we have had our cat put to sleep and we are all very upset !?

Question

my children are taking it very hard . any advice from anyone who has been through this ?

we used to have 3 ! but now we are down to 1 ! our first out of the three got killed !

our children are 6 and 4 > our jet (the cat) was 11

what does amy one think of gary t [e-mail] WHAT A K**B H**D , S**T H***E ,W****R,T****R ,LOSER HOPE U GET CANCER U T**T !!!

GARY T ALLOW EMAILS U TOSSER ON YOUR PROFILE PAGE OR ARE U A GOB SHITE !!

Answer 1

Anyone who has lost a beloved pet can sympathize with you. Check out this website:

www.petloss.com

There are some links and info that will help you.

Answer 2

You don't say how old your children are. It's nice, (if I can call it nice) that your children are grieving for a family member. Most children don't care and just ask when they're getting another one.
You must be proud of them.

It's hard for everyone when a beloved pet leaves us. Tell your children that animals never belong to us, but borrowed to us by God for us to love them until he needs them back. I'm sure plenty of people have told you that you'll soon get over your loss but that's not true, but you will learn to live with it. People will also say that it was only a cat( I hate those words!!!). It may have been only a cat but it was your cat and part of your family, it's only natural to grieve.

Try giving your children (and yourself) BACH RESCUE REMEDY. You will get it from some supermarkets, boots and Holland & barretts. If you go on the BACH website it'l tell you all about it. It's completely natural plant extracts and it's for all kinds of stress and upsets. It is safe for children but if your unsure you can e-mail them. I enquired about it for my dog as he was howling for my other dog that had passed away. It helped him and me a lot.

It's amazing stuff as you only need a few drops in a glass of water. It won't stop the pain but it'l help you all cope.

Replacing a lost animal isn't always the right answer. Only you and your family will know when the time is right. It maybe a few weeks or even a few years. Your cat will always be in your hearts.
God bless you all.

P.S. I've just read what Gary T has written. Why has he had to say that. I believe that if you haven't got anything nice to say then you shouldn't say anything at all. I wouldn't even waste my time e-mailing him or letting him upset me as he thinks grief is funny. Best to ignore foolish people like him they thrive on attention.

Answer 3

Hey, don't get angry with the many Yahoo creeps, after all nasty retards will always be around. That Gary is probably some lonely sad freak who likes to take it out on small, defenceless things because everyone hates his guts, and we all know why! All psychos are like that, next you will hear of him stabbing someone or grabbing some kid.

Unfortunately there is nothing else to do but grieve for your beloved kitty Jet, replacing the cat would definitely upset your kids more, they would think you didn't care for him.

Try remembering all the great things Jet used to do and why you all loved him so much. But for the moment, just tears will do the job.

Good luck and R.I.P. Jet, I bet you were lots of fun

Answer 4

When I had my dog put to sleep almost 2 years ago, I knew I did the right thing. When I think back, I’m so glad I spared her any further suffering. A death is never, never easy, but knowing you spared your cat the pain of a slow death should give comfort to you all, not cause you distress.

Many people might say, “just get a new cat,” but I don’t recommend you do that right away. It does not take away the pain, and it is not healthy to cut grieving short like that. You need to take time to work through it properly. I needed to wait over a year and a half before I could even think about getting a new dog. If you get a new animal before you are ready, the new animal will not get the love it deserves. I’m not telling you to never get another animal. I never thought I could give my love to another dog, but I’ve had my new dog for 3 months and she is already very special to me. When your whole family is ready, and you are emotionally prepared to share your life with another cat, then go for it.

Really, all you need is time. There is no quick fix for grief. Time won’t heal the wound, but it will make it less painful. It can also help to do something special in your cat’s memory. I took all of the photos I had of my dog and put them together in a big frame in a collage (I didn‘t cut them, though). I did this with my mom and younger sister, who also loved her. We talked about the occasions the pictures were taken on, and generally just remembered the good times with her and all of her quirks that made us smile. I put her leash, ashes, and other items together on a shelf just for her and hung the frame nearby. Whenever I am in the room with these, I feel like I have a little part of her with me. Now, when I think of her, I feel happy, not sad. Maybe do an activity like this, or one of your own choosing, together with your family.

Answer 5

Hiya, I feel soooo sorry for you and your family, i had to have my cat put to sleep last August and i still think of him and miss him. He had cancer and even though he pulled through his operation against all odd's , 10 weeks later he had gone from us. Try and remember the happy times with him, if you have a garden make a little remembrance patch for him, or buy an ornament that reminds you of him, your children will most probably get over it quicker than you will, but at the moment it is still raw with them. I think you said you had another cat! would your other cat accept a new kitten, or just lavish love on him. By the way my cat's ashes are on my windowsill in a beautiful box. Oh and i hope that Gary's proud of himself CRANK>>> obvious he's never known love. Good Luck to you and your family

Answer 6

You can't really find a true replacement. They may look alike, but their personalities are totally different. I would go to the local shelter. Take the children along and pick out a new kitty. Of the five we have had over the last 25+ years, 3 came from the pound...true pound purries. They need homes most of all because they were lost or abandoned. You can give them a second chance at life and sometimes just knowing that speeds the healing. Best wishes.

Answer 7

There is no easy answer, it is very hard for adults or children to deal with the loss of a pet. You just have to let them grieve in their own way don't immediately go out and get another one that does not always work sometimes children resent the new one as trying to replace the beloved one they lost. If you do plan on getting a new pet work around the children's feelings, you will be able to tell when they are ready

Answer 8

Just reading everyone's stories is making me want to cry! But it just goes to show everyone does get over losing a beloved pet and everyone can share how they feel. Your kids will move on but they'll never forget their cat just the same as you. I wouldn't recommend getting a new cat straight away as it wouldn't be a replacement. When I was growing up, we had 2 cats who were put to sleep when one was 18 and one was 20. I had grown up with them and loved them soooo much and was absolutely devastated when they had to be put down. I know my mum did the right thing and looking back I feel really sorry for her having to take them to the vets on her own as I wouldn't be able to do it on my own now.
Your kids sound like lovely children who are very sensitive and this can only be a good thing as it shows they care about others. I would be worried if they didn't seem bothered.
I know its a clique, but time is a great healer and they will eventually remember all the good times.
Hope this helps, good luck

Answer 9

When i was 14 we had a cat that had to be put down. I was devastated. I grew up with her she was there before i was born. I always remember sitting in the front room with her before my parents took her to the vet stroking her and sobbing my heart out. I really really do feel for all of you. There are no words to ease your pain and i would love to ease it for you. The only thing i can suggest in which im sure you are doing is to comfort your children in the best way possible and reassure them that she is in a good place now out of pain and misery and she will be looking down on you all thanking you for all the great years you had together. Im so sorry for your lose. Loosing an animal is like loosing a human relative. Some people will disagree with this but i and yourself know different. Take care all of you and i will be thinking of you.. Godd Bless xxxx

Answer 10

I am soooo sorry for your oss. And yes, losing a pet is especialy hard for kids - I know, I was a kid once who lost a beloved cat (cried for week). What to do? How to help? Tell your kids about kitty heaven and how kitty is waiting for all of you right by the rainbow bridge.

There is a beautiful garden at the base of the rainbow bridge which leads up to heaven. In that Garden, our beloved pets wait for us to show up. There they are young again and since there is always sunshine all they doo is play and have fun. There is no time up there... so it does not matter whether they are there a long time or short time in earth years. There, it is always "Today." They never get bored becuase there are lots of other kittens and puppies and butterflies and birds and reay reay beautiful trees and flowers that SING whenever they pass by. Nothing is dead there - even the rocks are alive although they don't move.

One day, when it is time for us to go there too... we will find ourselves in that garden by the Rainbow Bridge. It is then that we will be greeted by exuberant "meows" or "woof-woof" - these are ou beloved pets, waiting for us to cross with them over the rainbow bridge to live inour REAL FOREVER home.

That's what I told my 6 yr old and 8 yr old grandsons when they were upset and tearful over the death of our neighbor's cat.

Answer 11

This is a very hard time you are going through - it is losing a member of your family and you have to go through the grieving process. This will take time - on no account go rushing out straight away to replace your lovely cat - you can't! Just like people, our pets are different, so getting another will not replace them, it will be an entirely new personality. You haven't said how old your children are and if they understand death at all? Explain how poorly their pet was, and in such a lot of pain, then try to explain to them their pet is now free from suffering. A lot will depend on your beliefs as well - you will instinctively know how to sugar-coat the pill. When the time is right to bring another cat into your home, you will know - you won't be getting another cat to replace the missing member of your family, you will suddenly decide you need another cat to complete it. It is very hard to get over the loss of a loved family member - remember them with joy and thanks and welcome another into your midst. xxx