Crazed sister-in-law, what do I do?

Question

I have a serious issue. When I married my husband his little sister was the sweetest thing I'd ever known. Not so anymore. In the last few years she has completely lost it.
A few examples. She only graduated from high school because she litteraly slept with one of her teachers. She moved from a nice house in a good neighborhood into the white trash riviera. She started doing drugs and sleeping with any and every man she could. She also loves to brag that she has never used protection! She has only been getting worse. We let her stay with us for a month, in an attempt to help her get back on her feet. Instead she stole my credit card and my 18 month old found her drug stash. We obviously asked her to leave and like I said she's only getting worse. My husband wants to call the police and report her drug use, hoping it might scare her into turning a new leaf. I'm not so sure. I want to help her, she has completely tore her family apart. Any suggestions.

She started hanging with the wrong croud in high school. Nic will do what ever anyone asks her to do, unfortunatly it's only the bad stuff she'll do. She prides herself on the fact that she is hurting those around her. We've tried putting her in a rehab center, but all that seemed to do was introduce her to people worse than her, and make her worse off.

Answer 1

Throw her out! You can't help her she needs to fix herself!

Answer 2

This pattern will continue for years so your best bet is to write her off. You can't help her, she can only help herself when she hits rock bottom and compared to the lives we live, that's is way down past the gutter. Statistically, the only thing that will get her clean is prison. The only thing she loves are the drugs and she'll kill you to get a fix when she needs one. It happens all the time. When you try to deal with her, you are talking to the drug and it won't let go of her. If she is doing meth, know that only 6% ever get off and stay off of it. My daughter has tried to help friends in her small town that got hooked on it. Two are in prison and two are dead. One killed a neighbor man for money for drugs. These were all very nice people who you would never think would do it. They started out being addicted to Ephederine, the diet pills they outlawed a few years ago. They were so unable to deal with life w/o it and the meth makes them feel about the same at first. It just pulls you down so very very fast. This is in a small rural community in Nebraska and these were all pretty decent people that lived good lives. I know it is hard to throw her away but you might as well before you or one of your kids gets hurt. My own daughter could have been pulled into it but she is skinny and never needed the pills. She is a nurse and the other nurse in the Dr office she works in went to prison because she was selling to support her habit. I sure hope you all get away from this mess.It will destroy her but it doesn't have to get you, tool Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

There is obviously a lot your not tellign us, because people don't juist melt down like your describing. I think you need to forceibly check her into a rehab center so that she can get evaluated for not only mental help but also her drug use can be brought under control. There are programs that will help you and your husband by paying for pieces of it and giving your sister-in-law a payment plan for when she is well. She is obviously an addict and needs help.

Good Luck

PS having her arrested doesn't address the problems she is having.

Answer 4

i am a criminal justice major and i am SORELY tempted to say throw her in jail but she will just get a misdemeanor drug charge and be out in 2 mos with a brand new set of delinquent aquaintences. and then she will have a record which will make it hard for her to get a job or get accepted in school and get financial aid. Ugghh, this is wats wrong with our criminal justice program but if she can get on community based corrections (a group home, work release, a intensive probation) this may help. has she never been in jail? im gonna have to say call the cops. apparently you all (her family) do not have much of an influence on her life. maybe the authorities will. counseling??not drug, but just counseling period? she may have some inner demons....who knows....if she wants to hurt her family so bad WHY? whats the story there? will she go to therapy?

Answer 5

communicate on your boyfriend approximately what she is doing and enable him comprehend how uncomfortable she is making you experience. enable him comprehend which you like him and desire to get along with his relatives and which you in basic terms don't comprehend the place his sister's hostility is coming from. Ask him to communicate to her and notice if there is a few way the two considered one of you'll be able to make peace with one yet another. this won't do something to assist you to and his sister get alongside yet a minimum of your boyfriend will see which you have tried to artwork issues out like an grownup and that his sister is the single responsible for all the drama.

Answer 6

If she doesn't want the help then there is nothing that you can do. You have a child to think about. Throw his sister out and do not allow her back into your home for any reason. And do call the police.

Answer 7

I have a sister inlaw who sounds just like that. Only she was even worse...abandoned her kids all over the place...was a real mess....we tried to help her but it didn't work....until she wants help there isn't much that you can do...we finally had to cut ties with her....I hope someone has a good answer because we still love her and would love to get her back like she used to be...good luck....

Answer 8

You can't help those who won't help themselves......Let her get arrested it will be a rude awakening, and maybe straighten her out while she is still young.