My tio-to-be was and is very dear to myself and my fiance. I just wish that he would be here physcially for the wedding. I know that he will be there in our hearts and spiritually. I just wish that my fiance and I would have gotten married sooner before he had past away. So do you think a picture of him at the ceremony & wedding hall would be distateful or not?????
2007-03-01 11:49:37 · 14 answers · asked by VICKY A. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I can see that you are latin just like me. I got married 2 weeks ago and what I did was since my aunt my tia died and she was the one helping me with everything for my wedding in church since it was a catolic wedding we lid a candle and we called it se enciende una vela , se enciende una estrella in reprensentative that she was in the sky looking at us. And at the reception we did a slide show I can tell you that my guest loved. In it some pic of my tia was there and when I saw them I started crying. A t the end of it we had written on the slide show in loving memeory of my aunts name.
2007-03-01 12:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by joyceangel28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want your guests to focus on anything except you and your fiance on your wedding day. Although I can understand how much your uncle meant to you, maybe it would be better shown with a candle lighting ceremony during your actual ceremony ... a large picture of him may seem more like a memorial for him instead of your wedding.
2007-03-01 21:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it is a PICTURE it would be a very kind act. I think it would help everyone to remember him and know that you would want him there. I also think, if I'm not stepping over the line of anyone's religion here, that your uncle would like it very much to know that you care enough to still have him there in spirit.
I would just say don't go with anything like life sized cutout. That would probably be distasteful.
2007-03-01 20:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about having a memory candle in his honor at the wedding instead of the picture. You can have it lit before the ceremony begins. If you don't like that option, maybe you can place roses in an empty seat in memory of him.
2007-03-01 20:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by theplanningdiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was married a few ago and she had lost her older brother. During the candle lighting ceremony, they also had a candle for him which they lit with a special mention. It was really quite beautiful! I know that some people also like to put photo boards up of themselves, and you could also include photos of you during special moments with your uncle.
2007-03-02 15:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by springbeanqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing larger than a 5x7, in a nice frame, should be fine.
If you are talking about a poster, that might bother his wife & children.
Also you might want to discuss this with the other family members-- some may be stronly against the idea, for whatever reason, and may be upset when they arrive & see it. Death effects everyone differently.
2007-03-01 19:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG I can't begin to tell you how distasteful and tacky that would be. Put a white rosebud on the altar or somewhere in front of the place you're getting married in his memory. Nothing at the wedding hall. His memory will be in your heart.
2007-03-01 19:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. In my opinion, the only person you should worry about being offended is your husband-to-be. If he likes the idea go for it. If he was someone that was close to both of you it seems appropriate to honor him on your special day.
2007-03-01 19:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by krissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would not be the best idea because of your guest memories and feelings, however a moment of silence or a Honorable mention would be more appropriate.
2007-03-01 19:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a nice gesture to his memory and a way to include him in this celebration of your new lives together
2007-03-01 20:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋