my 19 yr.old boyfriend?
2007-03-01 11:33:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Sixteen years old - and you honestly think that you would get a legal judgment that allows you to leave home to live with a nineteen year old boyfriend?? Such a suggestion very well could have him ARRESTED in many states!
What have you been doing when you should have been going to school?
The answer is NO - you would have to prove your claims - and then you would be sent into foster care - NOT with a nineteen year old young man that is known to be involved with a sixteen year old girl in a romantic way.
2007-03-01 12:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by Toe the line 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably not without some kind of legal order of the courts. I'd advise against it however sweetie. Maybe you dont want to hear this but Im a mom of 7, 5 of them are adults now and 2 are just little guys still. I have 3 grown daughters and have seen all three of them in terribly heart breaking situations when they have done what you propose. Living with your boyfriend may sound grown up and like a good answer but take it from a former teenage rebel and mother of 7, you are still very very young and I would advise that you find extended family (if there are any decent that is) or perhaps some older female that is over 18 you trust, one who is mature enough to be your legal guardian and actually parent you. I know foster care isnt what you want to hear but there are other programs. Here in minnesota there is something called job corps. You live there (ages 16 to 25) and go to school and work until you are able to be on your own. Im sure other places have similar stuff.
word of advice-DONT try to grow up too fast, it really isnt much fun a lot of the time. Enjoy your young adult hood and get some help for what you have been through so that some day you dont pass those negative things on to your own babies.
God bless and best wishes.
2007-03-01 12:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by evertoldalie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is diffrent from state to state. the laws are diffrent. But , the best thing is to go to the police, that is if you want to report on them. Because if you just move out, they will probably look for you and then you will be on the run. I am saying this because my abusive mom took me away, and we were on the run form the police because it was illegal since she did not have the right of my costody. but when my dad had me back we live safely. Now she wont even think about getting even close to me. so it is better to put the law on your side. that is not a wise choice to do alone and at this age, becuase boyfriends come and go. What are you going to do if god forbids and you brake up? you will be left all alone. I also do not think that the police can allow you to live with your boyfriend since you are a minor. that is if you want to put the law between yourself and your parents. then you might be located with another family as a foster child or something. I do not what to tell you girl. Your biggest problem is your age. if you just wait and hold on to your sanity for a couple more years then you can creat you own path in life. Just not right now. I do not know if I make sense, but you situation is complicated and I feel yea.
I reasearched and found these sites. I do not know if they are creditable or not, but you might give it a shot
CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The hotline counselors work with translators who speak 140 languages to help people who call and speak something other than English. All calls are anonymous. (The hotline counselors don't know who you are and you don't have to tell them.)
read more about it here
http://www.uslegalforms.com/legaldefinitions/m/minors-law.php
http://www.childhelp.org/get_help/hotline-overview
http://www.lawforkids.org/speakup/view_question.cfm?id=159
http://lawcrawler.findlaw.com/scripts/lc.pl?entry=17+year+old+Alaska+minor+runaway&sites=wlegal
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/9318/
2007-03-01 12:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by faizza a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a good look at your situation. Get help from an outside source. Your good at computers so I know you know how to search for help for teens in "abusive homes." Let this be your decision not your boyfriend's. Your still a minor you don't want to make things worse by leaving unless you are being physically abused. Get help now. Don't let this be an excuse to move in with your 19 y/o boyfriend. There is a law called statutory rape. Your BF could be arrested. You can divorce your parents but you need $ for an attorney.
2007-03-01 12:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
where are you ?
If you are in Australia ... I believe there is no legal reason why you can not do so. You are over the age of consent. You could speak to centrelink about getting an away from home allowance if you are still attending school ....
BUT ALL THAT ASIDE .. and while i do not know you or your boyfriend .. Is it really the right time to embark on such a serious relationship , It's a big step and a rather big committment .. are you afraid that you may be placing yourself into dependency upon him ... anyway .. that isn't really what you asked...just make your moves with consideration .. and be safe and look after yourself.
2007-03-01 21:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by ll_jenny_ll here AND I'M BAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say not. Reason,,,,you are a minor in the eyes of the law in every state. Your parents are still in charge of you. However, if you can show that you have been abused, you can get child protectives services to take your case before a court and they will decide for you, That is the best solution. If you run away from home, that will not help your cause. Try getting hold of child protective services.
2007-03-01 11:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your county must have a social services department that can help you or you can talk to a responsible adult. If you are sexually active with a nineteen year old he is guilty of statuatory rape and can go to prison. Three years is a big age difference when you are that young. You need to seek mature and responsible advice and stay out of the living situation because you are way too young to go down that road right now.
2007-03-01 11:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to legal-aid, have yourself declared an emancipated minor, and do what the first respondent said- go live with your grandmother. No court is going to allow you to move in with a 19 year-old. They are quite able to add 2+2 and come-up with 4.
2007-03-01 11:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by 4everamusedw/humanity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on where you live. Check with local authorities. If you are looking for advice, I would say you are to young to live with a boyfriend. Try moving with one of your girlfriends for a while. Offer to help out, and try to make something like that work. You have your whole life to be a "grown-up". Finish school and stay safe!
2007-03-01 11:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Campo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to someone that you can trust. You have to talk about this to someone who will help you. You must know someone who can help you out. If you move in with your 19 year old boyfriend he could be arrested because you are a minor and he is considered an adult. Your parents could have him arrested for statutory rape or something similar.
2007-03-01 11:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋