should i be hurt or should i be mad and say samething please help
2007-03-01 10:14:25 · 19 answers · asked by layeye78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just be glad he lived maby hes not quite himself terrable things happen over thier just you go see him let him know you love him
2007-03-01 10:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by howdy doody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Linda,
I can understand how you feel towards your brother; especially after worrying about his safety all this time, but I am sure that he must be tired too.. Needs time to settle in and everything.. Guys are also different than girls in that way, they do love their siblings but have a way to hid their feelings.. Sometimes just the feeling of know that you matter enough for him to call or come over for a coffee.. Why don't you call him and see how he is doing and tell him how much you worried while he was away.
Some people will take it the wrong way if you tell them how you feel and take it personally, so if I were you, I would show him how important family is to you by your actions and hope that he can learn in that way..I know your brother loves you, but guys do not show their feelings like a female...
I will wish you all the best Linda and hope that all works out for you..
KATT
2007-03-01 18:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, don't be mad, the man has seen things you shouldn't see or experience things no one should experience in 10 lifetimes. Veterans of war never come home the same way, he has been living in hell for 2 years and he has to adjust. He's lost his sense of home and probably of self.
He needs you to be understanding, caring and nurturing now more than he has ever needed you in his life. You need to reach out to him, to make him feel safe, secure and that his world isn't coming apart. That are people who will protect him like he protected us.
Contact him asap, tell him you love him and will be there for him whenever he needs you to be. Whenever he's ready you will come to him to support him and love him and keep him safe because he needs that right now.
Don't be hurt or mad, it's not about you, it's about him right now and getting him back home, not just physically but also mentally.
I hope you call him ever day, if just to say hi, I love you and I am here.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-01 18:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should your Brother, be the one to come see you? If he were my brother, I would have run, not walk, to go see him, because you really do not know what are he is feeling, and maybe just maybe if he is Married and has a Family, he would like to be able to spend some time alone with them, and be able to feel their Love and finding comfort from them. Give the poor guy some time to gather his thoughts together,and I am sure that he will come around to see you, or better yet, why don't you go and welcome him Home and maybe that is what he is waiting you to do. Above all else Thank God for bringing him Home to all of you, and Please remind him to give Thanks to our Lord and Savior for letting him come be home with all of you as I mentioned before. God Bless you and remind him that there are a lot of People that are rooting for our Soldiers, and wish them well over there.
2007-03-01 18:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Ma'am, do not be mad, do not say anything,,,he came back alive and that is a blessing, I've been in Iraq and still am...i can't wait to come home...I wouldn't think that my family will put me through drama if I came to see them or not, I would dream that they will come running to my house to welcome me back and have a yellow ribbon wrapped around the tree in the front yard....
Congratulations...go see - OUR hero - and thank him for me for serving our Country, whether he is military or contractor...alike..
2007-03-05 13:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be hurt. YOU go to HIM. What he has experienced is not something you are familiar with. He needs time to adjust so be a great sister and go to him. He isn't here to cater to your needs right now.
2007-03-01 18:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you close before he left?? If not don't expect things to change and suddenly he's this new person. While he was away did you try to contact him, he could be hurt too.
2007-03-01 18:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to get mad...just simply tell him that it hurt your feelings that he didn't come see you when he got home.
2007-03-01 18:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be hurt and mad,b.c. you don't get to see him,and he did not think of the only time he had to come home to see him.Tell him how you feel.
2007-03-01 18:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes home hes safe an hes been through alot give him some time or go an see him
2007-03-01 18:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by LovelyBrownEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋