this best friend... to a guy i fell in love with and he dumped me.. well the best friend just told me he really likes me (has been telling me for like a month now) and i have mixed feelings. don't know if they are rebound feelings or not.. have been going back and forth and up and down. one major factor is that he is one of his best friends.. and a lot of people say the best friends are completely off-limits..... so what are your thoughts on this??
btw... that other guy and i only lasted like 5 weeks (and he lead me on the last 3 of those five.. because he started liking another girl.. and then this Best Friend was the one to Tell me..)
2007-03-01 11:24:11 · 9 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didn't mean that me and him are Best friends.. (we are good friends now yes) but i meant that he was best friends to the guy i last fell in love with..
2007-03-01 11:33:11 · update #1
thanks to all the good advice and thoughts... and also just want to add that sex is not a factor in how you are using it. i'm not going to have sex with him. and i never had sex with my ex..
2007-03-01 11:42:22 · update #2
Noone can measure what, where and when love happens. I say if you want to go out with him go ahead, it's more the friends' problem of dealing w/your ex and how he's going to handle it. It might break up their friendship but how the two of you feel is all that matters. Since your ex dumped you, I certainly wouldn't lose any sleep over how he feels about it. You might take on some talking behind your back w/his other friends but do you care? It's a sticky situation being too that this guy was the one to tell you. It's ironic that it is and it might have been his reason too so that he could ask you out. I wouldn't rush into going out w/him tho until you're over your ex...rebound feelings suck and need to be worked out before starting something w/someone else, esp w/someone you already know.
For me, the only time the best friend's rule comes into play is when it's your best friend and you're close. I would never go out w/my friends' ex esp if it ended awful for her and she was hurt by him - 1. it be like a slap in her face and 2. would you really want to date a guy who hurt your friend..cause who's to say he wouldn't also do it to you. But that's not the case here so do what you feel is right for you and if you do like him, go for it. To h e l l w/your ex, lol, he wasn't thinking of you when he started liking someone else was he?
Good luck.
2007-03-01 11:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by aweety69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is best friends with your ex, I think there are several things to consider. If you had sex with your ex, he may have bragged about it and the guy could just be out to get some of the same. On the other hand, he could be a good guy that saw positive things about you and thinks his friend was an idiot for dumping you. If you are interested, you could give him a try. Hold out on having sex until you see his true motive. You also need to decide if you want to be seeing your ex all the time. If they are best friends, you will be running into him a lot. If you still have feelings for him or if you hate him, this could be a real problem. If you still care about your ex don't use this as an opportunity to get access to him. You don't want to hurt this new guy for a reason like that.
2007-03-01 11:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by iceemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 03:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could it hurt to give a relationship a try. If the two of you really are best friends, then nothing will change even if the dating relationship ends.
2007-03-01 11:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by dwayman1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him go for it!
If you're best friends that means the relationship is already strong, and if he likes you and you just keep pushing him away, it's not like your friendship will be the same as before anyway.
2007-03-01 11:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt say that he is off limits. but if you have mixed feelings why even bother to burn your reputation by dating him and then ind out you just confused a good friendship with a possible relationship. sit down and think of how you really feel, until you are sure of how you feel, then go for it. if not keep it as that and let things fall in place by them slf.
2007-03-01 11:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by DI@n@ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a beer and a cigarette... sit back and observe your life... is it going in the direction you want? NO? make it happen baby... move on and get over it!
2007-03-01 11:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by canadians_are_imbeciles1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the best friend... sounds like he's more into you than the original anyway... have fun... good luck...
2007-03-01 11:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by metalli_catz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex will always destroy friendships.
2007-03-01 11:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋