please help!! i dont know what to do.i know its long but please read it for me...i cant take this anymore?

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okay its a lot to write so ill sum it up.

basically its like this...im 16 and im one of 3.i have a twin sister and little brother.i dont fit in at all...everyone but my brother hates me.(dont say they dont.u have no idea)im always compared to them and my parents say why cant you be like your sister?they treat me like im not good enough.they even call me a *****.my sister is just like them.3 months ago i had sex with my boyfriend(i wasnt thinking and no im not gonna again until im married)my parents foudn out and things went downhill.theyve always been strict and mean and sometimes even slap me on the face.But now..is like EVERY little tihng i do gets me in trouble..even like not making my bed or something stupid like that.along with all that i stopped talking to my old friends-i noticed how fake they all were and i dont wanna be like that,even if it means im not popular anymore.last but not least my boyfriend tries to help me with my problems

but rather than try to help tells me what to do and even if i say im doing it he says im not and gets mad at me and tells me im not trying and im making it worse.No one knows how bad this is that im going through.i cry every day and end the day crying myself to sleep.i cant take this.ive talked to a counselor and no im not gonna tell anyone they slap me.i cant do that.but i need to know how to handle this.i dont like being like this.please help.i have no idea how do deal with this.its been going on for a long time

Answer 1

Don't worry, most of the people we have to go thru some situations like yours at your age, but unfurtunally seem to be that parents forget that they were teens ones, and try to do things difficult to others. In short, you are doing just what you should do, talk about your problem, try to look for help, profesional help at your school, or church. Don't go to peaple with more problems, then you..
Good luck. you are not alone.
If you need to talk to some one, I like to listen..

Answer 2

I know how desperate things seem right now, you need to try and hang in there. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is really all that understanding and hon once you have sex it's real hard to stop having it and that may be part of the problem with him, if he really loves you he'll respect your decision to not do it anymore. You won't have much longer to have to live under your parents roof, what do you have planned for the future, school, job, any solid plan. That might be a good focus, if your school work allows, you could get a part time job and save, save, save so when the time comes you can move out. Get a plan in place, have a talk with your guidance counselor about your goals and how to reach them, that's what their job is. I wish there was something more I could say to assure you that you will get through this.

Answer 3

Honey, it's amazing you've made it through all of this... You said you've talked to a counselor.. Try talking to a counselor again and let everything out... You need to tell the counselor that they slap you in the face and ridicule and demoralize you for no apparent reason... If you don't let it all out to someone, I can tell you from experience, things will only get worse.

Long story short, I was in an extremely stressful situation (different from yours, but stressful nonetheless) and I couldn't take it any more..I thought I couldn't tell anyone EVERYTHING..BUt then I got the courage to do so and things got better.. I'm telling you this because I know from experience that if you let it all out to someone you trust and know can help you out- like a counselor, things WILL get better..

I hope things get better, hun.. You're strong, and you'll make it through.

Have you ever tried writing? If you haven't, you should try it sometime..It's a wonderful form of release... You can rip it up and throw it away after if you don't want anyone else to see it... But it can be very therapeutic for some people. Try it and see if it works for you. If it doesn't, then leave it alone ,but at least you tried something.

Answer 4

Make new friends and hang on for two more years. I don't know if it is really as bad as you think, at your age a lot gets confusing. Been there, done that. But, if you feel like you just cant take it anymore, then you have to choose to move out and go your own way. Where the money is gonna come from and who you live with are choices u need to consider. It might make home look like it isn't that bad after all. Talk to your counselors and stay positive. Good luck

Answer 5

Man, it sounds like you are in a bad situation.

Do you have any close family members that you can talk to or live with at least until you are 18 years old.

I think by bringing your boyfriend into it all, it is making your situation even worse.

No one seems to understand the pain that you are going through. THe only thing that I could recommend is counseling. T
The also have hotlines that you can call.
Just sometimes by talking about your problems can make you feel a whole lot better.

Just try talking to someone that you can trust that won't get you in trouble.

Sorry you have to go through this....Try to keep your Head up!

Answer 6

First of all, if they slap you in your face, that is abuse. Plain and simple. No if, ands or buts. You say you couldn't do that to them, but you can't stand it anymore? Hon, your bf is a jerk, dump him. He shouldn't tell you what to do, and he certainly shouldn't be acting like that. As for your sister, talk to her. I know not all twins have that "bond", but you do have the sister bond which should be worth something. Dont' accuse. Just say, "this is how I feel you're treating me", "it makes me feel..." Same goes for mom. If they don't listen or they get mad, or something other than a loving response, you really should think about finding someplace else to live. And if that means reporting them, then thats how it has to be. You giving them an opportunity to show you love and correct the situation is all you can do. You are apparently old enough to look out for yourself if they wont. Them treating you like that ESPECIALLY after you've called them on it is their own choice. Sometimes life sucks. You have to make the best out of it, no matter the situation. Keep your chin up, and keep walking. You'll come out of this and in one piece. Whatever you do, don't forget your brother who is good to you. Make sure you keep that relationship going good. Good luck. I wish you the best.

Answer 7

Ashley, when I was your age I felt the same way. No-one could convince that I was not adopted, hated etc. I used to hide myself in my books and i used to keep a journal. In that journal i would write down how I felt. I also wrote letters to problem solvers of the day - you know people like Dear Abby etc. [but I am not in Dear Abby's jurisdiction :)] - anyway the letters were never actually sent as i only used the writing to vent. I came upon a few of the letters recently......

My point? What you are feeling are your true feelings, regardless of whether or not your family really hates.

You must find a positive way to deal with it. Maybe you can involve yourself in some activity that you really love, write poems, short stories about what u are feeling but changing the 'characters...?

Hope this has helped.

Answer 8

Hey.I know how hard it is to always getting compared.(I have a twin sister too). Both me and my sister always get compared by our friends. I know what it is like getting treated like crap.(Trust me I know) When I was little my parents got divorced. I would go every other week to his house. When I wasn't there he would take my sister to the movies. When my dad got a girl friend I got treated worse. She would make my dad turn on my sister and I. Trust me I know how it feels when you get blamed for evey thing.If your boyfriend is telling you what to do now. I don't think he is right for you. I have talked to a cosuler about my problems too. Some school consulers didn't work for me. My mom looked and looked for a good consuler. Trust it help. If you ever need some one to talk to then you can contact me k. I hope this helps you. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 9

The main key is to be strong.
The only person you can truly depend on is you.
If your parents hate you talk to them and explain what's going on, tell them comparin u with other ppl makes you feel bad.
the real thing to do is let out what your keepin inside, because it will hurt you mentally when you don't.
find somethin to do when your angry, like when im angry i write.
and this makes me feel so much better. another thing you can do is move away, get a job and just move somewhere u wont. or just move with someone who cares about you.
i know life is being hard on you rite now, but don'r give up. there's always a bright side in life. just think about the children who are dying and starving and be happy.
also when ur sad add up the benefits in your life.
good luck!

Answer 10

Listen honey, just be yourself. Your parents really should know better, you are not your sister, you're you. They aren't being fair to you and more importantly are abusing you and it sounds like the boyfriend wants to control you not help you. You absolutely need to tell someone how you're being treated at home. Especially the slapping. What do you mean your "not going to do that to them"? They don't seem to care about what they're doing to you!