Sorry man. It takes time to heal. Try to do things to keep your mind off of it. It took me 2 years to open up again after I got out of a bad relationship. I'm glad I opened up when I did, though. I met someone soon after that I'm still with after 2 1/2 years. You'll find someone else, but it may take some time.
2007-03-01 09:38:56
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answered by Anonymous
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Sorry to hear. You're not alone, though. Find someone you can confide in. Someone who will listen and offer hugs. Touch is therapeutic. So is exercising (increases endorphins which is the bodies 'natural upper'). Try to think positive, don't let your mind dwell on what could have been or should have been. Think of the things you didn't have in common and the issues that raised - you can now do those things without a fuss. Also, think of this time as a reconnecting period with yourself. What do you like to do that you haven't had time to do because you were in a relationship? Read more? Drink more ;o)? Go out with friends? Maybe take some college classes or workshops? Pick up some sport? This is also a good time to try something new. Maybe there is a place you wouldn't usually go? Check it out, you may like it - you may meet new people. I also highly suggest Jon Kabat-Zinn's book 'Wherever you go, there you are' - great insight into the self. I am sorry you're hurting. It sucks. "The bravest sight in the world is to see a great man struggling against adversity." -Lucius Annaeus Seneca - (When all else fails, look up adversity quotes, they could give you strength and insight).
2007-03-01 18:16:27
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answered by 5571 1
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hi, we all have been there. it really sucks, but you will survive this!
First you need to morn the loss. Cry ,yell and scream. Then you have to keep busy find stuff to with other people. Time really does heal all wounds. You'll find that you haven't thought about it in 5 min, then you'll go for an hour, little by little time will help. Don't rebound with someone else. Heal and learn from the recent relationship. Things happen for a reason later on when you meet the one your going to marry you'll thank god that he/she did what they did. Take it from a complete stranger in Massachusetts
brighter days are ahead.
2007-03-01 17:50:25
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answered by Bruce B 3
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Try and look at it as a lucky escape.
Never easy I know.
May be the cowards way, but try to avoid places where you know your ex-partner is likely to be. Nothing worse than having your nose rubbed in it.
Friends will try to help by telling you to face the music and confront you ex as this will help you get over them.... Works for some and doesn't for other.
Time is the best healer and we all do move on eventually and when we look back can't believe how we were affected by the break-up....
Good Luck, there is someone else for you out there.
x
2007-03-01 17:40:48
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answered by lynn a 3
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The best way to deal with a broken heart is to accept the fact that ur hurt. It happens to everyone, and with out hurt there is no love, joy, and happiness. It all comes in the same package. Just dont mope around feelin sorry for urself. Go out and have fun, but dont do something you will regret
2007-03-01 17:39:46
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answered by vbolden88 3
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There is no easy way.
Your brain is telling you to acknowledge sadness, because you have been through something that has attacked those brain waves.
Instead of running from it, experience it.
Put on some sad music for a while and just let out the tears. And when you feel like you have spent enough time feeling it, turn on some really good music to pump up your brain waves to feeling happy.
If we didn't know how to feel sad, how would we know what feeling happy is????
The best drug in making your brain work the way you want is music.
best of luck
2007-03-01 18:10:31
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answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3
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it is hard to loose a loved one but we have to accept the pain and deal with it, face it, in spite of the pain, as that is really the only way to get through it. at first the pain is unbearable and we think it is the end of the world. but within all of us we do have a strength to make decisions and get out of life's tragedy's, when we face them head on we will be able to communicate with our inner souls, and that inner soul is what gives us answers, and gets us through it. but we do have to face the truth and ask the questions we need to move past it. but at first the pain is terrible because it involves our self worth and ego's, we feel as if we were responsible for it, but in reality every thing happens for a reason and maybe that person wasn't the right person for us anyway. u will need to have your close friends and family around u, for emotional support during this rough time. and don't forget to bring god into this too, as when nothing else works he is there for us.
2007-03-01 17:44:02
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answered by jude 7
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I recently broke up with someone and felt that my heart had been ripped out. All I wanted was time to pass, as I know that everyday you feel better.
All I can say is keep busy, see your friends and do the things that you have always wanted to do.
Start doing something new that you need to concentrate on - and keep the thinking, missing, and wishing to a minimum.
2007-03-01 17:41:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Listen to the soundtrack from "Requiem for a Dream" and go jogging as long as you can and then collapse to the ground and 1 hour later when you're conscious, get up as a new man...
Now to be serious... hmm I can't tell really. Just talk it over why you broke up with that person and understand the reasons.
2007-03-01 17:40:01
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answered by Martin M 3
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You've just got to try and keep busy.
Theres no 'quick fix'. especially if its been a long term relationship.
But keeping busy keeps you distracted, and stops you sitting around 'wallowing in it', because all you'll think about is your ex, and how bad you feel.
Time, is the biggest healer.
But try and get out, and take it one day at a time. you'll have bad days, where you want to just curl up and forget everything, and you'll have days that arent so bad, and see why things ended.
2007-03-01 17:49:42
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answered by Kat 4
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