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my 14 month old is a very affectionate boy, he likes kisses and hugs and cuddling. he is also very active, climbs anything in sight, and never stop running around. he goes to day care 3 days a week, he is the youngest child there, but he is not the smallest he out weighs the sitters 26 month old by at least 10 pounds. well whenever i pick him up she always tells me how his day went, lately he has been agressave towards the other kids ( most of the kids are 3 and 4 years old) he pushed the 24 month oln into a wall and bullys even the 4 year olds. but all the other kids seem to like him. he is the only boy and he is the youngest. I know he is rambuncious but i dont see how he could be so mean when he is so loving towards me and my boyfriend ( not his dad )

2007-03-01 09:15:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

I just talke dto my mum about this...she said it could be because he is very smart ( he really is, he has a big vocabulary and understands almost any command...like sit on your bum, put that in the kitchen, wheres your nose,eyes ect.) i dont see as how this could be causing bad behaviour but my mum thinks it'sbecaus ehe gets frustraited when he is trying to express him self and no one understands..idk just a thought from my mum

2007-03-01 09:30:19 · update #1

8 answers

it sounds kinda crazy but your mom could be right. if he's so little he's not really able to communicate as clearly as he wants to be able to and his brain and his mouth are just in two different places in their development. so he gets frusterated and wants someone to pay attention to him. not uncommon for being so much younger than his playmates. nothing to over react about either. if he understands as well as you say he does, tell him "we don't hit!!" or "that's not nice!!" or try to get him to empathize without actually hurting him. "sally doesn't like to be hit...that hurts!!" "if you can't play nicely with everyone else, you will have to go and play by yourself" something along those lines and then follow thru with it. b/c he is so young, a two minute mini time out in an empty playpen or crib will be torture for him but will get the point across. don't worry, just correct the problem now before it escalates. he's so young and moldable still that you shouldn't really have any trouble as long as you nip it in the bud now. good luck!!

2007-03-01 09:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by chingona1027 3 · 0 0

If you know your child, and he doesn't exhibit the same issues at home that he does at the sitters house. As you know we as adults have conflicting personalities, kids have the same issues, they are just smaller people. In addition at the age of 14 months it is hard to know if he is a bully. From expereince, changing my daughter's environment in a similar situation made aworld of a difference. It was a combination of the other children and the provider, not to say they were monsters, just that situation did not agree with my child's personality enchancement.

2007-03-01 17:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdreams_0423 3 · 0 0

I hope the day care folks are taking measures to make him understand that kind of behavior is not acceptable. When he acts up, he should be isolated from the other children. He's old enough to understand that certain "actions" command a "reaction". If this isn't taken care of now, it WILL be when he hits school age. They are really cracking down on bullies.

2007-03-01 17:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by janice 6 · 0 0

He probably isnt the bully. If he is the youngest there the other kids might take things from him or get a bit pushey. When my son started play group i saw kids not let him use toys and stuff. It upset me at first but now he stands his ground It takes time,

2007-03-01 17:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

tell him that pushing around other kids is wrong. they dont know between right and wrong yet so it is ur responsibility as a parent to tell him so.
/\ to respond to c t; some kids wont or will never learn to push back. they grow up to be passive people which isnt actually a good thing but u cant really do anything about it. its just who they are as a person.

2007-03-01 17:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by coolkidnyc 2 · 1 0

It sounds like maybe he learned to bully from the older children and he learned to bully back. Hopefully you and your boyfriend and can talk to him and let him know that this is not very nice and he shouldn't be doing it. If you catch him bullying that is really when you can explain this to him. You might want to go into the daycare when he is not watching and see if he really is bullying or is just bullying back.

Hope this helps, because if you don't let them know this is wrong when they are young they grow up thinking it is alright.

2007-03-01 17:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by T_Ann 2 · 0 0

sounds like my 2 year old cousin. if u want him to stop bullying people u should discipline him. if he starts being aggressive tell hm no and if he doesn't listen spank him. a tap on his hand or something should work. my cousin was like that and as he got older it got worse. until his mother made me start wacthing him. every time he did something he knew he wasn't suppose to do he got a spanking. and eventually he stopped. and u should demonstrate how he is suppose to act too. that will make a big difference.

2007-03-01 19:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Chantel J 3 · 0 0

its just a phase.... the other kids will work it out... once they push back and dont let him bully...

2007-03-01 17:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by c t 4 · 0 0

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