k so there is this guy who has liked me for about a month now.. told me so and has been trying to get me to like him back.. but the problem is that he told me he liked me the first time like only a Week after i got dumped by one of his best friends.. and so with his persistant compliments though and him trying to get me to like him, i think i may have developed some feelings for him. but i don't know.. but i have already told him that i don't like him like that.. and after this month he's now finally like i'm moving on then since you don't feel the same way. that gave me the most sad empty feeling, so i don't know if that means anything..? he also said he doesn't want to be friends, because it would be too hard since he wants more than that. so maybe i have these "feelings" Now because i will lose him entirely from my life if i don't say i like him soon. but he has also told me he doesn't like the whole bf gf terms thing.. so if he "wants more" then isn't that 'The more'??
2007-03-01 10:30:24 · 13 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your "feelings" for him, if they are genuine would be About HIM and not you. Love is not self serving, love is an act that is sacrificial toward another. If your being sad is because you are losing the attention you got from him then it is not about him...it's about you. Your feelings are not about him...your feelings are for YOUR loss.
see?
Sounds like he wanted more than you were able to give. True feelings take time though, NO one falls in LOVE in a few days...they are infatuated...TOTALLY different thing. Infatuation only turns to love when both parties like the other person so much that they are willing to put their own egos aside for the other.
2007-03-01 10:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, who out there doesn't like attention and flattery from the opposite sex? And who wouldn't feel at least a little upset when someone who was all sugar and roses before, tells us we are just too frustrating to be around. It sounds like you have always been 100% fair and honest with him, so my advice is: get over it.
I should hope that if you like a guy, it is because he is for the most part being himself, not because he is only working hard to please you and put on a good face.......
~Donkey Hotei
2007-03-01 18:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he would be a good rebound guy, but as for dating another person's friend, are the two close before he dumped you? Guys are deceptive sometimes and just want to get laid, and they'll do whatever it takes, just be careful. You just got out of a relationship, put your guard up.
2007-03-01 18:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know you so I really can't say.All I can say is look deep inside yourself.Figure out if you just want to be with him out of pity(which is a no-no).If you have some feelings that are more than just friends,but you can't call it love,suggest to start out slow.Did you say one of you is moving away?If that's so,I always suggest against long-distance relationships.
2007-03-01 18:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by cultureslum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do and you know it.......tell him, trust me when a woman likes a guy for more than 3 weeks she definitely likes him usually within 3 weeks the girl decides to move on.
2007-03-01 18:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Blueberry. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This has happend to me before, I thot I like this guy because I had a dream that we was makin' out. But then I toldly figurd out is was false. Yours is false too.
2007-03-01 18:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by A_YAHOO_USER 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok it is too soon for anything. Takes some time to think about things and ask him to give you some time.Hang out with him and see what happens.But take your time.And be honest with yourself and him.
2007-03-01 18:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by ????????????????????? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think this guy's onto you like he means it...
onto you in bed is close to the answer if i say so myself....
Who knows? time will tell...
one way or the other though, one of you must make a move if it means something
2007-03-01 18:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by SEDATED 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to take so "me" time and ask yourself, "do I really want to be with him" forget about his persistancancy and any other factors and think about your feelings and your feelings alone. Then act off of that.
2007-03-01 18:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if we wants to be more than friends then wouldnt bf and gf be the next step? it seems like you like him and he's confused or he just doesnt know what he wants. ask him what "more" he wants.
2007-03-01 18:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by mayris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋