my boyfrend's parents are not christian and they never go to church how can i prevent my boyfrend from not going to church..i want him to meet me in heaven..
2007-03-01 10:21:16 · 15 answers · asked by Mila 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maybe YOU'RE the one going to the wrong church and YOU'RE not going to meet him in heaven.
He's probably asking the same exact question...
2007-03-01 10:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him if he is interested in becoming a Christian. If he is not, you need to either: A) stay with him anyway but leave him alone about his religious choices and respect his decision or B) find a Christian boyfriend who already goes to church.
You can't go around changing people or pushing your beliefs on him. If he doesn't believe in heaven, he won't be worried about meeting you there.
2007-03-01 18:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by blahblah 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force your values/beliefs on another person. However, being a Christian myself, I can understand your concern.
Let your boyfriend see God in your life, in your choices, in your attitudes, in how you deal with problems and how you deal with good times. Nothing is more powerful than someone "seeing Jesus in you".
Invite him to church, youth group, or other church functions - but be gracious if he declines. As a Christian and someone who cares about him, all you can do is open the door for him and let him know he is welcome. You cannot be responsible for the choice he ultimately makes.
Don't push or cajole or pressure him - to me that is one of the things some Christians do that is very harmful. I feel it turns more people away from faith than towards it.
Be caring, be open on what your faith means to you, how it affects your day to day life and open the door. The next step is his. God bless.
2007-03-01 22:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Just Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him to go to church and just because he's not Christian doesn't mean he's not going to heaven. Well, he must be a good person since you're going out with the guy so I think he will go to heaven. I think all good people go to heaven.
2007-03-01 18:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can invite him to come with you but you can't make him. Lots of people believe different things, or nothing at all. Personally I say that if God is truly such an egocentric maniac that he'll make people who tried to be nice to other people but just didn't pray to Him go to hell, and allows others who messed up a lot but constantly prayed into heaven, then I don't want anything to do with Him.
2007-03-01 22:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to attend to church with you. If he doesn't want to, then don't push the matter further.
You can't push someone to change something as deep and personal as religious belief. That kind of change must happen within.
If you can't envision your future with a non-religious/non-practicing man, then you should really tell him so. If you continue on in this relationship knowing that it won't work out, then you're just wasting his and your time.
2007-03-01 19:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by calypso_suicide 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if everyone would believe the same thing. That way everyone would be together, whether in heaven, hell, or where ever. Unfortunately, each must find his own way. You cannot be resposible for the soul of another. That is left up to the individual and his/ her own free will.
And who says you're right and they won't get into heaven?
2007-03-01 20:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you go to church on a regular basis? If so, then invite your BF to join you on Sundays @ church. If not, then find a church you feel comfortable at, get involved, and ask your BF to join. Explain to him that this means a lot to you. If he is adamant about not going, then maybe you need to find a new boyfriend, one who shares your religious values.
2007-03-02 16:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by georgiagrits1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is just your boyfriend it should not be a issue. But if you choose to marry him than you should tell him you wishes and you could get married in the church of you upbringing, I am sure if he loves you enough to marry you this will not even be a issue.
2007-03-05 15:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can "ask" him if he can go with you sometime or in some special date like Christmas, Thanksgiving or whatever, but you can not force him to go with you.
Plus he doesn't need to go to church every Sunday to go to heaven he just needs to be a good person and love and respect God above all things.
2007-03-05 16:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by united we stand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋