I don't know why I can't get a girlfriend...theres always somethin stopping me...probably I hate them, or I really have some "wierd" behaviour, or all girls are bitches, I neither have intimate girlfriend or just a common female friend. Probably I think the girls are too special?
I am happy with my life except with this thing...I think I am attractive and interesting person, but the experience shows the opposite.
I don't know...
2007-03-01 09:57:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you probably are too nice or try too hard... if you act sorta friendly but uninterested they will like you more... they want what they cant have... seriously
2007-03-01 10:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by michael 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worrying about this way too much. In my experience, the girls are just as insecure as you are. You need to "chill" (did I date myself) & just concentrate on making friends in general w/o being freaked about whether they are girls or guys. My DH had exactly 2 dates before he met me...& he got ME! :) I, on the other hand, dated a bunch of jackasses in high school. I promise, dating was an emotional roller coaster that I do not recall w/fondness. Do not get to the point that you cannot function b/c of this. My sis spent half of high school freaked b/c of guy-related anxiety. She eventually went on anti-anxiety meds, completely removing all her inhibitions & became a drunken ho until she woke up pregnant & still living at home at 26. Alternatively, my bro-in-law didn't even start dating until 28, but he married at 31. The point: There is no time at which you have somehow missed the opportunity to meet a nice girl. Just make some friends of both genders & have fun.
2007-03-01 18:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tom's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date a lot of different girls and be friendly with them and if there's a chance for something physical put a sock on the pickle. Just chill out about it. Maybe go to a psychologist to talk about your attitudes towards women. How do you get along with your mom? Do you have a younger sister? Sometimes that can create resentment towards women in a male. Explore your attitudes towards women and get those ideas out in the open. This will help you you to better understand them and control them. Just remeber- women are just people with vaginas and boobs. There's nothing to be afraid of.
2007-03-01 18:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your talking about as far as guys for me except i realized that most people who do have a gf or bf either are totally in love with eachother or just dont want to be alone and the girls are sluts. i stay original and free so i can do whatever i want. im fine being me right down to my soul. honestly you and i are alike in alot of ways. but w/e anywho if you dont want a girlfriend or a good friend whose a girl then fine thats how you are. just live life how you want to. dont sit there and think about yourself and your experience. most guys are asses or druggies (at least everyone i know) i have only 2 guy friends who are truly awsome. so id say you sound like they type of guy who is awsome all because you can do whatever you want and you dont have a slutty chik hanging on your arm. you're free to just do whatever.
i feel like i live the perfect life just because i can be me. you should too. haha
Keep it original my friend.
2007-03-01 18:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by originalnikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That IS weird man. Before u go out trying to hook up women, u probably want to try cultivating a few platonic female friendships. They can help u identify what ur doing wrong without the pressure of u trying to impress them.
Ive seen oodles of attractive women with homely guys or losers, so clearly thats not it. You may want to see if ur somehow projecting some misogynistic, self sabotaging behavior that happens with low confidence around the opposite sex, like using degrading sexual language around women, or exhibiting aggressive or threatening behavior. That'll turn nearly every female off, friend or not.
2007-03-01 18:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look you know what u should do from a girls perpective figure out what the girl likes without making it stalkly creepy and be uyourself. Maybe you should start some casual converstion with a girl. Then start hanging out with her a little bit more and then after maye a week or two ask her out.
2007-03-01 18:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by rosiegal95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. It seems as if you are afraid of girls or maybe what I mean to say is that you might be afraid of being rejected. Girls are people and so I don't see why you should have a problem talking to them at least. You talk to your mother, don't you? And while I'm on the subject of your mother, why don't you have a talk with her? She knows you best and therefore she would be an expert and she might shed some light on your dilemma.
2007-03-01 18:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard. Wait for the right lady and it'll fall in place. Women hate desperation. when you meet a woman, don't think about a relationship, just let it take it's course.
2007-03-01 18:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by thecraze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep doing what you are doing....be yourself. these girls are probably too young to realize what a good guy really is. most girls (or women) don't appreciate nice guys until they are in their mid 20's. until then, they usually are attracted to the typical "cool guys" or jerks. don't worry, your time will come and you will make some girl very happy.
2007-03-01 18:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first girls are all not bitches but a few are that i know of but maybe u are just trying t hard i think u need to just relax and then u will find the girl of ur dreams
2007-03-01 18:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mabye your too forward when talking to girls. Or girls dont see you as the kind of guy they want to be with. Just be chill. When a girl likes you you'll know. Why dont you go out and go girl hunting. Like go out to parties or try a new look. Just make sure that your not gonna change who you are just to please someone else.
2007-03-01 18:05:04 · answer #11 · answered by Alli 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋