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2007-03-01 11:33:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Weddings

15 answers

Your invitation should say
"Adult Reception to follow... etc."
That is what ours said , and do not worry, you will get calls asking about their kids. Hold your ground, Wedding are expensive!

Question though... are there children in your Wedding party? If there are, they are invited to the reception, so it will be hard to keep other from bringing their kids. Keep kids out of the wedding party and you can go with this option.

Also, keep in mind people may bring the kids to the church. (They did at ours). I was ok with that because that is the part the kids really want to see - girls especially. Then they took their kids to the babysitters and had a great time at the wedding.

Good luck!

2007-03-01 14:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0 0

If a guest rsvp's with their children, then you, your fiance, or one of the mothers should contact them and inform them that unfortunately you are not able to accommodate children. Usually once this is done, the parents will either attend without their children or chose not to attend at all. It is very rare that guests would still attend your wedding after being verbally informed that children are not being accommodated. But in the event that this happens I would recommend letting it be. Having someone ask them to leave, even kindly, could cause more of a disturbance then letting them stay.

2007-03-01 14:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0 0

This was in the "Miss Manners" column just this weekend. Her suggestion was to send a formal invite to the "children" you don't want to come to the wedding. Have a separate room with games, TV, toys, snacks, food and such and enough babysitters to entertain and control the children. On the parents invite, only invite the adults to the wedding, with a separate card explaining the childcare. At the door of the wedding and reception, have someone standing there ready to take the children where they belong. This should make it very clear to the parents what is expected. Every bride and groom are entitled to have the wedding of their choice, and if you don't want children, then you shouldn't have them. If they can't let their little ones out of their site then maybe they should not come. I hope this helps. Good luck.

2007-03-04 20:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0 1

I'm sorry....why would you ever have invite people who have children to your wedding if you didn't want children to attend?.. this was bad form and not well done....

I guess the best coarse of action ...in this situation would be honesty...when these well wishers approach you at the end of your show...just lean forward and tell them you are distressed that they presumed to bring their children and that no provisions have been made... so it would be best for all concerned if they were to leave immediately..... I guarantee you will not have to ask twice....I wouldn't even be surprised if these people never bother with you again.....than you can go about having your special day..


just remember ....at your next big show...don't invite anyone with children and all will be well...maybe you could even specification on the invitations an age... such as "no one under 21 will be admitted"...like they have on some places of business.........



Weddings were a joyous event.... a time for celebration...the joining of two families and two people in life.......now ,they have become as fake as the little plastic bride and groom on top the cake....a meaningless expensive fashion show....

2007-03-01 13:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0 1

If your invitation has two envelopes (outer w/ stamp and inner), address the outer envelope to: Mr. and Mrs. Doe. and on the inner envelope write: John and Jane (or your guest's respective names). (= Also, on the reply card you could go ahead and have their names for them to check attending or not instead of giving them the option to write X number attending.

Spread the news by word of mouth that while you love little so-and-so, the wedding is an adult affair (blame it on space if you don't want someone to think they have bratty kids!).

If they just show up, like people have said, try not to let it spoil your day!

2007-03-01 14:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda K 1 · 0 0

You mean ones that show up to the wedding already with the kids? hmmmm....

Try this... send out a special note right before the occasion and put something like...

We can't wait for you to share in our special day. Please make sure you RSVP'd. We will not be able to accomodate those who surprise us. Children will be asked to leave the reception after ____ (plave time).

If you are looking to just kick out the kids? Good luck.

You could always try to possibly find out if you can hire a couple babysitters and place them in a different banquet room with games and stuff. That way if their kids act up the babysitter can come and get you. You can find cheap sitters, get like 3 or 4... depending on the amount of kids.

hope that helps

2007-03-01 11:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Yooper chick 4 · 0 2

There isn't much you can do on the day of the wedding. Personally, if I were the bride or groom I would not go up and address this person. Perhaps, as the night goes on have the mother of the bride or groom (who ever the person is related/closet too) go up to them and express that the invitation said "no children"

I won't let this deed go unattended to. People like that are rude and should be respecting of someone elses request. Not bring children to a wedding isn't a matter of life or death. I

2007-03-01 11:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0 3

I think you have to make it clear before the event that you dont want children there! After they are already there, it will just be rude to say something. Some people assume it is okay to bring children, unless you specify!
If it happens, ignore it! It is your day and nothing as trivial should spoil it!

2007-03-01 11:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Momma 4 · 3 0

There's really nothing you CAN do, especially if you didn't know they were coming. As it is, you can't be expected to provide a meal for the child(ren) much less have them included in the guest count for anything else (meals, favors, etc.) Aside from this being extremely rude, most parents honestly wouldn't even think twice about it because they just assume their kids would be included. Unless you had something on the invite that says "Adult Only Affair" or "Adults Only Please" then you're kind of up a creek...

2007-03-01 11:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 2

Graciously......very graciously. They are there, what are you gonna do then? Run them off, then be the talk of the group for your rude behavior.

Ya know, let me give you a little hint, don't invite people with kids to functions, if you know they don't have anywhere to leave their children. It makes for uncomfortable feelings later on. And when you get pissy over someone elses kid, it breaks friendships.

Just make sure you have somewhere the kids can go, something to watch, or play, if they do show up to occupy their time.

2007-03-01 11:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 3 2

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