my friend suffer from her father .she says that he does not love her mother nor her and her sisters and brothers.he is so bad that she started dreaming of his death every night.so i wonder how can a father have no emotions or feelings to his children????????????
what a hard world
2007-03-01 07:57:39 · 15 answers · asked by Pinka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, their are parents out there who could care less about their children. It disgust me to think that a parent would turn thier back on their flesh and blood but it happens far too often and the people left hurt continue a pattern of hurt for the rest of their lives. The best thing you can do for your friend is to be supportive and remind her that sometimes people come into your life for a season and that is what her Dad did. He came into her life for a season, now it is up to her to make that season of life beneficial for herself. Then once her life is productive, the negative thoughts that she has about her dad will go away and she will be able to grow and help her mother, sisters and brothers.
2007-03-01 08:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Well it hurts my father has done the same to all his children to and it's very sad, I don't know how a father can just not care for his children, my father lives in the same town as me to and I went to see him a couple of times and it's not worth it to me, he don't give a flying **** so I just learned to live without him. I guess when ya don't care ya just don't care, it's hard to imagine how they really feel.
Well later.
2007-03-01 08:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a hard world the truthis not ever person wants to be a parent or they think its a part time thing that they can do when they want to.they are selfish,its not the childs fault ever but sometimes a man only wants the kids when he is happy with their mother even if he knows he is not the biological father, and if they breakup he will lose intrest sometimes when he finds another woman.not always but sometimes dont blame his new love he is the loser who abandoned you.sorry baby it really is his loss.good luck.
2007-03-01 08:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You mentioned that you friend is fantasizing about her father's death; is he actually abusive? Or is he simply emotionally distant, or negligent towards his children?
There are many kinds of love, and I am sure that your friend's father has some type of feelings for his family. He may simply have a hard time feeling "bonded" or "attached" to them. He may have some kind of psychological issue, such as depression, or a type of "personality disorder".
Otherwise, he may have simply never been taught, or encouraged to express his emotions at all. Many men have difficulty dealing with emotional issues, so they respond by trying to isolate themselves.
Unless her father is, in fact, physically or emotionally abusive, my advice to your friend is that it is never too late to try to develop a loving relationship with one's parents. She should confront him about his behavior, in a respectful and non-judgmental manner. She should tell him what her wants and needs are, and describe the relationship as she sees it.
Apart from that, there is always the golden rule, that your friend ought to treat her father the way she wishes to be treated. Instead of bemoaning her "sad state of affairs", she needs to start asserting her needs for parental care. A child has every right to demand love and attention from his or her parents.
Good luck to you and your friend,
~Donkey Hotei
2007-03-01 08:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well its NOT a father thing. I have full custody of both my kids from a marriage and their mother (my ex) could care less. It's and INDIVIDUAL thing. But when it comes down to it he has issues and although there isn't much she can do about it now it will come back to hurt HIM in the end when he is ALONE in his last days!!! Life is hard!!!
2007-03-01 08:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Papi G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a very hard world out there...my father is exactly the same as your friend's father!
2007-03-01 09:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a hard world. It's a wonderful world. Some people IN it are hard, but that could be for many reasons. It's more than likely something from his past, or his childhood.
2007-03-01 08:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's more likely that the father has extremely intense feelings but keeps them to himself. You ought to advise her to pay attention to how he behaves rather than what he says, and to pay attention to how he behaves when he doesn't feel like he's interacting with anyone. She should work on communicating with him and empathizing with him, rather than assume he's a sociopath with no feelings. It sounds like she's rather violent herself.
2007-03-01 08:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either he has mental illness, depression, schizophrenia or no apathy whatsoever.
As I can't be a judge of this, has he been like this all his life?
Could have been born this way.
2007-03-01 08:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some men are just like calloused like that. it is definitly horrible for him to be that way but it could also be the way he was raised by his father. history repeats itsself and this could be the way her father was raised.
2007-03-01 08:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋