All the impositions that kids bring? No money, no free time, no privacy with husband/bf, no job or career advancement? Can all of you really say it was worth it to have a kid?
2007-03-01 12:28:24 · 26 answers · asked by cloudofeiderdown 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Despite the fact I haven't been to the bathroom alone in almost three years, have stretch marks and section scars, have watched more Sesame Street than prime time TV, have traded in the sedan for a mini-van, can't keep the house picked up because of the tornado of a daughter, and haven't been out to eat in about 5 months, I have never regretted my kids for one second.
2007-03-01 14:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I would NEVER think of my boys as impositions!
1. If you wait until you are financially prepared to have children you do have money. Even if you aren't financially prepared you can still manage money so that you do have enough to get by plus some.
2. If you manage time well [and have a schedule] you'll have about 2-4 hours of free time a day. I don't know about you but my kids go to bed at 8:00 which leaves us about two hours of free time.
3. Again with the time management having time with a husband or boyfriend happens when the kids are asleep. Other then sex or adult talk I don't know why anyone would want privacy from kids.
4. No job or career advancement. Well, if you THOUGHT about having kids before actually getting pregnant you'd realize what you want and made it work. I know I didn't want to work when I had kids so I set it up so I didn't have to. My husband is in the military so he always will have job advancement.
I was worth it 100% to have my kids. I prepared for them. I got my education FIRST then had kids which worked out nicely. I really hope you aren't a parent. It's sad that you would think like that after having children. Maybe you should see someone....
2007-03-01 23:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes and no. I miss the extra income I brought into my household by working--my husband is military and child care costs about what I would have been making less around $300, so it was easier and cheaper in the long run to not work--and I miss the adult interaction I had back then. There are times when I want nothing more than adult conversation and a schedule set by my own wants and needs, as opposed to someone else's. I'd like to have something to talk about other than my kid(s) with my friends, who are mostly childless and working.
On the other hand, I've gotten to watch as this little being my husband and I created went from a newborn baby to a healthy, happy, and relatively well-rounded 4 year old. That's something I wouldn't give up for all the world.
2007-03-01 20:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, never will regret it either. I love my boys with all my heart. They aren't an imposition on my life they add to my life. And all the impositions you named: Money: have plenty, Free time: have plenty its when my boys go to bed, No job/career advancement: I work and just got a promotion! Life could not be any better!
2007-03-01 22:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no longer 95 lbs., i can't get to do my nails etc. as often as i should & the 'me' times are few & far between.
But then, that is me. Many mothers are able to get it all together.
At the end of the day the children annoy, test and frustrate you
BUT then that deep in the belly feeling u get when they hug you and smile and say little words of wisdom just make it all worthwhile.
Please know though that u are not strange if u do not absolutely 'love' them every second of the day. Also, not all new mothers feel an outpouring of love for their newborns immediately.
Motherhood is not a simple thing. It really teaches you how to love 'regardlessly'. AND, you will find that with time, you understand more and reallise that each child is different! Try to have fun! :)
2007-03-01 21:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by mxn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says that is the way it has to be??? I know plenty of mothers that have money, make time for their husband and still get ahead in their careers. I am pregnant with my first, make plenty of money and run a company. My husband and I will make time for each other, it is a choice you make and healthy for the child. You can have it all if you want. You make it sound like your life is over when you have a baby. Not the case if you choose to not make it that way. Besides. I rather take the chance than not knowing what it is like to have a child of my own.
2007-03-01 21:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate this question, and there are times when I wonder, what was I thinking? But the truth is that there is nothing more rewarding than my children....they are beautfiful, sweet, amazing. Problem is that society is rather caught up in selfish things....we've forgotten how to enjoy things that don't revolve aroud us. It's a shame really. I lost my first baby...a little over half way through my pregnancy, and all those questions, similar to the one you've just asked, they all went away....it's funny how death clears the air a bit. Life comes around just once that we really know, so make your decisions accordingly,
2007-03-01 21:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it can't imagine my life without my kids. My kids are teens now and through the ups and downs, it was always a blessing and the individuals I created , are wonderful(with the help of God) .
Through the good and bad, right or wrong, I wouldn't want to change this life,for anything in the world (even money or privacy).
2007-03-01 20:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by trojan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My kids get home from school and the noise is unbearable, screaming baby on one hip, trying to make dinner and do dishes one handed, the phones ringing and its a collection agency. If I only had $20 I'd order pizza......A hot cup of coffee sure sounds good right now. No dear, I don't know the answer to your homework, stop fighting with your sister. Honey I don't know where you put that, AH! Who broke that? Clean it up.
My head spins from being pulled in 14 different directions at once, I don't know the last time I was able to eat something while it was still hot, or watch a whole movie without being interuppted or falling asleep, but when those beautiful little girls look at me and smile and tell me Im the best mommy in the world, the rest doesn't matter anymore. I'm going to miss it when they're older and don't need me so much.
2007-03-01 20:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by santobugito 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I personally do not regret having my children because I love them so much that nothing matters. I have to admit that at times I get depressed because I have lost alot of opportunities and it is because of them.
The thing is they did not asks to come here, I should have had some kind of control. Never blame the children blame yourself because there is such things as birth control. It is never too late to have a career, I decided to enjoy my family and when my children is older then I will pursue getting a better education...
2007-03-01 23:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋