I was in the cafeteria today, minding my own business. Then all of a sudden this girl, who is sitting down, says excuse me, and I am like yeah? I walk to the table and this guy is sitting there. She asks me.. my friend wants your phone number.. and I quickly tell a lie and say I already have a bf. The guy who she is referring to is sittng their smiling and blushing and such. When I say i have a bf.. she says who. I say somebody back at home. Keep in mind this is at the college cafeteria. so I am assuming they have seen me before. This is not the first time something like this has happened. All men seem to be scared of me for some reason and get their female friends to get my attention. What is your take on this? I just want an opinion. Keep in mind that i am kind of on the quiet side. I don't consider myself attractive, but they obviously like something. Why do u think men do this to me?
2007-03-01 10:08:39 · 12 answers · asked by I <3 you 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not respond to this guy bc firstly, he was too scared to come up to me himself, and secondly I do not like forwardness. If he would have introduced himself. I may have considered taking his number.. however I won't just date every guy that wants my number. That shows that they are only interested in me for physical reason, and that they are not taking the time to get to know me.
2007-03-01 10:11:18 · update #1
the only reason I "tell a lie" is bc I don't want to say I am not interested. To be honest, which one do u think would be more hurtful to him.. me saying I already have a bf or me saying no I am not interested? Honesty is the best policy, but I did not want to hurt his feelings. I have been HONEST before and these men no longer want to have anything to do with me when I am HONEST. In the past I have not called them out.. I just simply said I am not interested, and they disliked me from that point on.
2007-03-01 10:22:53 · update #2
From you're additional details i would be very intimidated by you, you clearly not shallow and I'd bet you're one of those gorgeous quite girls who every guy just can't approach because he feels like it would be inappropriate unless he had some pretext to. That's probably why he asked his friend to ask you and that's probably why a lot of guys do that to you
2007-03-01 10:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happen to me and i wish i had taken the number or invite from my pastor because the man ask him first.
I believe there is nothing wrong with that. Look a the person that is asking for you and call the number. You might get blessed.
You might me be old and alone.
2007-03-01 10:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your prettier than you think. And some guys are just so immature. Hopefully next time you can say "I dont give my phone number to people I don't even know" that's the truth and these girls will respect you for it.
2007-03-01 10:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy wants to get your number so he can get to know you
u don't go for every guy that's a personality trait and probably one of the reasons he has a crush on you
you souund like a good girl
you "quickly tell a lie" i know if they knew that they wouldn't admire you .
2007-03-01 10:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't like to get rejected so many times we get our female friends to approach girls we like to see if they are interested in us. That way, we can avoid rejection. It is alot easier this way.
2007-03-01 10:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if a guy wants to get to know you he needs to get your number in order to ask you out, so he can get to know you. all men only want you to get to know you at first for your attributes, we don't know you, so how could we want anything else at first, we like what we see so we go after it and get to know it and if we like it we stay, if not we move on, simple!!
2007-03-01 10:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just drop him, I like the confident but not TOO foward of an approach.
2007-03-01 10:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have the gut. :(
If he really wanted you, he have to do it personally and not sent some messenger.
Like that other comments, he could be spying so he doesn't get suffer for embarrassment.
2007-03-01 10:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may be really shy,I was like that at first in highschool.
2007-03-01 10:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a down to earth person, use your own judgement
2007-03-01 10:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋