I am a smart, well educated hottie. (I like to drink, but who doesn't in college??) I shower daily, try to look decent at class... I just don't understand. Am I unapproachable? I'm starting to get depressed about this. How do I put myself out there? Help me out! Any tips for a shy junior in college?
2007-03-01 08:41:21 · 9 answers · asked by Kourtney cheer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is lots you can do, especially in college. Join some group, whether a study group or something similar. Is there a bulletin board on campus. Check for fliers, on different groups.
Is there some single gals in your class, that you could get to know. If they are'nt as shy as you, they could perhaps set up some double dates.
If you see some guy you like in your class, go over to him, introduce yourself, and ask him for some help on the subject in class. Even if you don't need it. Or perhaps, you could help some guy who is struggling in class.
Smile more, talk to people in the class, after it's over.
It can just be casual chit chat about the class, the teacher, whatever. Just start talking. Once you do, all will go well, all you need is the first one, and he will introduce you to some of his friends, and then they can introduce you to others.
Just make that first step, and smile a lot.
You say you are a hottie, I'll take your word on that. If so, some boys, will either be too shy to approach you, or just assume, that you have a boyfriend already.
At least, you are thinking of moving, so just keep at it, you went to college to learn, so now it's social skills, you will be learning.
Those will pay big dividends in your future.
2007-03-01 08:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going places besides class and your dorm room/apartment. Hang out at the student union, attend sporting events, get involved with other people. The next time some of your classmates get together to go somewhere, join in. Just dont let your social life interfere with your education.
2007-03-01 16:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are a hottie, then your problem is you give off a negative vibe to men. The problem isn't that you are shy, you are pushing men away. Either figure out what you are doing wrong and stop it, or go on the offensive.
2007-03-01 16:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Guys are more scared of you, than you are of them. They don’t want to face your rejection. They’re scared. So the key is to reassure them that you are not about to refuse them rudely.
Guys are terrified of being made fools of. They will not make a move on you unless:
1.He is extremely confident
2.You give him a hint that you are interested and will not reject him outright
Use one of these techniques to show him that you’re not about to kill his very precious ego.
The Five Second Rule
If you want to indicate interest or friendliness, simply use this quick and easy tactic. Make eye contact with the guy and hold it. Hold it for five seconds. And smile. Don’t frown. Frowning and glaring is not the look we want to give off. And make sure you hold that contact for five seconds. That ensures that he knows you simply didn’t make random eye contact. If he looks away rapidly, it could indicate embarrassment or fear. That’s a good thing—if he’s scared of you it’s probably because he thinks you’re beautiful, not because he’s worried you’re about to kick his ***.
Repeat the five second rule. If he looks away again, it probably means he’s not interested. But if he holds your gaze, that’s a good thing.
Eye and Smile
If you’re feeling adventurous and the guy has not backed away or knocked several people over in his attempt to leave the room, you can move onto the next step.
Make eye contact with the guy. Then slowly—deliberately—let your eyes travel down his body. Then slowly slide back up to his face and make eye contact again. And smile. A big, mischievous smile.
Hope this works!
2007-03-01 16:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try checking out some of the local clubs. Try to be more of a social butterfly instead of a homebody... But don't push too hard, the right guy will come around sooner or later.
2007-03-01 16:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl carry yourself like a lady, the right guy will come along, just don't rush things, you might end up with a jerk because you want to be with somebody. take your time, you'll find someone
2007-03-01 16:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by sonya h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, maybe you're trying too hard & don't be afraid to spark up conversation with a cute guy and become his friend.
2007-03-01 16:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well normally guys dont approach girls who are attractive and shy because that usually means off limits...ie-boyfriend
2007-03-01 16:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jay R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush.
take your time, people who wait out , get the best.
2007-03-01 16:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋