Does it really matter?

Question

OK. The situation is we hit things off, going great. When it comes to a connection/committment, I get the sense she isn't ready. Things get rocky. One day she tells me she needs to be on her own. We continue to talk. Any time anything regarding "relationship" talk comes up, she gets anxious, anxious enough that she alludes to ending all contact w/ me. Fast forward several months to now, we are talking daily, we have a relationship, one where there is at least enough trust that I will see her often and talk daily, which is a huge step from before X-mas time. Thing is, I don't know what, if anything, I have done or am doing differently now and am having trouble shaking the idea that I want to know what she sees differently about me and us now. Should I ask or just leave well enough alone and take it for what it is? I am not interested in a fling w/ her. I want something serious.

Answer 1

Most likely nothing is different with you.She is just ready for a relationship now when she wasnt ready for one earlier!

Answer 2

Just be honest with her. Then at least if she says no she's not interested, you will know not to waste your time. And if she really does like you, then maybe she will open up and tell you why she's been backing off. But don't waste your time worrying when you can find out for yourself by asking her what's going on.

Answer 3

Life is short dude. Don't waste your time on this one. The girl you are meant for is still out there and you should give her a chance. This one is obviously a bit$$. Kill your feelings for now and look into reality. This might be hurting you more than you know.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to her about how you feel, even though it may be uncomfortable and even push her away. It's going to benefit the both of you in the long run if you both are clear about what it is that you want out of the relationship. You don't want to waste your time or hers either.

Good luck!
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