Whats My Girls Problem With Sex?

Question

She just wont go through with it and its killing me inside.I have been involved with her for about a year now and She just cant.She's only been with 1 other guy and said she made him wait a year before she gave him her virginity and 8 years and a kid later she's realized how much of a scum bag he is and I helped her out of the mess as her friend and we fell in love with each other.This isnt about my hormones so please leave that "You A Dog" bullsh** out of this.Im still here after a year and I have been through a lot with her.I love this girl more than anything but I feel like she dont really want me or something.I also feel like I mean less to her than her ex did.She gets all into it and everything but then we end up stopping.Ive gotten hand jobs at least and some oral but she has a hard time letting me touch her.I dont want her to feel like she has to but I want her to want it and enjoy me.What can I do.What can I say.Im not gonna leave/cheat but I want 2 make love 2 the girl I lov

Answer 1

Hmmm, tough problem. It seems to me that the problem is not you at all, but rather that your girl is scared of physical commitment. She has only been with one guy, and look how that turned out, so she is having trouble allowing you. She may need counselling to help her through this issue. In the mean time, you can be as nice to her as possible, and never let her know that you NEED sex or affection. Try to affectionate without being sexual - when you're holding her hand, stroke her fingers and palm gently. Offer her a massage. Kiss her, but don't try and take it any further. Let her know that she ois beautiful, but without being sleazy. Another option is to watch a movie with her that you know has a hot scene in it - not porn, just a good love scene, and hold her as you watch it. I hope things work out for you.