im 18 & sr in hs & have 2 months left, but now i have nothing but regrets. I had a very good childhood, all the way up thru 8th grade when things looked promising w/ being very popular & smart & all (now that i look back). However, once in hs i got upset at people (mainly girls) for going for upperclassman & trying to be someone else, to the point where i ended up separating myself from many, including friends of a girl i liked but didnt like me, which lasted 2 yrs. also, i always loved basketball & baseball, but i got so fed up w/ politics that after getting cut soph yr, i gave up when i could have been baseball manager & now be on vars (but didnt). i feel i ran from those problems, trying to find meaning in other things in life & just isolated myself. now, i dont even know why i let basketball affect me (i wasnt that good) but had a good jr yr, & looked good again into sr yr, but after 3 jv soccer yrs, i had to miss tryouts, didnt make vars, & thus only (more below)
2007-03-01 11:14:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
regressed this yr as i lost a lot of self-conf in not making the team, & thus didnt have motiv to talk in classes & just blushed all the time. also, it ruined my chances w/ a new girl i wnted to meet w/ this yr (that completely bombed). ive just had so many little unlucky things i made a big deal about, like keeping my hairline & how i looked instead of being true to myself & others, & now i realize im not the same social, funny kid i should be & was. it sounds a lot worse thn it is, as i only have room for the bad stuff, but it basically took me this long to realize things, like i was a step behind, & now my legacy is just red & scared, when it could have been much better. i would have been much better off leaving after last yr. i have 2 months left, is that enough to leave an impression, or is it over. i feel like everything i tried for failed, im not anywhere what i want/could be & feel like i let myself & family down. what was the point of all if thats what every1 now thinks?
2007-03-01 11:14:52 · update #1
HOW MANY TIMES ARE YOU GOING TO ASK US THIS?????
2007-03-01 11:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by michael m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tigerzz, I empathize with you anxiety and frustration because I also had (seemingly) everything going my way from my Junior to Senior year. I was Editor of the yearbook, also took most of the photos which are in it. I went out drinking one night and I ran on to the Teacher/sponsor. They kicked me off the staff, sent me to study hall for the rest of the year, and they wound up still using my pics. I was disgustedly defeated. I was embarrassed and enraged. I hated the teachers who stood against me, and I was an outcast, or at least I felt like one. Knowing what I know now, it wasn't that big a deal--as I look back on it. It didn't make or break my career, it didn't prevent me from meeting my partner who is wonderful. I was all torn up over all this--but it was not as important as I was making it.
Everyone lives to some degree, in their 'own hell' for a time, but usually things which seem so important and horrible-- whatever-- are not very important.
Moral: Resolve yourself to picking up where ever you left off. Get back into any team you can. Just force yourself to get back into whatever sports you can. Do your best--and above all don't take things this seriously. It seems horrible at the time, but you can and will go through a lot of crap in life. It sometimes RAINS problems during your adult life. Learn to not worry. Things will always work out ok in the end.
The thing with girls will find it's own way too. Ten years from now you will hopefully not remember these times as tragic. No one has it easy all the time, and believe me all the kids at school are also going through their own hell at times. We tend to focus on us. The students are all not walking around thinking about you all the time. They are in their own hells at times so they aren't even focusing on you so much. Good luck. Hope this helps you.
2007-03-01 19:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?
Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."
Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.
When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.
So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.
With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.
Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.
The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.
For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?
If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.
I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.
2007-03-01 19:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't u ever worry about what other people think of u . just do what is best for u and what makes u happy u are the only one in this world that knows u and u are the one that can change u . there are alot of people out there that are aways worried about what other people think and it takes a huge to;; on there emotional state . think about what u want out of life and how hard u want to make a name for your self and go 4 it with everything you got .. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-01 19:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by tina seagraves 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In situations like this, it's easy to allow yourself to be overcome by regret and depression, but those are just two aspects that will worsen your situation and bring you further down. Don't let these things ruin you. You're only eighteen and you have a long way to go; stop living in regret, and try to fix things. It's never to late to make yourself happy, and you deserve it. Good luck:)
2007-03-01 19:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by marielpantera 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That person... that fun-loving guy is still with you.... You just pushed him aside for a little while to learn from your mistakes.... No one is disappointed in you but you....It not the things you do that matter, its who you are they love. Put closure to that part of your life. A new road is ahead of you with plenty of time to find out whys and fors of your past. Future is waiting with all it's promise.... Go out and blow them away...
2007-03-01 19:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its never too late too change. try to make friends, but dont change who u are, if u dont like drinking? doing drugs dont start them just to make friends. as for sports, i have the smae problems im forced to quit sports because i need to have a job to pay my car insurance, im a junior in hs by the way. id say try ur best but i feel freinds are the most imporatnt part of HS.
2007-03-01 19:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by philosopher101 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GOD BLESS YOU! PEOPLE CARE AND YOUR NOT A FAILURE TRUST ME ..THINK OF JESUS AND HE DIED FOR OUR SINS !
2007-03-01 19:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋