Here's the situation. i had a thing with this guy for a while and then he broke it off. we continued to be intimate. he says he cares about his current girlfriend but we talk on the phone late at night and i made the stupid mistake of sleeping with him again. Now believe me i'm over him but he continues to say i'm not and keeps making references as to if he wanted me back and i dont want him no more. he asked me do i think he needs to tell his girl he cheated but i dont want him to resent if he tells her and im confused.
2007-03-01 08:59:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clearly a jerk that's using you. Insisting you're not over him is a way he can boost his own ego. He wants to sleep with you and string you along for as long as he can. I'm not sure about telling the other girl what's going on unless you know her or something. Some people just deserve each other.
But I don't see what you'd be "beating yourself up" over. Drop him, never talk to him again, period.
Also, I wouldn't say you're over him if you're even considering what to do. If you talk late and sleep with him, you're not over it and won't be if you let him mess with your head like that.
Advice from a guy. Listen to it.
2007-03-01 09:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man...I'm gonna have to go into the shpeil I had to give my friend 42189537298573285839 times. My best friends boy friend was just like this. He was a total womanizer. I believe he went out with ooooh.....let's say.....12 GIRLS IN TWO MONTHS! And these were actually "relationships" not just one time dates. He cheated on two of these girls and couldn't keep his hands off other girls when he was with the rest. This guy your talking about is a total SCUMBAG. Believe me, I know how hard it is to let a guy who just has a way of entranicing you go, 'cause I had to do it too, but the truth is..ya do have to let him go. The answer is to, at least for the first time, sever ALL ties with him. Next time he calls you, simply say "I don't want to talk to you any longer. You're only using me. I deserve MUCH better, and so does your current girlfriend. You should tell her that you cheated on her, just so that she breaks it off with you." Even if you don't want to say it that way, you gotta say it somehow. And when you do, remember, BE ASSERTIVE, if you're not, he'll think you're only going through a bad day.
I hope this helps you. Good luck with that hun, and please do what I said!!!
2007-03-01 09:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Leahhh♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should beat yourself up over this because you've been allowing him to take you for a ride - but only for oh maybe a minute or so to remember to not allow this again. After your beating - dump the jerk!
Good luck in the future!
2007-03-01 09:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by scpathfinder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obiviously taking advantage of you,he knows you'll answer everytime he calls,babe he's got a gf! what more can I say,cut the ties,you dont need that loser in your life.
It's his choice if he wants to tell his gf or not,as for you just move on,coz it's only a matter of time before she dumps that asshole.
You're a queen,never settle for less..never be the second one in anyone's life.
Good luck! :)
2007-03-01 09:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here's the thing
sex puts you in a bad situation NO MATTER WHAT
i had a boy like this once and he continued to pressure me, even though we weren't together. i never gave in (even when we were going out) but i am still tempted to make out with him and stuff
you have to stop talking to him, for at least 3 months. no matter what you do, it wont get any better if you keep seeing him everyday. and its his fault if he cheated....so its really his choice. you shouldn't feel bad if he gets into trouble.
2007-03-01 09:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your over him right? So why would it matter if he tells her. Dont beat yourself up over this. He is the one who is making huge mistakes. Sleeping with him hurts you his gf and himself. He is using you, so I would advise you to stay away from him. You should do what you think is best. Good luck.
2007-03-01 09:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anon101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your over him then, he shouldn't be inside of your head niggling away at you.
Best thing to do, is leave him be, he will eventually get the message. After all he's the one thats cheated, sound's like he wanted the best of both worlds, and wants to be wanted. Am sure you could do better hunny!
2007-03-01 09:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him, and stay away, get over it NOW
If you guys end up sleeping together again, you guys are just using each other, and you are asking for disaster!
Good luck
2007-03-01 09:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never beat yourself up about anything.
So how is your self esteem? Do you feel that you need people outside of yourself to give you love? That is a pretty common fallacy among people - love begins inside you and radiates out.
If you radiate love you will get it - don't radiate fear or desparation or clinging.
FP
2007-03-01 09:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with him for good and for your own good. He's a player and you got played there. He used you only for you know what. Hopefully time will heal your heart there but you need to dump that jerk ok. Good luck there girl.
2007-03-01 09:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋