No. By now, there are a lot of legal rights and responsibilities that go along with the rite of marriage and so it's important to a lot of people. When you are married you are entitled to death benefits, Social Security benefits, insurance stuff. You are both also legally obligated to take financial responsibility for property and children you may have, which protects folks in case of divorce or death. Even to be notified as next of kin and make medical decisions if your partner is not able to do so for themselves. If you are not married, often you are not entitled to any of these rights which can be a real hardship.
Peace!
2007-03-01 09:01:58
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answered by carole 7
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Getting a peice of paper claiming that you are married doesn't really mean anything. Marriage is supposed to be between two people and God. A lot of people out there have a peice of paper that says they are married - but their own marriage died a long time ago.
It is a belief in many religions that child should be a product of a couple married before God. What this really means is that a child should be brought into the world by a couple that is devoted to each other, loves eachother and plans on staying with it till the end of their lives.
I believe we have social ideas on what makes a good family. And even now - two parents is deemed better and more socially acceptable then one. We allow this bias to influence us to the point of discrimination. My husband's mother was single. Her husband had left her. She had to raise two kids on here own - and no one would hire her at the time because she was a single parent. Her own church turned their backs on her. There is a social peice going on here - about it being taboo. So yes, I beleive that even without the relgious ingredient, it would still be frowned upon - at least by today's standards.
2007-03-01 09:04:38
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answered by noncrazed 4
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OK, first of all, you can call me a deist, if it matters. I'm not gonna thump you on the head with the Bible.
That said, yes, having children without being married is just plain lame. Period. Get some respect and nads, and marry the woman.
Now, we've been happily married for 36 years. We love each other, we love good sex, we're partners that stand by one another through the good times and the bad.
A child deserves a mother and father who are committed, but he also deserves them in a "legal" sense. I can't explain it all to you; I'm not a lawyer. I just know what's right and what's wrong.
Marriage is not, as some may think, "confining." Marriage, for two committed lovers, is a minor detail.
What matters, is whether or not they have the emotional maturity to sustain a long-term relationship. Whether they have enough compromise, sympathy, patience, and forgivenss to get along in the long run.
Too many people are just too self-centered, and they bail out the back door at the first sign or trouble or difficulty.
You make up your mind that you're a team - in the same way that two cops might. You a team, get it?
Marriage is a detail that takes place AFTER you decide that you have what it takes.
If you just want to live together, you have my blessings, but don't spawn kids without getting married.
2007-03-01 09:50:07
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answered by Anonymous
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I don't think that only religious people feel marriage is important. I am an atheist and I've been married 16 years. I believe in marriage for a number of reasons. First is because I love my husband and want to show my commitment to him and only him. Second is because I wanted to have children, and I do believe that children should ideally have a stable home life with two parents to learn from and be nurtured by. Thirdly I got married for legal and practical reasons including insurance coverage and inheritance and other issues like that. While not very romantic they are issues you have to think about when considering a life together as a family. I think the act and institution of marriage is still special regardless of ones belief in God. It's what two people make of it, what they commit to each other, and that should still be important. It doesn't have to include religion at all if a couple doesn't want it to. Mine doesn't
2007-03-01 09:10:53
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answered by BJ 2
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Even the non-religious people I know think marriage is important if you're going to have kids. I know divorces are pretty easy to get, but they're still a lot harder than breaking up with a girlfriend or boyfriend, having that marriage commitment helps make the relationship more of a solid and stable environment for kids to be introduced into.
I am religious, I personally think marriage is vital, but that's the opinion I've heard over and over again from my atheist, and non-religious friends.
2007-03-01 09:01:50
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answered by daisyk 6
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I think that it is very important, and I am not what you would call "religious". I believe in God, truly love Him, but am not a Bible banger, and do not attend church regularly.
I feel that the commitment and promise involved in your basic marriage vows, is the most important business agreement you will ever enter into. As far as children are concerned, I think that people should give one hell of a lot more thought to what exactly they are doing, BEFORE bringing another life into this world. They need love, food, a peaceful home, and yes, a loving family to fully raise them. Yes, I think that people should get married before they have children, too, and this has nothing to do with religion, it is just common sense.
2007-03-01 09:03:01
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answered by Anonymous
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I perrsonally am not a religious person, but I think that marriage is very important. For me its about complete commitment to another person for the rest of your life, to show how much you love that person by saying you don't want anyone else-ever. This is just my opinion, and it doesn't matter to me what others do. I know plenty of people that have been in relationships for years without getting married. I don't think having kids out of wedlock is anyone else's business but the person that is directly involved. Really it boils down to people minding their own business and worrying about their own lives instead of everyone else's.
2007-03-01 09:03:41
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answered by mylilboog 1
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Animals have kids without marriage because there is no way for them to learn about the sacred meaning of family.
Human beings have the rational sense to learn about the relations and duties of each member in the family to themselves and to the society at large. Without intellectual and spiritualral training in the family since babyhood, the child cannot grow decently as a really intelligent being in the image of the One True God.
2007-03-01 09:04:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Children are never frowned upon because they are the most beautiful gifts of God. The act of love is not frowned upon because it is the ultimate gift of God. Marriage though is more than just proof of ones feeling towards each other, it is witnessing before God that you and your partner want God to join the marriage and a part of your lives. The union in marriage is sacred and should never be seen as just proof, it is much more than that, and for those who see it as just that, they are frowned upon.
God bless and continue your search for truth.
2007-03-01 09:01:28
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answered by Perhaps I love you more 4
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You are probably right - mostly only religious people think that it is important to be married, but that should not be true.
Perhaps I should explain:
- Marriage gives structure for kids which kids really need
- Marriage gives security for the wife.
- Marriage gives love to the husband.
Without marriage we are just animals with no roots, no structure, just doing what we want.
2007-03-01 08:58:06
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answered by Craig 2
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