I got good answers from here. My prob was my friend was not able to give me much of her time. I just sent her a letter saying that she needs to concentrate on other things so its not necessary that we should talk daily, we can talk once in 10days or once in a week ( we have been talking daily) I told her I dont have any problem in talking to her, I am just worried abt her studies. I left the final answer on her. If she wants to continue talking to me daily I dont mind.
Did I do right or was it a mistake? what do u think what will her a reply, please guess.
help me!!
2007-03-01 08:40:44 · 15 answers · asked by Help me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If she is truly truly your friend she will know that your request for her to study more than speak with you, and thereby not study, should be understood. Can you study together?
Or is your fear of losing a friend when she may want more, and you have a clear and solid focus on a different goal presently???
Sometimes we have to sacrifice to gain a prize. What is important to you, how you express your love is to want the best for your friend. Isn't that what you did? Relax in knowing what you want for her is right.
And stop lying to yourself. If you don't believe that she if paying enough attention to her studies, somewhere in yourself you will not be okay with talking to her daily...will you? That could be a whole other argument because you may not believe she is worth you time.
All in all get through school. Keep poverty at bay. Enrich your life in every way.
Peace
2007-03-01 08:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by ink! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she might think that you are being selfish, for making her feel like she cannot live her life, same as ou ahould be doing your own thing, there is something wrong if you depend on spending each day talking to your friend, my best friend lives in yorkshire, we speak once a month, and it better for us cos when we do talk, we have more to say, talking everyday leaves not much to say. i know you are hurt that your friend has little or no time for you and it is unfair, because your friends are the only things in our lives that have any value, but there comes a time in all our lives when we have to take our own paths, and lead our lives, ur friends are always there, but they can't dictate your life. you might find that she wants to be a better friend but it not easy when someone demands that much attention.
2007-03-01 08:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by white_funny_girl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it wasn't a mistake, it was a good thing to do for a friend. She just needs some time to think about it, that's all. She's lucky to have such a considerate friend!
2007-03-02 01:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did anything wrong. Just letting her know that because you are aware of how busy her studies keep her, that you will mostly leave it up to her when you guys will get together and talk, is just fine! I think that was very considerate of you.
2007-03-01 15:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she knows you were really worried about her, then she won't mind and you did the right thing, stop worrying right now and have a word with her - don't write, and sort it out . If she is such a good friend, she will understand your anxieties. O.K. go to the phone................................then you can relax and be happy.
2007-03-01 08:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally don't understand why you sent her a letter. Obviously if she didn't have time to talk to you, she wouldn't call. Also, I don't think that friends should need to schedule phone conversations. That's just weird...
2007-03-01 08:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 01:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem a little intense. I think you should get out more and make other friends. I don't think it's normal to be writing odd letters to your friends.
2007-03-01 10:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her life, her decisions ... you probably shouldn't have written the letter to her .... she might think you don't enjoy talking to her.
It's her choice to distract herself from her studies, if not by talking to you, she'd find another way.
2007-03-01 14:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a dude, I'd start by slapping the hysterical punk right outta you!
Then I'd tell you to sit your neurotic @$$ down and wait for her to call.
How's that for a guess?
2007-03-01 12:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋