Ive been raising my 15 yr old dd by myself all her life. I have devoted every bit of me to raise her with all I have. She is such a good kid and has such a good head on her shoulders, no drugs, anything like that. Im so proud of her. The problem is that this last few months, she has really gotton mean and hurtful towards me. And it just hurts my heart so bad, it brings me to tears everyday. I know shes a teenager, I used to be one, and I remember the emotions. But I am so sensitive, and so is she. Its has gotton to the point where I cant hold a normal conversation with her anymore because Im in fear I may say something wrong, and set her off. There is so much silence in the car and in the house. Its only the two of us and it gets really sad and tensioned filled in the home. I knew this was going to happen to a point, but I didnt think it was going to hurt me everyday. People say, shes a teen, just hang in there. but its really effecting my life. My home is so sad. I love her so much.
2007-03-01 10:44:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I try to be there for her to listen, but she never wants to talk. If she does say something to me if I say anything about it she goes off and says she wish she wouldnt have told me. I cant talk to her and she wont let me listen. I dont think anything is going terribly bad at school, im pretty sure shes going thru typical stuff.
2007-03-01 10:46:27 · update #1
im sorry i am not a mother of a teenage daughter.
but i did used to BE a teenage daughter.
and i acted much like your daughter. except i didnt say mean things (i would have been punished) but i hurt my mother with my silence. Your house sounds like mine at 16. if possible i didnt say two words to my mom all day.
your daughter is going thru things she THINKS you dont understand. she may or may not be right. please dont try to force her into friendly conversation. thats what made me turn from my mom. she was always offering her unwanted opinion and badgering me for info or passing judgement. she will come around. she needs to figure out things for herself and thats ok. just let her know ur there if she need you. at this age your friends are your family, they are the only ones who get you. it will pass.
p.s. find an outlet for yourself. I was the center of my moms world, she had no friends, my dad was long gone, and she hated her job and co-workers. so i was her sole source of interest, entertainment, conversation, etc..... it was weird and a lot of pressure, and most times downright annoying. get a hobby or something of your own maybe something that will draw her interest as well.
2007-03-01 12:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i know exactly what you are going through am in the same boat my daughter is seventeen now and I feel the same tension i have a teenage boy and he never went through this he gave me hard time as a child but not a teenager and my daughter was sweet as a child and now its the opposite, and like you when she is being mean it hurts but I hold it in and then I cry when am alone. Its very odd when she is in a good mood but for the most part i give her the space she needs. And it is a fade they go threw so try not to take it personally take her shopping grab something to eat even if the conversation is minimal, rent movies she's intrested in and see them together, don't worry it will take a while for us but she will back maybe when she starts college. I cant help you much on this but i just wanted to let you know your not alone, your a great mom your not doing anything wrong so just hang in there and she will be back. Good luck
2007-03-01 12:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough raising a teenager, but it does get better, I hope. I am a single mother, not by choice my husband passed, of three and two are teens and one preteen, tow girls one boy so I am getting the drama of both sexes.
From everything I have learned from working with teens and getting advice from others it will pass, and it won't take to long. I also get advice that if it does seem to be prolonged to investigate find out who her Friends are talk with the school, don't just wait for the report card.
This is a rough hard world and if her behavior is way out of the norm then you may need to expect the worse and test or get her tested for drugs.
Now is far from being the age of just being her Friend, now is the age of being her mom and Love her enough to not trust a tiny bit.
Don't get me wrong there probably is nothing wrong other than the fact that you little girl is becoming a women and it scares her just as much as it does you, thus causing conflict not only with herself but with you. Just do be aware that other things can change behavior.
2007-03-01 10:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by Marla D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by earles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has something happened at her school, with her dad, her boyfriend, or among her friends? Sometimes other areas in a teenager's life can influence on how she is at home. The best thing is to approach her without being confrontational on what is bothering her with an open question.
2007-03-01 10:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is at that age i wonder have she lost her virgin. Does she seem more mature. I was blessed i did not have to work when i had children. I was very much in the school until graduation from HS. I feel for you the pressure at school, boys. Be still and watch her actions, listern but no advice unless she ask for it. Go to the library and get books for her and you to read about answers to questions for teenagers growing up. God help u
2007-03-01 10:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im 15 yrs. old and I think ur daughter is acting like that because of her friends, I know im not a mother or anything like that, but whatever it is thats making her like this toward you
you need to talk to her about it and not fear saying something wrong, if you have sumthin to say then say it. you are the mother and you shouldnt let her speak to you any kind of way. you need to demand respect.
2007-03-01 11:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by $t3pH@n!3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years will cure your problem with your teen. That's when she's considered an adult.
2007-03-01 11:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋