Well I only have 17 more days to finalize guest lists... We just decided last week to finally get married after bring engaged since Aug. 2005 and NOW Have a 8 month old baby. We decided suddenly because we just want to finally be married.
Almost everything is planned. Caterer, photographer, dress, tuxedos, officiant, ceremony site, reception site...everything but the guest list...people cant just say "YES ILL BE THERE...or NO I CANT MAKE IT" They have to draw it out...JUST DECIDE!!!
2007-03-01 12:06:44 · 22 answers · asked by A Person I am 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For the jerks who put people down for having kids without being married: GET BENT!
2007-03-01 12:16:23 · update #1
I wasnt going to just jump on the band wagon and get married just because I got pregnant. I was only engaged 3 months before we got pregnant. Then a Couple months later my STEP FATHER TREVOR JAY OSTERLING Passed away... I wasnt going to get married after that happened! Have respect.
2007-03-01 12:19:01 · update #2
Oh bless your heart. Just remember that in the end all that's going to really matter is that you both show up and say "I do" regardless of guests dragging their feet or anything else. Best of luck!
2007-03-01 13:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by ckmclements 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes-Yes! I agree 100%! Wedding planning is stressful! I'm just now 'getting my feet wet' with this wedding and the guest list seems to be the one thing that I stress the most over! Who to invite, who not to invite, who will actually fill out the little RSVP card and send it back, or who will just simply forget to RSVP but plan to come anyway and bring along the new girlfriend and her 4 lovely children?! Yeah, stressful to say the least!
I'm thinking though, that most weddings that I have gone to in the past, the guests that don't RSVP don't show up. Those that RSVP and don't show up, sets you back a little on costs-but covers the food/drinks/seating for any stragglers that might just decide at the last minute to make an appearance. You will probably be fine without calling anyone to ask if they are coming. (I've never been called if I can't make it to a wedding and don't RSVP.)
Unless it's a close family member or friend you might nix the phone call-just my opinion.
This whole process IS stressful, don't let anyone tell you different! I am a mother myself and I know how complicated the process becomes with little ones involved!
Just remember to find ways to relax in what little spare time you have! Sanity is hard to come by when playing so many roles at once so take advantage of every extra 5 mintues you get to yourself! (Meaning-mommy, fiance, wedding planner, etc. etc.!)
Good luck to you and enjoy a big, long, well-deserved sigh of relief when it's all over!
(Just a quick thought-you could consider letting the person that walks you down the aisle carry your little one in one arm and escort you with the other! How sweet that would be!-Including the kids is fantastic! My daughter is "giving me away" to her new step-daddy!)
2007-03-02 00:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Surreal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! I loved planning my wedding. It was a bit stressful, but not bad and definately worth it!
For those who cant decide, wait until 10 days before the wedding, if they don't RSVP,count them out. You will be better off if you have a shorter guest list as it will allow more time for you to enjoy the moment and take it all in. Mingling with the guest takes away from the time you will have at the reception with your new husband. I know that sounds bad, but I spent more time with my guests and I regret that I only danced once with my hubby.
2007-03-01 22:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think wedding planning is stressful. But NOT planning it can be almost as stressful! LOL We decided on having an informal wedding - and nearly caused my MIL to have a heart attack! Well, not really, but she wasn't too happy with not going the "traditional" route, so til the last minute I was stressed out and worried about how everything's gonna turn out. Everyone ended up loving it and having a good time, tho. So yeah, no matter how you look at it - it's stressful! Congrats.
2007-03-01 22:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is VERY stressful! Even more for you- since you are trying to plan this party, take care of your baby (congrats) and still feeling the loss of your stepdad(condolenses).
As for people not deciding- call them! That is what I did. If you get an answering machine- tell them that the caterer needs the final count by whatever date(three days before you TRULY need it) and tell them you would love them to share this special day with them.
Do not worry. If you get some stragglers coming in that didn't RSVP it is ok. I think they say that 20% of people who do RSVP do not show up anyway.
COngrats and Good Luck!
2007-03-01 22:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by chickemama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, wedding planning is always stressful.
The money, the pressure, family input or indifference, people not RSVPing in a timely fashion, etc., etc.
Ask your caterer & poll a few friends to guesstimate the # of people who will show up. You can also designate a friend or two to call people to explain the need for a decision and get one. (Create a guest list w/ ph. #s from you invitation list & have 2 columns: Yes - w/ # of people or No. Easy if you have Excel.)
Good luck.
2007-03-01 20:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Treadstone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I havent planned a wedding but everyone who I've watched go through the process has been stressed out to the max.
Thats why when I do get married, I'm just gonna have a huge party and not worry about anything
2007-03-01 20:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by zimba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not found planning my wedding to be all that stressful. (Probably the most stressful part for me was looking at all those dollar signs!!) I think the key is to just stay organized and be mindful of deadlines. I am sure your wishy-washy guests will understand if you tell them you have to get your head count to your caterer by a certain date. Good luck to you and your family!!
2007-03-02 09:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by umassbabe2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wedding planning isn't stressful the people who can't make up their minds are stressful I agree, my fiance's best friend whom I'll refer to as best man #1 stepped down in January so we asked my fiance's brother to step up from groomsman to best man #2, his wife is a pain in my behind and is causing trouble so my brother is next in line to be best man #3 if necessary not to mention best man #1's neice was gonna be our flowergirl not any more so now we don't have a flowergirl and we aren't going to either and best man #2's son was gonna be the ring bearer til his wife changed her mind so we have replaced him. FYI my wedding is March 31st this year. I've given up on the guest list invites are out if you dont rsvp just dont show up I have bigger problems.
2007-03-01 23:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may be stress ful if u plan a whole lot but if it is a little wedding it might not be stressful as a big wedding. a Big wedding would probably have u up every night planning it, i would stick with a usual wedding not big but not to small , just right for u.
2007-03-01 20:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Megan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋