My wife just had her second miscarriage/ D & C in the past 6 months. What can I do to help support her?
2007-03-01 12:26:55 · 9 answers · asked by iuchew_22 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Be normal so you can help her get back into the daily routine. If she needs to cry, be there to hold her. If she needs to be alone, give her some space. Don't baby her or patronize her because she doesn't need your pity. Let her take the lead. Sometimes, just holding hands is the most comfort you can give.
It happened to me a long time ago. I was busy with 3 children, so I didn't really have time to think about it when it happened. But I do remember that a few months later, (probably around what would have been my due date), I felt a strong urge to hold a doll. I slept with it for a couple of weeks. Years later, I realized what I did. At the time, I just needed to heal. Subconsciously, I gave myself grief therapy.
2007-03-01 12:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Konswayla 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be supportive and talk about it. let her cry and let her know that you are hurt by this also. i know that right now she is feeling really hurt and doesnt understand WHY and is probably asking "am i ever going to be able to have kids?!" i myself had 5 miscarriages before having my first child, i was soooo upset and didnt think that i would ever have a baby and the drs. didnt have any reasons WHY this was happening! i am RH- and we think that what was happening was that i wasnt getting the shot after my miscarriages (and your supposed to) and thats what was causing me to loose the babies. i now have five boys and am pregnant with a girl now, so just cuz she has had 2 miscarriages DOES NOT mean that she wont be able to carry and have a baby!!!!!!!! i wish the both of you luck!!!
2007-03-01 12:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by hello :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay close to her. Hug her when she needs it, back off when she wants. Chocolate since it releases natural endorphines and will help. Let her talk, let her know it isn't her fault. Get her favorite movies for her. Spoil her, pretty much. Get her a puppy or a little pet. Something she can have to take her mind off it and still give her maternal instincts a work out. It's no substitue for a baby, but it can help. Baby animals bring out that loving, must care for instinct that children do. So deffinately a puppy. I never lost a child, but my husband told me if I had miscarried our son, he'd do those things for me.
2007-03-01 13:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Talon F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so sweet to be looking for ways to support and help your wife. I agree with pretty much everything everyone else has said. I would just say not to push trying again for awhile, and perhaps avoiding high baby traffic areas. I had a friend who miscarried and it just killed her to see parents pushing baby strollers for quite some time after.
2007-03-01 14:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her in whatever way she needs. Let her have lots of rest and fluids for recovery. I felt best being in bed till I was ready to be up. It is so hard loosing something that was wanted so much.
2007-03-01 13:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by krispeds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold her, be there for her. The worst thing to do is not to share your feelings or show that you care. Love her, and help her in small and big ways. Let this bring you together, don't let it drive you apart.
2007-03-01 12:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a very good listener and let her cry and work it out. be super supportive.
I had one miscarriage and it still hurts 2 years later....and I've had a child since then. people who haven't had one don't understand how horrible it is.
2007-03-01 12:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her everything will work out in the end and that if she needs a shoulder to cry on, you'll be there for her.
2007-03-01 15:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold her and talk to her about and tell her every thing will be alright
2007-03-01 12:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋