I'm 5'7" and currently weigh 260 lbs. I never had a problem dating in high school or my first year of college b/c i weighed 105-125. But i started gaining weight rapidly my 2nd year of college until i got to what i am now. Every time i ask a guy out they say no and are really mean about it. i realize i'm fat and unattractive but i don't see why people have to degrade me when a simple no would do. I started asking out guys who were alot heavier than me (350-400 lbs) and even they tell me i'm too fat for them they prefer thin girls. I'm not sure how they expect to get these thin girls if they are that fat. whatever. anyway how much weight should i lose in order to be appealing to men again?
2007-03-01 09:57:28 · 12 answers · asked by griffin_1981 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Weight counts. Don't let anybody tell you differently because you know that's PC BS. If you don't know what's wrong then you need to see a doctor about it, or maybe a psychiatrist. I'd go with the psychiatrist because this happened so suddenly in your soph year in college, but that doesn't mean it can't be a health problem that suddenly reared its head. There's no reason to be mean about it, but you need to confront this realistically.
2007-03-01 13:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The important thing is that you are happy with yourself. You need to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy. You else need to have self confidence and not put yourself down so much. There is no magic number of pounds you need to lose. If you are not happy with yourself right now, lose as much weight as you need to before you are happy. Many men are cruel to overweight women, but some men actually like heavier women. Do what you need to do to be happy and confident in yourself and let the rest happen naturally.
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2016-09-30 02:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off DONT LOSE THE WEIGHT TO GET A MAN..men arent worth it.....their such idiots sometimes.....and trust me there ARE men out there who do like us biggies....Im a big girl myself....and have the same problem.....
You are a beautiful person inside and out....keep telling yourself that and when its meant to be that you get someone it will happen...stop beating yourself up over it....and for heavens sake dont chase after men----makes you look desperate......and sometimes easy.....I use to chase men and learned that it just makes them run faster and further....
You need to work on your self esteem first.... for every negative thing you say about yourself I want you to write 5 positive things and keep telling yourself that your just as pretty as thin chicks and are just as deserving to have someone and that its a mans loss if he isnt into you.....Theres more to you to love......You make me want to cry because Im in the same boat right now....
men (and woman) are cruel.....society is cruel.....but just because we are heavy doesnt mean that we are unattractive or dont get hurt......they all can kick rocks and kiss our asses......
If you want to lose your weight DO IT FOR YOU---- when you feel ready to do it do it.......but dont do it for a man..... work on YOURSELF and be happy with yourself and the rest will fall in place....
Good Luck
2007-03-01 10:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing,b.c. they should like you for who you are.There is someone out there for you who will take you for you.Don't lose for anyone else,if you lose weight do it for yourself.Its no good having a man who does not except you.What if you unexpectingly gain some weight,or get pregnant whether you married or not,he's going to leave.So the best bet is find a true guy.
2007-03-01 10:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you need to lose wait for yourself not a man!! You are at a very un-healthy weight right now. Go to your doctor and ask him what your ideal weight should be. Work on yourself 1st before looking for a guy.
2007-03-01 10:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be yourself -- if you want to lose weight for you then do so --- there are a lot of guys who do like larger ladies (and from my experience they are very thin guys) --- and while i would never suggest changing for a guy i would suggest that you do lose weight if only for your health ---- best wishes
2007-03-01 10:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the weight, its how YOU look at yourself.
if you have confidence and act like you are sure of yourself, then you shouldnt have a problem.
2007-03-01 10:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are complete jerks
maybe your asking the wrong guy
2007-03-01 10:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your doctor how overweight you are.
Then that much.
2007-03-01 10:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋