Can someone give me advice on how to move on and how can I not see men as just out to hurt me? I am the mother of a son, that needs a positive mother in his life. I don't want to warp his views on relationships.Thanks in advance!
2007-03-01 09:04:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The problem is not that you distrust men.
The problem is that you distrust yourself to choose GOOD men. And you're probably right to do so.
Get yourself a moral compass, instead of just following your heart. When you learn how to better distinguish good from evil, you'll be more fit to raise your son properly.
2007-03-01 09:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After my own divorce I almost hated all men. I did date and it
seemed that every guy I met had some agenda. Basicly it was
always about sex. Men were never honest and as long as we
were having a good time and no one talked about a future or any
kind of committment the guys would be happy. But we women
seem to need more than that. I gave up on finding anyone. I
just stopped looking. I spent alot of time with my friends doing
different things and I ended up making alot of new friends.
I was happy and I realized I didn't need to be in a relationship
to make me happy.
I ended up being with someone I worked with everyday. He
was sort of a friend at work. I wasn't looking but he was just so
nice and I knew he was someone people respected at work and
I did to. I told him when we started dating that I didn't want to
committ myself to a serious relationship due to the past
relationships I had, but were getting married this year, and after
three years of being with him I can say, that I beleive things
happen for a reason, cause the man I am with now is my
everything. He so gets me, and I can feel how much he loves
me. It's great. I hope you find someone who makes you
feel the way I do.
2007-03-02 16:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother -in-law is just like you. The difference is that she has been divorced for 25 years! A man who lies can take trust away and I know it is hard to regain. My advice is that you see a therapist. It will be someone to talk to. SOmeone to sort your feelings out with and someone to trust. They can help you let go of all of thew reasons you do not trust men in general. You will live a lonly life if you do not talk to someone. My husband has alkso struggled with lying issues because she has no trust. Fix it now before it is too late!
2007-03-01 17:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by princess_becca25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should wait a little while on looking for someone else to get married to or start a relationship with. Instead, don't worry about looking for a man to start a relationship with, just have fun and dont worry about what is in the past. What I mean by having fun is to just enjoy being with your child and enjoy the fact of living your life. I hope you understand what I mean by that. Just began a new life, start it over.
2007-03-01 17:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by layanne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont judge all men by what happened in your marriage, we are not all the same, your son still needs a good father in his life, and if he doesnt have that, then I am sad for you,,
as for the trusting issue,, what trust issue are you having,,
2007-03-01 17:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that all men are not your ex they are different dont compare them to your ex take them how and for what they are and see where it goes to compare or judge them by another person is not fair to them or you
2007-03-01 17:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by jeepin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont base your opinion of men on one who didnt meet your expectations.....we all arent untrustworthy....some of us are actually sweeties...you just have to find me......good luck
2007-03-01 17:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋