Why is it that when you tell your kids that they have to do something everyday they seem to never remember to?

Question

do it. What's the best way to get through???

Answer 1

The very fact that it's something they "have" to do, suggests it's something they won't want to do, since kids lack the internal discipline to do things they don't want to do. How you get through to them is as varied as are the fingerprints of the kids themselves. As a parent of two kids, now ages 21 and 22, I can tell you that it's the proverbial "uphill battle" all the way. And some days they surprise the dickens out of you and do everything and more that you want them to do. As a parent, and a retired mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, I have to suggest that your kids will learn, eventually, about discipline from seeing it practiced, in you, on a daily basis. When you took on the job of parenting, you took on the responsibility of raising a human being into adulthood, and surely no one told you it was going to be "cookies and cream". Everything you say and do, and don't say and don't do, goes into their computer brains and will NEVER be lost on a bad hard drive or whatever. You have to teach them how to have fun too, to some extent, as well as how to do unpleasant chores. Not only do you show them how to do their chores, but you show them how you do your chores: in what attitude and what priorities. If you try to trick them into doing them, or develop some "cutsie" way to get them to do their chores, they're going to see right through you, and give you the disrespect you deserve. Do your chores / jobs in the way you want them to do theirs. One day, as if from a magical wand or somesuch, they'll start doing it that way, to some degree, and you'll reap the rewards of your efforts, and have tears in your eyes from gladness and love and pride. But, remember this, they'll remember how you did it a LOT clearer than you do, so don't be surprised if some of what you see astounds you. You may not have known it, but you taught them by their observation of you. You'll love it all. It still astounds me how my son drives. And I have to embarrassingly, and with humor, admit, he sounds EXACTLY like me. God help us. And God Bless you.

Answer 2

Children have a different sense of time than adults do. Remember when you were a child, how a day seemed so long and a year seemed FOREVER. Children are bombarded with so much information that they just don't retain it. Hey, I'm an adult and I can't remember much so I always have to write things down.

If its something they have to do everyday, why not make a bulletin board. Use an erasable whiteboard and write down the items (like make bed, brush teeth) and they can check off after the item is done. If they are too young to read, just use pictures to denote the item.

The most important thing to kids is their parents love. They want to please you and to do what you want them to do.

Answer 3

All kids are the same they never like to do what they are asked off unless it will benifit them. I have yet to here of a child that listens when chores are being handed out. Maybe start slow by giving a chore a couple times a week. If you have more than one child alternate days and chores.

Answer 4

I am a kid myself. The reason they do that is because they have so many things on there mind or just don't want to do something. I got out of the habit of that though because if I didn't do what I was told i would get like 5 min. off of bed time which is not fun!!!

Answer 5

There are two ways to help them learn this responsibility: Respect and Humor. Either post a note in their rooms or have them. Tell them you will never remind them again. Tell them the consequence for failure to remember and get it done. Then, never mention it again. If they forget, they suffer. Another approach is to "forget" to make dinner for the night. When they start asking, simply tell them, "I forgot, you know, like when you forget to make your bed. Maybe I'll remember tomorrow." Then go make yourself a snack and see how fast those beds get made.

Answer 6

Cause it's probably something they don't want to do therefore they are not going to do it everyday. Good luck on that.

Answer 7

make consequences, and DONT DROP THEM. dont let them get off with the "oh come on! one more chance!" or the old "i PROMISE ILL DO IT TOMORROW!!!" make consequences for not doing it, and ENFORCE THEM EVERY DAY

Answer 8

tell you kids... "as soon as you're done with what i'm asking you to do... the sooner i will stop telling you to do it".

Answer 9

they dont forget, they just dont feel like doing it!!
Trust me, I'm a kid!