Trevor passed away last year Feb. 28, 2006 in a car accident. I was 20 weeks pregnant. The week after that I found out I was having a baby boy, that would never meet his grandpa. My mom and him were married for 10 years. I've known him since I was 11...now 23.
I was thinking since it's a small outdoor wedding and we are only allowed 5 chairs for the elderly that 1 chair with a rose would be trevor...maybe put his picture on it too.
My fiance and I might have gotten married last year had this not happened...i just couldnt bring myself to get married to soon afterward...feeling so guilty that he wasnt going to be there, wishing i had done it before he was gone. :(
2007-03-01 12:13:58 · 19 answers · asked by A Person I am 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yesturday was the 1 year anniversary of his death.
2007-03-01 12:20:31 · update #1
I think the chair with the rose and photo is a fantastic idea. What a lovely gesture to the memory of this man.
2007-03-01 12:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That would be a lovely idea. My neice did that with her wedding for her mother. Just a simple set up. Picture and flower on a chair or table. My best wishes for your wedding. You have a fiance that is worth his weight in love for understanding your feelings and the lost you have endured
2007-03-01 12:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the idea of the flower and rose if this is what you and your future husband. Just know he would of been happy for the too of you and he will be there in your thoughts. Some times they are just mentioned in the program or when toast are made they will mention that you know that he watching it from heaven with a smile on his face. Or something to that nature that represent you and him.
Congrats and Good Luck
2007-03-01 12:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
condolences for your loss. i hope that one year later, the grieving process has helped you and your family grow.
my idea for memorializing your stepfather would be doing something creative in walking down the aisle (where in traditional wedding, the bride's father-figure would walk her down to the altar to entrust the bride to the groom, to create a new family).
i don't want to dictate the way this is done, but do use your creativity to express your feeling for Trevor.
by doing something that involves walking with Trevor's memory, you allow everyone to experience it, as opposed to having a rose in the front seat, that not a lot of people would get to see.
2007-03-01 12:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by k7lim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences for your loss....
Have a pedestal with his picture next to the best man so it's like he's part of the wedding party standing witness to your vows.
If that's not possible, the picture and rose in the chair is a great idea.
2007-03-01 13:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sublime_Savvy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love your idea as expressed classy and elegant.by the guestbook I would have a journal where all the guest can write a favorite memory,quote or just something nice about Grandpa Trevor.Happy wedding day,R
2007-03-01 12:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can have the chair with the rose.
My cousin had a portrait of his mom & dad (his dad had passed away) with some flowers displayed near the guest book.
You can ask the pastor or whomever is officiating for some advice.
2007-03-01 12:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Treadstone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really like the idea of the rose, picture and chair. It's classy, sutle and powerful. Perhaps you can also mention him in a toast, nothing too long or drawn out, you don't want to upset people. But a quick mention of how he would have loved to be there.
2007-03-01 12:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I also would like to send my deepest regards are with you and your family. No time is going to be an "easy" time after somebody passes. I really like your idea of the flower, and the picture of him on the seat. I ma getting married in July this year and we are doing a rose ceremony. That is to honor all the people who have passed on. (on both sides of our family.)
I hope that you and your soon to be husband have a blessed unity, and enjoy all of this life and your eternal life together.
2007-03-01 12:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋