When I do something wrong, my parents would "talk to me" or "put me in timeout" or if it was something that could kill me, like running out in the road, they would "spank me". What should I do when my Autistic 4 year old runs out in the road? My wife just wants to keep him inside and not deal with it. I want to go out with him, but he doesn't respond to any of the above actions. How can i make him NOT run out in the road, SCREAM loudly, Spit on the carpet, etc...No one has any answers...
2007-03-01 08:58:26 · 13 answers · asked by photoguy1967 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
its obvious a lot of people here dont understand what an autistic child entails.
there are people who specialize in how to "reach" autistic kids and better communicate with them. i would strongly recommend getting in touch with one. a doctor should be able to point you in the right direction. hes almost old enough for school, so you should already be preparing for alternatives or counseling to help.
mostly though, you just have to be patient with him. hes going to be stubborn about things and you just have to keep reinforcing what you dont want him to do over and over again. eventually, he will get the picture. you just have to be more resolute than he is.
some things are always going to be there (screaming and spitting for one). you cant think of him in terms of a normal child.
remember too, that its just as painful and frustrating for him as it is for you and your wife.
2007-03-01 09:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by lostatlimbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child is autistic. He does not have "bad habits" and is not being "naughty." Autistic children do not see or experience the world in the same way we do. Autism is a brain disorder that often interferes with a person's ability to communicate with and relate to others. Your son does not understand that it is dangerous to run in the street or know that he should not scream or spit.
Do not lose faith, though. Some individuals will need assistance in almost all aspects of their daily lives, but others are able to function at a very high level and can even attend school in a regular classroom. While this is a lifelong condition that typically results in some degree of social isolation, treatment can make a major difference in the lives of people with autism. Early diagnosis and comprehensive treatment has resulted in increasing numbers of people with autism being able to live independently as adults..
There are things that can be done for autism. Behavioral training, speech and occupational therapy, and parent education and support can often improve a child's problem behaviors, communication skills, and socialization. Medications are sometimes helpful as well. A child with autism responds best to a highly structured, specialized educational program tailored to his or her individual needs. However, specific treatment varies depending on the range of individual symptoms, which can combine in many different ways and change over time.
PLEASE DO THIS: Educate yourself. Find a support group. And find professionals who work with autistic children to help you. Try to be patient and know that your child is not being wilfully disobedient.
Best of luck to you
2007-03-01 09:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by SomebodyWhoKnows 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You might benefit from joining a Parents of Autistic Children group. You'll have an opportunity to hear other parents' horror stories that will put your own in perspective. You'll learn how other parents cope with the same or similar situations. In the meantime, you may have keep him restrained with a wrist leash for his own safety. As far as the screaming and spitting, you may be able to redirect him. I don't know how severe a form of autism your son has but however bad it is, you and your wife need to learn more about it, how to effectively cope with it and how to successfully raise an autistic child. There may be family therapy that will offer you insight and coping skills. Look for books on autism parenting and look into joining a parent group.
2007-03-01 09:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Half the people who answered on this thread absolutely disgust me. Learn something about autism before you start typing.
As for your question, see a child psychologist, because raising an autistic child is much different from raising a child without autism, and they'll be able to get you started.
2007-03-01 09:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Saturday 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No doubt he has learnt these bad habits from school. I noticed my two kids started to say stupid little nursery rhymes etc that were rude when they started at school and pick up other kids bad habits. I guess you will just have to tell him its disgusting to spit and reprimand him when he chucks a tantrum.
2016-03-16 02:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember when you were a child. Did you really know what you were doing when you would run in the streets? I didn't think so. If your kid really wanted attention he would scream and cry for you if you didn't come. Seriously don't spank him. Just take walks with him outside and have your wife come with you. Short walks but it would be nice for him. Good luck! lEEDA
2007-03-01 09:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Try to communicate.....you have a tuff but interesting question. Call a doctor o something and figure out how you can keep your son safe and happy.
2007-03-01 09:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly speaking it's not easy as you think, both of you put your heads together to sort out the solution. A little visit to a child community centre can do wonders, as my assessment is that the child has above average iq and he is manoevering both of you!!
2007-03-01 09:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dr.Qutub 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just give him a treat for doing what he is suppose to do. You could also tell him that he will be awarded for doing what he is suppose to do.
2007-03-01 09:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by layanne1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have people that work with him that you could ask about this?
2007-03-01 09:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋