I'm at the end of my tether with everything and dont know what to do?

Question

my oldest daughter is in a psyciactric hospital with paranoid schzophrenia and now my youngest daughter is going through some sort of psycosis,Ive had to take her youngest son because I fear that she is going to harm him,and the psiciatrist has put her on anti psycotic medication and also said that he has to inform social services,that now leaves me with no option but to give up my job,I just dont know who to turn to anymore.

Answer 1

You poor thing! It was hard enough already watching what your two daughters are going through, but then to have another child to raise, grandson or not, you are really going through the test of steel. Bless your heart! But there is still light at the end of this tunnel. The doctor has to tell DSS and that will be great for you. You don't have to quit your job. Let the social worker know that you will need help with child care and they will pay for him to attend day care. I know they will cover at least part of the cost. You will probably get some other assistance from them while you have your daughter's child or children in your care, based on the amount of your income. So all is not lost as long as you have the stamina to deal with all this stress in a positive way. If not, then you will make yourself sick too. Pray hard for strength, not patience. Get the assistance from DSS that you need. Remember to breathe and take some time for yourself. And when this is all over, you can wipe away the sweat and know it's really over! Don't hesitate to ask for help with whatever you need when DSS gets involved. That's one of the things the social worker is trained to do. Hang in there! It is gonna be all right! Just remember to not get stressed out. Keep breathing! This too shall pass!

Answer 2

I'm not sure why you'll have to quit your job other than to take care of the child. If that's the case ask around, I'm sure there are some people willing to take care of a child during the day for not a huge price. My grandmother used to do it for 50 a week. You may even be able to find someone willing to help out for free. For slightly older but not school age kids I would recommend a Head Start program. It's free and a fairly safe environment. I've heard some horror stories, but I went there as a kid and I loved it. If those aren't options you could become a baby sitter. You could get paid to watch your grandson while he has other kids to play with. Go to your local government agencies. The government has lots of programs to help take care of kids. Good luck and hang in there. I was raised by my grandmother and I love her more than anything.

Answer 3

Boy, you are in rough times. The Lord only gives us problems that he thinks we can handle, so you can get thru these. First, it sounds like your children's problems are hopefully solved or atleast the psychiatrist is trying to solve the problems. As to the child. Did the mother willingly give the child to you? Does she visit the child? Beat the psychiatrist to the punch and go to social services and see what they can do for the child? Can you become the childs temporary foster care (they usually take family first), will you have to quit your job or is there something they can suggest? My daughter is a social worker and a wealth of resources if you are nice to her instead of mean.

Answer 4

Turn towards your social worker, they can do lots to help you. I know people put them down at every opportunity, but the good ones put you in touch with all sorts of help if you ask them. Most caseworkers are overworked and they may not think to offer help if they think you are doing OK, but let them know what you need and what you are afraid of, and you will be surprised at the range of things they can help you with.

Answer 5

Turn to the one person that can help you...GOD.
Find strength in the Lord and know that he would not put you through anything that you cannot handle.
"If he brings you to it, he will bring you through it"