Ok I don't have any children yet but when I do is spanking the right way to discipline them. I mean I think that spanking them really just scares them out of doing something and doesn't really teach them not to do it. I just dont think I could do that to my kids.
2007-03-01 09:09:50 · 24 answers · asked by Aleshia W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
YES!
my parents spanked me, and I turned out fine. my dad was spanked and he has never caused any trouble at all. and in his whole life only gotten 1 speeding ticket (wrongly, but it was given any way). spanking teaches kids to do right. that there really are consequences for bad behavior. I know first hand that kids do not listen when their parents just "talk". they are thinking the whole time "my parents are soft, I can do whatever I want and all I will get is a talk". and time outs are just as big a joke. groundings only really work if the kids is over 15.
2007-03-01 10:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
Thats the whole point of spanking. It's supposed to provide fear. Not of the parent, but of the spanking. Kids have to understand that when you misbehave their is a punishment, and for younger kids, they are going to remember a slap on the butt more than a 5 minute timeout, when they are about to do something bad. Also they are supposed to be scared of doing something. Cause in the real world, you dont murder, or rape, or committ crimes, some because you know it is a bad thing to do, but also because you are afraid of the consequences.
2007-03-01 23:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
My son is 6 years old and I still believe in spanking..mind u to get to the point of spanking him is my last resort. I use the counting thing, then I use the time out and if both don't work I use standing in the corner than it's a spank. I don't beat my son. I have the up-most respect as my son has for me. I only have to count to 2 in a stern voice and he knows.
Where I live spanking is restricted. I was born in the 70's and my brother & I both got spanked. So people take things to far and give the "spanking" issue a bad name. But, we have a moral oblication that if see or here any abuse we are to report it.
2007-03-01 17:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by α∂νєηтυяє ιѕ нєяє 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Spanking teaches them that corpral punsihment is okay... There are many methods of disciple (my kids have not been spanked yet) We use magic 123 and have altered it a lil for my son...but it works
2007-03-04 08:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by *G* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep an open mind on every consequence out there. Try everything. If they don't work, then use spanking. That's what we do. Spanking in our home is a major deal, my daughters will do anything to avoid them. That to me is a effective deterrent to bad behavior. I wouldn't rule out spanking, if you use it sparingly, it will remain an effective tool. Spanking by it's self doesn't teach children not to do something, it's a tool, to back up your rules. We as parents need to discipline our children, discipline means to teach. We back up our discipline with consequences for rule breaking. You have to choose what consequences you want to use in your child rearing. For my family, we use everything, that includes spanking when necessary.
Good Luck
2007-03-02 04:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I believe in spanking. I was raised in a home that believed in spanking as well. It wasn't to be abused but my Mother and Father spanked me if I didn't do what I was told or when I got into trouble at school. It was more like a swat than actual hitting from a belt or flyswatter. I seen my neighbor swat her kids with a flyswatter and you know what?? We all turned out to be pretty darn good kids as we got older. I on occasion swat my daughter if she doesn't listen or do what I ask of her. That is very rare but I do remember the humiliation I got when I knew my parents were mad and I made sure to never feel that way again.
2007-03-01 22:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by daniegurl73 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I spanked my sons, but only on the butt, and only when they REALLY were bad!
It brought about the intended results (no repeat of that behavior) and was soon forgotten.
They are all well adjusted men in their 20's now--and I never had to pick them up at the police station, or get them from a party all drunk or drugged up, and they CERTAINLY did not become violent from a few childhood spankings!
They have no terrible complexes over it--they are good men & productive members of society.
Sometimes it is the only way to get through to them, because you can't REASON with a toddler about to run into the street or something!
2007-03-01 17:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I don't think that a parent needs to spank for every little thing, but I do believe in spanking. All kids are different too. some react or learn for a spanking others just need a good lecture. It will just depend on your child. I see it like, if you touch a stove that's hot you'll try not to touch it again. If a kid does something and u spank them, they won't want a spaking again so they'll try not to do that thing again.
2007-03-01 17:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by klah1 3 · 9⤊ 2⤋
You have to do what you are comfortable with, and there are a lot of other ways to discipline your kids. I am not against an occasional swat on the rear to get the attention of a younger child, but there comes an age when other methods are much more effective, like taking away games, toys, priveledges etc...
2007-03-01 17:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL.. that will change when you have children.. I was not going to spank either.. but there are just times when they deserve it and the only way to let them know to not do it again is to spank them. Also think soap is great for talking back or even hot sauce. I use the corner for the most.. but when he just keeps pushing and pushing.. I spank him. He gets upset and then about 20 mins later he will come to me and apologizes about what he did and usually does not do it again. So I believe in spanking when needed.
2007-03-01 17:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 7⤊ 3⤋