IS this CHEATING? Break it to him HARD or SOFT?

Question

BREAK IT too him HARD of SOFT?
This guy that Ive hooked up with has been hiding from me that he has another hookup buddy that he has had sex with.... I found out... so should I break it to him hard and make him feel guilty... or soft, so we might still have a chance??

- Also should I continue too hookup with him? I still like him...
(when i say hookup i mean, i mean making out, and some more)

im 14 he's 16

Answer 1

Think about it he obviously doesn't like or cares about you break up with him hard and just live your life there will be other guys.

Answer 2

I'd dump him. And then tell the other person that he's a cheat. If he's been honest with you, maybe then I'd say stay with him, but he hid it from you. You're 14. Don't start taking this sort of crap from guys now, or EVER. If you do, eventually you'll always be second in relationships.

Find someone who will treat you properly, with respect, kindness and honesty. Don't give yourself away to guys who will treat you like this jerk did. Find someone WORTHY. And if nobody is worthy, then wait until he comes along. You're FOURTEEN.

Answer 3

14 and having sex? Sounds like hookups are not your ONLY problem. You are with someone who is sleeping with other people and you're under-age!
Ask yourself this: Which STD do you want to end up with and was it worth it?

Then ask him: If jailtime and STD's was worth it too?

You're both off to a bad start.

Answer 4

He is just using you, and taking advantage of the fact that you like him, you should tell him you know about the other girl, tell him you're too good for him and move on. It is pathetic to accept this kind of treatment from a guy. If you stay with him it not because he likes you it's because he wants to use you. And you don't want to be the girl that guys just use.

Answer 5

There's no good way to do this. He's not going to feel guilty, and if you confront him about the other "buddy", he's just going to deny it. Just quit seeing him totally and let him figure out why.

BTW - 14 is WAY too young to be having sex.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

He is a liar if you want him to be disrespectful to you than give him a chance. (he will be in heaven because he will find a girl that will take all his **** no questions asked). If you want a descent relationship and someone that respects you dump him and you will find someone else that you are attracted to and is not a liar.

Answer 8

Sounds like either he's a player and has more then one girl or that you're dating a gay guy. Either way break it off and find a real man who will treat you right.

Answer 9

Okay, you're young, hun. His dishonesty should say something to you about his intentions. Don't simply disregard how you feel because you want to be with someone. Make sure he will actually be good to you. The first step is saying to him, "I know what you're doing...". Have self-respect and love yourself first. Good luck.

Answer 10

hey, you need to break it to him regardless. make it tactful whether it's hard or soft. you don't want to be passive about it (he won't respect your point) but you don't want to be aggressive (this boy'll think you're psycho). this dude's putting you at risk. he kept something. who's to say he won't do it again? obviously he didn't respect you enough to tell you. do you really wanna be "hooking up" with a liar? ...cause that's basically what he is!