the reason's people commit suicide is just so stupid. I know someone who talked about doing it, I got so ticked off at her I ignored her and sent her cold looks for weeks.
I mean, after all, there are people that have it so much worse then others that commit suicide. Is it wrong of me to think so lowly of these people when they are so self-centered they have to go off themselves before thinking that there might actually be others upset over them? I know people who have really had it rough, druggy parents, in and out of rehab, had to restort to prostitution and now is about to be put back in custody of her druggy parents (she's 16). And she is still able to smile and do better. When there's little miss MaryAnne whose boyfriend broke up with her. Does she look to her friends? No. Her family? Screw them. She's threw with life, so she kills herself.
Is it wrong to think this way?
2007-03-01 12:33:57 · 21 answers · asked by Mimblewimble 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
NOTE: I'm not talking about people who actually have a chemical inbalance in their brain and have been diagnosed with depression. I'm talking about the pathetic teenage drama we all see every day.
2007-03-01 12:48:13 · update #1
Yes it is wrong to hate someone for how they feel. My mother has attempted suicide four times over the past years. The last time she was in a comma and the Dr's said she would nor survive. However, she did, it was a total miracle. She had been given a 1% chance. This time tests were done after and it was discovered that she had no thyroid hormones. When someone has illness of this type it causes severe depression and she was not herself. There are many illness's that can cause depression. No one has the right to judge others and besides unless you can see what is going on in their mind you can't possibly know.
2007-03-01 12:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by mischiefmaker_kc 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You said:
NOTE: I'm not talking about people who actually have a chemical inbalance in their brain and have been diagnosed with depression. I'm talking about the pathetic teenage drama we all see every day.
With the above in mind, i totally understand your sentiments however i think with certain ppl its just plain immaturity and the fact that they probably are too spoilt or they just havent learnt how to deal with stressful situations.
Instead of giving cold looks and getting angry maybe you should channel that anger into reasoning....why dont you remind them that there are worse off ppl in this world, that they need to be more mature and understand what Real problems and depression is about...at least you are getting it out of your system and maybe you will make sense to them at the same time!
However, having said all of the above if you look at the other side of the coin then we never know the whole story....you dont live with that person to see what happens to them day and night...what other difficulties and traumas this person is experiencing etc etc so it could just be that breaking up with boyfriend or girlfriend etc was the last straw...
its difficult and i guess we shouldnt be judging ppl because we have no right to judge....we wouldnt like ppl judging us right? so perhaps we should give ppl benefit of a doubt..maybe what some ppl need is a shoulder to cry on, a friend to lean on or just a little understanding.
Once again i am replying with your Note in mind, others who commit suicide due to worse situations and sickness and mentalhealth problems are not being referrred to in this answer.
2007-03-01 13:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jia K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is what you feel. Everyone is not in the same place. When you hear of stories of people committing suicide, you should know that there was some horrific emotional struggle that has gone on before hand. Yes there are people that seem to have more resilience than other. It is not, necessarily, about what they have or don’t have. It may appear that a person has a perfect life (on the outside) but no one really knows what is going on behind that “perfect person’s” door. I guarantee you that her suicide was over more than her boyfriend breaking up with her. Use some kindness. You don’t know what people are struggling with. Just because they smile and act like things are alright doesn’t necessarily mean that they are.
It sounds to me as if you are angry at this person for committing suicide. Was she your friend? Suicide impacts every one that was in the person’s life. If you are struggling with this person’s suicide, I suggest that you seek some therapy for yourself so that you can talk through some of your concerns
2007-03-01 13:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even people who don't have a mental illness can experience major mood swings during the teenage years. I don't think judging a person is going to help them through this time. A person who is depressed (and this person you are talking about could be dealing with a one-time bout with depression) needs sympathy and compassion. Maybe you are angry with her for the suicide because you don't want to lose her. You need to examine your own feelings, as you are doing now, before judging someone else's.
As for problems: everyone approaches life in their own way. What might not seem bad to you, might be unbearable to someone else. You cannot judge someone unless you have walked a mile in their shoes.
While I can relate to how you feel, I think it is better for you-- and your friend-- that you keep judgements like this to yourself. There are other people in life who have worse problems than she does, but you have no way of knowing what is really on her mind. Just steer clear of her, unless you can offer help.
2007-03-01 13:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by monica_dietz@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People with suicidal thoughts are NOT supposed to be mistreated. They should be treated with welcome arms into a society. Maybe part of the reason why they feel suicidal is because they are not accepted anywhere. For people with suicidal thoughts-remember, life is a gift, and you are very lucky to be granted one. Make the most out of it, and no matter how many times you fall down, no matter how many times you bruise yourself, get back up again, and do the best you can. Basically, people with suicidal thoughts feel overwhelmed, and they crack under the pressure. They overestimate the situation, and think it's impossible. People tell other people about killing themselves as a warning, and a last desperate call for help. They simply can't help it. Think about it- if you live in a world where you are SPIT on and not ACCEPTED by others, wouldn't you fell bad? Treat them with respect, and tell them to believe in themselves.
2007-03-01 13:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Eric Ho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
understanding suicide means you have to stop looking at it from your point of view. There are different kinds of depression and it affects how you see, feel and react to this world. To you it may seem self-serving and immature, but to the person who's world is black and heavy, suicide, or the thought of suicide, is a promise of relief. Little miss MaryAnne may be suicidal after her boyfriend broke up with her but her mental problems were with her well before the boyfriend appeared.
So, have compassion for those you don't understand and pray to god you never have to feel that level of despair.
2007-03-01 12:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think it's wrong to judge people for killing themselves. Who are you (or anyone else) to be so selfish as to expect them to remain alive just for your own satisafaction? That's not very fair. You never know what a person's reasoning behind suicide might be. Sure, that girl's boyfriend breaking up with her might be the catalyst for her suicidal thoughts, but she may have a lot of other things wrong with her life that you don't know about. Ever hear of the straw that broke the camel's back?
2007-03-01 12:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
People commit suicide because of people like you and society. They are not accepted. Those cold looks that you gave the girl were so cruel. Hate is such a strong word. You dislike it because who wants to be around such misery. I know I don't, but you also don't understand their pain. It's easier to give someone the cold shoulder than to listen to their complicated emotions. I understand you, but try to be careful. People like these are fragile. Tey feel that there is no way out and that people will not understand them. You certainly didn't and understand why you backed away from it. Suicide is part of reality and people ignore it until it's too late.
2007-03-01 14:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think 'hate' is a good idea in any situation. THEY'RE PEOPLE, just like you. I don't understand why people feel the need to make generalizations about others and 'hate' certain types of people.
Hate isn't always a good thing, but when I hate it's the individual I hate, not this or that type of person. It's lazy and cruel to lump people into categories like that.
2007-03-01 13:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can feel how ever you want. My aunt killed herself, and no one knows why. one day she was just gone. you might want to try to have a little more compassion and try to understand, some people can not explain their feelings or know why they feel them Maybe when Maryanne's boyfriend broke up with her, that was the 'straw that broke the camels back' You want her to go to her friends, like you "I know someone who talked about doing it, I got so ticked off at her I ignored her and sent her cold looks for weeks. ". Cant guess why people feel so closed off and alone, can you?
2007-03-01 12:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by rollieoolie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋