por favor, I really need help!?

Question

my (ex) boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. it wasn't a messy break up and we are still friends and we talk often. the only problem is he is being pretty apathetic and emotionless as usual about the whole thing. but i am a mess. it's safe to say I really don't want to live if it means not being with him. not to sound emo, but i've actually considered killing myself because i'm not good enough for him and he's really the only person who has ever said that he cares about me, even if he didn't mean it. so i've decided that I am really going to work on changing things in my life because I really really want this to work out, because i'm afraid that i'm going to lose him as a friend also. please, if you have any advice on how to change this all and start over with him please please help.. thanks =) -Bianka

Answer 1

Never say you are never too good for anybody! That is not a reason to say someone is being distant with you. Just because he doesn't want to show feelings toward you, does not mean you are not good enough. You seem to have a really tight bond with him, which is good, however it can be really bad too unfortunately. You said you would kill yourself if you couldn't be with him? I hope you dont mean that seriousously, nobody should die simply because they can't be with someone else. Sounds like you really care for him and love him, but he doesn't seem to show the same emotions back. You can't change that, no matter how much you believe you can. Don't change yourself either! If you have to be someone else in order to get with someone, that person is not someone you should be with, nor even a friend. I know it's hard to lose someone you really care about, but if you go and try to fix things that ain't broke you are going to have a bigger mess than before (lose him as a friend). Sometimes you can only hope for things to get better, and maybe someday he will see you for who you are. Remember he is not the only person in this world, there are plenty out there who deserve a caring girl and who will appreicate that. Find somebody who will say to you they care about you and mean it, your life will be so much more happier. Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want, and you have to accept what comes. Don't go killing yourself because you can't have things one way. Life is rough, and our falls are what allow us to get back up and climb higher.
I really hope everything works out, but please keep in mind what I have said, and I wish you the best life can offer you! Good luck! 8)

Answer 2

Ok señorita, you need serious help.

I was able to help a good friend of mine that had the same situation. He couldn’t stand the fact that she left him. He tried to kill himself, with gun on head and everything, and he is alive today because the gun was old, hasn’t been used for the longest, and it did not fire. It makes you wonder if there is a guardian angel up there sometimes…

But anyways, you need to get some help. Unless you are sure you can overcome this, get someone to help you, at least a friend.

But let me tell you this. You should consider yourself the best and most important thing ever in your life. At least, until you have babies, then is a different story. But right now, you need to think is about you, how to take care of yourself, and not to pay attention of what other say or think about you.

You should not consider yourself any less just because he doesn’t want you. Is not that you are not good enough for him. Is because HE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU!

You need to work out your problems before you get into a romantic relation again. You need to find peace within yourself. After that is accomplish, then go out there and look for a good man, that trust me, there are over a billion men out there, you will find one, a good one.

Be positive, and keep your head up and make sure you feel you are the very best of the best. If you make a mistake, is because you needed to learn from it, and keep on living. Don’t let anybody, guy or girl make you feel you are bad because the only one that can really judge who you really are inside, is you.

If you really want to stay with him, you need first to find out is he will ever think about getting back to you. If he doesn’t, then move on, don’t waste your life waiting and trying to get him. Let others do that for you!

Good luck.

Answer 3

Oh, poor baby,

Only the two people involved know why the problems exist and know why. A man should love you more than you love him. Try to keep yourself busy and not as available. Learn a lesson from this you probably gave more to this relationship than he did emotional, physically, etc. Let him go if it is really love he will come back to you. Avoid him stop being around all the time for him. God to the beach, mediate--Life can be beautiful thing; The Sun, Moon, Stars, and YOU. I understand your heart is broken, but that is what God came for to heal a broken hearted and i will be praying for you. Don't kill yourself then you lose for sure. If he did not appreciate you someone else will and you are not married to him. Keep loving--Do not lose your love we need you. Breath! This doesn't mean get more problems just examine yourself for yourself. Love yourself

Answer 4

You need to get some self esteem! Get out in the world and find a thing or two that you are really in to, find some things to be passionate about other than this guy. Stay in touch with him, but don't entertain any thoughts of getting back together with him & don't talk to him about it. Get on with your life. He will either realize that you are not heart broken over him anymore and realize that he wants you back, or you will realize that that maybe your relationship wasn't really the best for either of you. "If you love them, let them go. If it is meant to be, they will come back. If not, then they won't" Either way, you both win because it is the only way to save the friendship.

Answer 5

Hold UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! First, let's get the "I don't want to live notions OUT of your pretty head. You don't know what or WHO God has in store for you. Your ex is still in your life as your friend...at least things didn't get ugly. We don't know what he's going through in his heart and mind. Guys are different than we are when it comes to emotional stuff. This world is TOO BIG for you to think that there's no one out there for you. Please don't isolate yourself from people who care for you...and this includes a potential new boyfriend. If this guy means this much--keep him as your friend and see what happens from there. Hold on be strong--females are made that way. Peace

Answer 6

i was in a position like lots simaliar to urs, i was a mess he was emotionless, he was the first guy that acctually like that ive had more of a serious kinda relationship with, it might take u a couple of more months to get over him, it took me a couple of months or so, and i am amazing, never felt better! like not even kidding, time heals mostly everything, and it def. heals a broken heart in that case, but in the meantime of getting over him, DO NOT DO NE THING STUPID!!!!, believe me, hes not worth hurting urself or killing urself over, do not even think about doing nething of that sort again, lol, seriously tho just dont,and in ur life u'll find a guy that cares about u way more than ur ex did, and ull find somebody, believe me, and if it hurts u to tlk to ur ex and to even be friends with him, then dont, because itll slow down ur heart to heal, so yea, u'll be ok, ull find some1 again, i did, and yea, just forget about him, as hard as it is to now, l8r, he'll become like just a distance memory.u'll b fine!!!!

Answer 7

You broke up with him over a month ago, there IS nothing to 'work out'.

Answer 8

i say get over him and move on.....there is someone else out there for you, someone better. dont lose your life over this loser.