tell him everything. When meeting someone do you tell them all your no no's to that person or do you take it to your grave. Isnt honesty what keeps the relationship strong?
2007-03-01 07:52:15 · 20 answers · asked by D'oh! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say you don't just come out and tell him everything that's wrong with you. Slowly as your relationship progresses these things will naturally come out. You don't want to hide or lie about your problems but you don't want to just come out and dump them all on the guy during the first or second date. Honesty is important but like they say, you only get one first impression.
2007-03-01 07:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by lakee_4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy, like the old addage goes, it is the truth. BUT! you dont have to go and tell all your dirty laundry on the first few dates or you're gonna end up scaring that person away from you. Remember, they have skeletons in their closet too. It takes a while to get to know someone , and as a person dates the other, slowly let one or two small things out at a time so the person can get to know you. Save all the heavy things for when the two of you know and love each other, then, it will be no big deal. Definitely dont keep your past life before meeting a total secret, the person will suspect you actually have things to hide that would hurt them.
2007-03-01 07:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is what keeps a relationship strong, but to say "Hi, my name is Seylena. My likes are 1, 2, 3 and 4. However, my dislikes are 5, 6, 7, 8 and so on" is a bit dysfunctional. Whoever you say that to will say "Crazy, run away."
If a person does the things you hate, chances are you won't get them to stop. Learn to deal or move on.
2007-03-01 07:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him all your no No's when you first meet them. Let them get to know the real you meaning what kind of person you are. As you get closer then you can start revealing things about your self. The guy I am with now, he tells me things now that he has done in his past that really bothers me. If he told me when I first met him he would not have lasted more than a couple dates. Now we are engaged and I love him very much. I know who he is and i know why I love him. I know everyone does stupid things they regret but that does not make them a bad person. He is a truly wonderful person and yes we are very honest with one another but we are both mature enough to except each others past and move on with the future. Also because he tells me everything I feel like I can trust him more. I don't see him lying to me. He is very honest and so am I. Its all about timing.
2007-03-01 08:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Me! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in honesty in being the best policy but if you are just meeting you don't have to spill the whole can of beans. Let him know some of the things that you feel he should know like for instance if you are saving yourself sexually for marriage, if you want or do not want children, what your favorite food/drink is, what you do for a living, and some of your interests or hobbies, I'd keep the whole family and siblings and all that for the second date or until you feel it is going somewhere no need to bring in the whole family thing if he is a loser.
2007-03-01 07:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah honesty is a big part of your relationship...if you lie or keep something from your special someone then it will keep eating at you...its better to get it all out in the open!
2007-03-01 07:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by ~Billie~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't over whelm him at once but tell him the things you know he will understand. later when you are serious in a relationship and if you really trust him, tell him everything.
yes honesty and communication keep a relationship strong.
2007-03-01 07:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say what is necessary. Dont bare your soul unless you are asked a direct question. Honesty is good. Be honest, but use discretion.
2007-03-01 07:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your no no's and your guy. I guess there's nothing I haven't told at least somebody. But in the end, and Im not religious, to thy own self be true. That means if u can't live with it, get it out somehow.
2007-03-01 07:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it has something to do with your past BEFORE them... then keep it to your self... but be honest about everything from the moment that you start your relationship...
2007-03-01 07:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋